Why I Like Butt Sex
By Lance on Feb 24, 2010 in Featured, Sex
Spurred by Honey’s comment about anal sex on our guest post, Spanking for Beginners, I thought I would try to address why I like it. I’ve done a ton of thinking on the topic of pooper sex and why it’s such a big deal and why it works and doesn’t work for some people. I’ve debated with multiple (female) rump virgins on the topic, always unsuccessfully, but it’s worth giving it a shot.
Firstly, let me say this. I nailed a girl in the pooper for the first time about two years ago, and prior to that I had thought about and fantasized about it, but never seriously tried it with a chick. Every single girlfriend I had been with up until that point said they wouldn’t do it, so I didn’t bother trying. Prior to doing it for the first time, I definitely went through stretches, especially early on in my sexual career, where I thought it was lame, ridiculous, disgusting, and possibly even disrespectful to women. Rationally, the act is those things. I wanted to try it, but my rational mind easily blocked it.
The second thing I will say is that pooper sex doesn’t feel that great for the guy, either. Some guys may disagree with me here, but it’s no substitute for how a good old-fashioned pussy feels. I’m talking about the physical sensation only. At the risk of getting too graphic, the texture is kinda weird and the tightness doesn’t make that much of a difference. So let’s just get that out in the open.
So why then do it?
The first girl I nailed in the bee-hind was a girl I picked up at bar and had a one-night stand with. We were both drunk as hell and we were both super aggressive and freaky about what we wanted. Simply put, she wanted to be fucked silly and I was ready to unleash my inner beast. We were perfectly in the zone together on the sex. I got crazy dominant and aggressive with her and in addition to tying her up, spanking her, and roughing her up a bit in a loving way, I also stuck it in her butt. I didn’t ask or discuss it with her, although I did warm her up with my fingers. It didn’t physically feel great for either of us…in fact, she found it painful. But we both loved it.
The reason is this. Anal sex is one of the most dominant acts a person can do, so if you’re in the D/s zone and living out that fantasy type, it makes perfect sense. You’re right on the edge of “violating” that person, and that knife’s edge risk is a crazy turn-on for two people who have bought into that fantasy. The high you get from being in the D/s fantasy is absolutely incredible, like nothing I’ve felt with anything else, and doing it anal is one of the most effective tools in the toolbox. It is freakin’ intense.
Similarly, spanking, hair pulling, light (and loving) chokes, bondage, and dirty talk are all tools to get you in that zone. I think that anal is one of the more effective tools, roughly equivalent to me giving her the money shot in the mouth after I’ve railed her for a bit.
My last girlfriend, Megan, had never done it anal before until we got drunk one night and I nailed her in the rump. She hated it, at first. It was painful. But she asked me to do it again and again because she loved being absolutely dominated by me and she started falling into this fantasy where I was “punishing” her for being a “bad girl.” I picked up on that quickly and extended the fantasy through dirty talk. Eventually, she asked for it at every single session and it got to the point where I was a little weirded out by it. But that was her fantasy and I was happy to oblige.
Just to take it a few steps further, I think all sex is like this. Everything I’m doing is meant to move towards getting us deeply into the zone, where I’m the big “D” and she’s the little “s” in D/s. Only a fraction of sex is about the physical sensations…those are great, but what I’m looking for is the emotional/psychological intensity. The more intense it is, the greater the release and the greater the fulfillment. Let me repeat that: The sensations are NOTHING compared to the mental component.
Rationally, anal sex makes no sense. Emotionally and psychologically, it can be awesome if both people are looking for that fantasy.
What are your anal sex experiences, thoughts, and opinions? Who here likes it?
