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When I Act Dumb Chicks Want To Sleep With Me More

I picked up this mediocre looking chick at a bar recently (pic on the left is NOT her). I haven’t done bar pickups in months because I have a new girlfriend, but I was with my wing Lilly and we both needed the practice so there we were.

My opening line to the set: “You two look interesting.” Easy hook from there. I had a phone number and an invite to tour her facility (she works in an art space) within 15 minutes.

I have since met up with this chick, who I’ll call Anna, three times since the PU. The first time we had lunch and that was super duper boring. She talked a mile-a-minute and I couldn’t get a word in edge-wise, which combined with the setting meant I couldn’t generate any attraction. I dipped out of lunch quickly and figured I’d never see the chick again.

The second time I engineered a meetup that same night at a bar. She left her dinner party from across town and met me. We shot pool, danced a little, and had a pretty good time. Minimal talking. We made out at the bar and I took her to my house. We made out on my couch for about an hour. She was a lousy kisser. Because of this, I opted not to push for the lay and I sent her packing at 4:00 am. Plus, she talked too much.

The third time I met her downtown for drinks on her insistence…she had been texting me all day. I bounced us to several locations and ended the night at my favorite shitty, super-crowded bar. I like taking chicks to this bar because it’s wall-to-wall people, the sex energy is amped up, and it’s conducive to getting close and touching. You basically have to yell in someone’s ear to be heard. We had our hands on each other the whole time. I grabbed her ass like fifty times, which was aight.

Up until this point all of our conversations were lame and one-sided, with her doing most of the talking. This is really bad chick game, because she wasn’t engaging me in the convo and also not allowing me to contribute to the flow. In fact, it was so bad that when I did tell a story it interrupted the rhythm and felt like a trainwreck. Ladies, balanced convo is key, and let the guy lead the flow on the first couple of dates. If he can’t lead the flow, he’s not alpha.

Well, at the shitty bar the conversation got a lot better and we talked about relationships, sex, attraction, and game (in a meta sort of way). I amped up her buying temp massively and now she wants to sleep with me, which I’m on the fence about.

One thing we talked about was this. And keep in mind we were both drinking at the time. I said that when I act a little dumb, chicks want to sleep with me more. So, sometimes I act dumb on purpose, or perhaps more accurately, I act simple, and it creates attraction. She thought that was interesting and she admitted that she acted dumb sometimes because she knew that guys would want to fuck her more if she did.

What do you think? Does being dumb make us more fuckable? If this is true, why?

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    I can’t think of a time where I played dumb on purpose on a date, though I am sure I was drunk plenty of times which amounts to the same thing :-) And I got laid after a lot of those dates, so maybe.

    Whenever I’m in a situation where I have to interact with a stranger for an extended period (think hairstylists, dental hygenists, my massage therapist, etc.) I pretend that I’ve never heard of some of the things they talk about or as if I am wowed by the advice they give, even if I know a lot more about the topic than they do. I do think it makes people like me more.

    For anything where I have to interact with someone for more than an hour, though, I don’t have a good time unless they’re pretty smart. And I probably couldn’t pretend that I’m not smart for more than an hour :-)
    .-= Honey´s last blog …When I Act Dumb Chicks Want To Sleep With Me More =-.

  • http://themodernsavage.com/ Matt Savage

    I have this new theory that if a girl meets a good looking guy BUT he doesn’t have all the necessary traits of being a long term mate (such as intelligence); then the girl will be more open to quick hook-ups, casual sex and one night stands. The reason for this is because you aren’t on her list for long-term potential, so she is free to slut it up without any repercussions to a potential long-term relationship. Basically, you get pumped and dumped.
    .-= Matt Savage´s last blog …Preferred Signs of Attraction in Men and Women =-.

  • http://www.mysecrethobby.blogspot.com Kiera

    I only act dumb when I want free drinks or smokes in a bar. I can’t keep it up for long though. Sometimes they stick around once I smarten up but most of the time they cut and run.

    I would never pick up a stupid man. Unless he was drop dead gorgeous and filthy rich. That’d be fun on the short-term.
    .-= Kiera´s last blog …Touch Yourself This Thrilling Tuesday #8 =-.

  • Nicole

    Wait, so are you cheating on your gf?

  • http://dadshouseblog.com dadshouse

    The women I meet in Silicon Valley say the opposite – a guy with brains is a turn-on to them. Of course, they still want us to shut up and listen while they talk a mile a minute, but there’s usually some balance to the convo.

    btw – that photo looks like three women were photoshopped into one. Disturbing!

    Love the energy of this post. I miss reading your pickups. This makes me want to go hit a bar tonight!
    .-= dadshouse´s last blog …Online Dating Search Criteria – A Contradiction =-.

  • Mr. Right

    Yo, what did you decide about that two paths post you made a while back? The one where you had to choose between having as much sex as possible vs the long term relationship thing?

  • Mr. Big

    Got a clue for ya, buddy: You’re not acting!

    You’re not a bright guy.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Yer mom isn’t bright.

  • http://missalphawrites.blogspot.com Miss Alpha

    When you say dumb, do you mean stupid or mute? Because when a man does not speak, it gives a woman’s mind free reign to imagine who you are, which can make you incredibly desirable…

  • http://katwilder.com/ Kat Wilder

    Whether you’re a man or a woman, it makes no difference — if someone finds you hot, he or she will sleep with you.

    That’s just a no-brainer.

    Doesn’t mean there’s a relationship there or even dating. Just sex. Women are just as capable of doing that as men.

    As for acting dumb, I just can’t see that as a turn-on. Nor can I see arrogance. But if someone acts vulnerable (is that what you really mean, Lance?) then, you bet — gals are all over that!
    .-= Kat Wilder´s last blog …Someone to watch over me =-.

  • rj

    It’s about catering to another’s ego, not about playing “dumb”.

    I remember reading, “how to win friends” where there is a story of a brilliant botanist. He just asked the right questions and seemed interested and the botanist said at the end, “You are the most amazing conversationalist I have ever met!”

    Carnegie didn’t play dumb. He catered to the the other’s ego.

    If you learn to do this genuinely and intelligently, you can have almost anyone you want.

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