Sometimes, just when everything is going more smoothly than ever, you begin to feel vaguely dissatisfied with your life…not unhappy. Maybe just bored. Now that the BF and I have moved across town and we’ve settled into a routine, I think he has started to feel that way somewhat (he, like most of us, goes through these phases periodically – they don’t seem to always have such a specific trigger).
We were walking the dog and he said that while he anticipated that we would look back on these days as among the best of our lives, he was craving something exciting and different – something to shake up the regular routine.
I pointed out that we went to the Desert Botanical Gardens (something I don’t think he’s ever done before despite the fact that he grew up here), that tonight we’re going to see Stomp, that next week we’re going to a new restaurant, House of Tricks, for our three-year anniversary dinner, that in two weeks we’re going to Vegas with another couple that we’re friends with but hardly ever see because they live on the east coast.
He conceded that he needed to pay attention to the things we do to shake it up rather than concentrating on the days that we hang out at our house after work and watch TV (he’s also saving to pay cash for a car this summer, as his has been having some significant problems lately, and he always has some sort of emotional rebellion when he’s trying to save money because it obviously puts a crimp in our style).
Then I pointed out that I had not only initiated, but also planned and paid for all of the events listed above (though he did pay me back, I did the initial cash outlay). I said, “If you’re sitting at work, bored and cranky because we never do anything different, you can’t expect me to read your mind from across town and pick all the interesting things that you might be interested in doing. Buy movie tickets and e-mail me the time and place. Text me and tell me to meet you at a new bar/restaurant that evening. Plan a weekend trip in the area, or at least get us a hotel room somewhere cute in town for a change of scene.”
He was promptly embarrassed that he’d been putting it on me to initiate and plan everything we’ve been doing lately. So now I’m excited…wondering what he has in store to surprise me with.
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