Are Flowers and Dinner OK for V-Day?


Should you go the conventional route and do flowers and dinner on Valentine’s Day? My take here is pretty simple…if you’re in a relationship and the things you normally do on Valentine’s Day are fun for you, then I say go for it. This includes flowers and dinner. If you’re just dating, then you might want to skip the bouquet of roses and try a simpler gift. There’s a lot of backlash in the pickup community against anything that would be considered conventional, but the reality is, if you’re in a long term relationship, then yes you’re going to do those things every once in awhile. Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays where you’re supposed to celebrate your significant other (or others, if you’re a real pimp).

But, since we’re talking about special occasion dates, why not do something out of the ordinary, have fun, and still maintain your pimp cred? Here are a few suggestions…

Mix it up on Valentine’s Day.

1. Go on vacation

I’m a big fan of mini-vacations on special occasions. If you’re on one of the coasts, go spend a couple of nights at the beach and enjoy the “romantic” setting. Prefer the big city? Spring for a couple of tickets to NYC or some other major city and soak in the awesomeness of a big town. Want some excitement? Go to Vegas for a couple of days. There are a million weekend getaways you can go on and you just need a tiny bit of creativity. If you want to really pump it up, make the arrangements but keep it a big secret until you get on the plane. This is a lot better than the same-old-same-old.

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2. Give sexy gifts

Giving sexy gifts (lingerie, massage stuff, sex toys) is a solid tradition on V-Day, and it’s one I actually like. Spice things up and guarantee a great sexual encounter for the after-hours. This is one of those situations where you could argue the gift benefits you more than her. On the flipside, you can give gifts that are totally cool and have nothing to do with the V-Day theme…one year I gave a girlfriend a timbuk2 bag in our school colors and it went over like gangbusters.

3. She should reciprocate

Valentine’s Day isn’t just about you taking her out. She should also reciprocate and get in on the action. You paid for dinner? Make her buy drinks or dessert afterwards. Just tell her straight up beforehand how it’s going to work and you shouldn’t have any problems. If you’re giving gifts, make sure there’s an exchanging of gifts going on.

4. Get active

If you’ve been in the LTR for a long time, dinner and flowers might be completely done. Ditch that, and instead do something active. Live near the slopes? Take the day off and go skiing. On the way home, hit a cool restaurant. If you don’t ski, go hit the dance club at night and shake your asses for a couple of hours. Much more fun than candles and dinner.

5. Go cheap

You’re still in college and don’t have a ton of money to spend. Hey, I feel that. As an alternative, cook a killer meal at the apartment and bust open a bottle of wine. You’re guaranteed to get props and you can probably get away with spending less than $30 in groceries. Afterwards, play some games, the kind where you get naked.


Valentine’s Day is one of those days where, even if you’re a pimp, you’re allowed to do the normal dating thing. Flowers and dinner are fine if you think she’ll get a kick out of it, but I recommend using some creativity and doing something unique.

  • Lilly

    I HATE going out for V-Day. It’s crowded, there’s a bunch of cheeseballs trying to impress their woman, or their first date. It makes me sick. Vacation, cook dinner at home, anything but the traditional. If you’re single, hit the clubs or bars, which I will be doing, to meet those girls who are not paired up.

  • Lance

    You’re a cheesehead. I’m going out too. Should be a banner night.

  • Lilly

    We’ll compare FRs. It’s Latin night where I live and you heard about what happened last time I was there…..