See here. Normally I like Lynn’s stuff, especially her Breakup Girl blog, but the inner-pimp in me hates the idea of a “rule” where guys have to pay if they do the asking. Fellas, stop buying dinners on first dates! Just don’t do it. Paying for dinners is approval seeking and that’s not what us playerz do.
My thought process is this. On a first date, you’re essentially meeting a stranger, especially true if you met the person online. If a stranger, guy or girl, walked up to you on the street and asked you to buy them dinner, would you do it? Hell no! It’s not your responsibility to feed hungry women, as attractive as they may be. And don’t talk to me about romance, chivalry, or being a cheapskate. That stuff is crap.
I’ll tell you something else. I tried doing the thing where I bought the first dinner (on date #1) and she agreed to buy dinner #2. Well, dinner #2 never freakin happened, for whatever reasons. This was happened to me twice this year and I’ve learned my lesson. There is very little honor or respect in dating, and someone’s “word” is pretty much worthless. Oh yeah, and there are the foodwhores who use guys just to get meals out of them. And women bitch that guys try to get sex too soon. Hah! At least I’m not swindling people out of meals and drinks!
Meeting for drinks on the first date is the best way to go. No pressure, little money, very easy to keep it dutch. Keep it simple and save the dinners for date #2 or date #3, preferably after you’ve hooked up. OR, just meet at the house and kill a bottle of wine together. If you want to get to know me, there’s no better way to do it than meeting at my place (or yours) and just sitting on a balcony and sipping wine. Eathan from idatewhite.com gave me that idea, and I want to give him big ups for that. See here.