Comments on: Top 5 Benefits of Monogamous Sex

By: srikant

srikant — Sun, 07 Mar 2010 04:41:59 +0000

i stumbled upon this article, and it amuses me how you americans are almost bordering on becoming sex maniacs. Sex is a small part of a relationship ,when u deeply love the other person the high u get by looking in her eyes, holding hands and being romantic and surprising in general is so emotionally fulfilling and u get an emotional orgasm many times,who cares about how many times u get physical orgasm. I view sex as a celebration of one another’s love. And it is just an accessory ,the main thing for me is the presence of my soulmate and the fact tat she completes me

By: Gurgle

Gurgle — Sun, 28 Dec 2008 23:15:15 +0000

First, it is *generally* reversible. You can’t count on it.

Secondly, you are looking at between $5-10K in medical expenses that are not covered by insurance if you decide on the reversal. Imagine that, plus finding out it was unsuccessful.

Also, there are plenty of cases of chronic pain produced by the procedure.

Finally, there can be serious psychological issues caused by being unable to reproduce. It is similar to, but not exactly like what women experience during menopause.

I’m just saying do some thorough research beforehand. The fellow who is going to go through with it also should be darn sure it is what he wants.

Take care.

By: Lance

Lance — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 18:24:26 +0000

All of them are good people. Mediocre in attractiveness. They settled and traded in good sex for family stability. Lance´s last blog post...Barack Obama Is Totally Jacked, And This Is A Good Thing

By: Lance

Lance — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 18:22:51 +0000

All of them are good people, but mediocre in attractiveness. They settled, and traded in passion for family stability. Lance´s last blog post...Barack Obama Is Totally Jacked, And This Is A Good Thing

By: Honey

Honey — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 17:45:09 +0000

That's sad. It sounds like they didn't date long enough before getting married, or they got married too young. Honey´s last blog post...Barack Obama Is Totally Jacked, And This Is A Good Thing

By: Lance

Lance — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 17:02:52 +0000

I agree def about sexual compatibility being of paramount importance. I do think sexual compatibility and regular relationship compatibility is exceedingly rare. My central argument, also, is that monogamy is an unnatural state for humans (particularly men), so combine all that and you have low probabilities for anyone having good sex deep into an LTR. As for my friends, communication is not the sex killer, IMO. They just not attracted to each other any more. Lance´s last blog post...Barack Obama Is Totally Jacked, And This Is A Good Thing

By: Honey

Honey — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 16:20:10 +0000

Everyone knows what you're talking about, but those are the couples who, IMO had zero interest in each other sexually in the first place. Anyone can have sex a bunch of times a day in the beginning of the relationship - that's why sexual compatibility and the amount of effort you're willing to put in are so important. I used to watch this (now cancelled) TV show with a marriage counselor and the vast majority of couples had the EXACT SAME COMPLAINTS about their love life. To me this says more that couples like the ones you mention have problems more due to poor communication than lack of a sex drive. Honey´s last blog post...Barack Obama Is Totally Jacked, And This Is A Good Thing

By: Honey

Honey — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 16:16:17 +0000

I can also see how someone who wasn't very experienced might say they prefer non-monogamous sex. You can make claims about number of partners (and even experience a limited type of variety that way). I prefer my variety in terms of locations, positions, and activities. Honey´s last blog post...Barack Obama Is Totally Jacked, And This Is A Good Thing

By: Lance

Lance — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 16:13:24 +0000

Glad to see this thread is being revisited. I think monogamous sex is great, as good or better than non-mono sex, but what can get tedious is LTR sex. Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about. Couples who have been married for years and have ZERO interest in each other sexually. I have like 5 friends who are like this, my age, who have been married between 4-7 years. The fact is, if you’re married or in an LTR for a long time, there is a high probability that the passion will wane.

By: Holly Hoffman

Holly Hoffman — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 16:01:00 +0000

My monogamous sex life was way more exciting than my non-monogamous. I’m simply not comfortable enough with someone who isn’t attached to me to be completely uninhibited, and too shy to ask for what I really want, unless I’m with someone who’s willing to grow & experiment with me sexually.

And only a guy who can’t bring his A game regularly would say monogamous sex is boring. That’s the thing about monogamous sex – you have a relationship, so if you suck pretty much all the time, she’ll know. So I can see why a guy who can’t perform would prefer non-monogamous sex.

Holly Hoffman´s last blog post…How I Found Our Voices