I’ve been on a flurry of dates recently and I’ve noticed three interesting things…
1. Interesting thing #1, or My Chodey Behavior: I’m aggressive and really fast during the initial stage of attraction (ie first date), which is great, but then I keep the pace too intense and it’s screwing me up for the next stages. Basically, I’m too fast for too long. I made an adjustment and varied up the pace. I had a second date with this tall, nerdy girl that I met at a pool party a couple of weeks ago. Instead of overwhelming her with my Lance-ness, I sat back and basically didn’t touch her all night. I let the conversation flow and eventually we talked about fun stuff, like sex. She ended up straddling my lap and making out with me and I didn’t do anything to make it happen other than sit there and look cool. So, that was a good adjustment.
I recommend varying the pacing and intensity during the early dating phases to keep things interesting. Let her be the aggressor for a bit. This is especially important if you’re interested in making her your girlfriend vs. an immediate lay.
Also, what’s the deal with tall chicks bagging on shorter guys? This nerdy chick is as tall as me and it. Doesn’t. Make. Any. Difference. Maybe it’s because I’m such a fucking sex machine badass? What do you think?
2. Interesting thing #2, or Don’t Talk About Dumb Stuff: Have you ever heard this advice: Don’t talk about marriage and having kids on a first date, and definitely don’t judge a person by their age or the age of their friends? I’ve seen that advice a lot. Well, this tall, nerdy girl talked about all three right off the bat and it was a huge turnoff. She even went so far as to bash me for being younger than her (by two years, big whoop) and that my friends being younger than her would be a huge problem. I literally got up and started heading for the door. She insisted I stay. Then I called her a craddle robber and made her admit that she thought the age difference was hot. Then I made her describe her masturbatory fantasies to me while we made out on the couch. It was great.
Advice: Work on attracting your partner in the early phases. Don’t talk about your strict requirements for age, marriage, having kids, etc or else they’ll run for the hills.
3. Interesting thing #3, or I Don’t Care About Sex: I don’t give two craps about getting laid on a first (or second) date. I kind of don’t care about getting laid at all. When did that happen? Sometime recently I fully realized an abundance mindset and now it doesn’t bug me to not get with a chick. If it happens it happens. If not, that’s fine too. This is making me appreciate her other qualities, and, to be quite honest, it’s making me appreciate my qualities. I also think it’s having the effect of making me more attractive.
I’m dating three chicks at the same time right now. It’s kind of weird, but cool. I’ll blog about that later.