The Weekly: Polyamory Edition

So I’ve been flirting with this 33-year-old hot MILF over IM and text lately. Things are going well and I think we’re gonna meet this weekend. I don’t know why, but I seem to have developed a fetish for older MILFy girls (she’s a few years older than me). Maybe because they’re more grounded, less self absorbed, not in a hurry to get married? This girl, Katie, also considers herself a high sex drive girl. She claims to need sex 6+ times per week or else she gets cranky (she’s currently single, so must be hating life) and she also claims to be a multiple-o girl. Like basically if you do anything to her, she’ll get off. We’ll see.

(Why hello, Mrs. Robinson.)

We had a brilliant IM conversation last week where the bulk of the convo was about sex. The topic came up very naturally and there was nothing skeezy or forced about it. I asked her if she knew about the d-spot, which she didn’t, but she described the a-spot and it sounded like exactly the same thing. We also talked about squirting and some other cool stuff, and I added more material to my knowledge base. She was pleasantly surprised that I was so open and frank about sex talk. Oh, she’s also a computer and gaming dork! How about that?!

Which leads me to this question: If a chick is happiest having sex 6 times per week (or more), and her man is happy “only” doing it 3-4 times per week, what happens to the chick? She stills needs at least two more sessions per week, and the guy won’t be up for it, at least once they get past the lusty honeymoon phase. He could grind through it, or she could suppress her sex drive, but it’s going to create conflict. I see this as a sexual compatibility problem and I don’t think compromise is a good idea.

Which leads me to the weekly.

I found this awesome website, tangomag.com, whose slogan is “smart talk about love.” The content is ostensibly for women, but all men could benefit from it. I read maybe 10 posts last night and they’re all packed with value. I would like to recommend the following.

Jenny Block’s Portrait of an Open Marriage. One of the best written relationship pieces I’ve found online to date. Her writing style is lovely. You’ll get an honest and moving look at an open marriage. There is no way you can read this and not have a reaction. Read some of the comments too, they cover the full spectrum. Set aside about 10 minutes for this longer article.

Also check out this response post from Anonymous Coward. Money quote:

“Allow me to reiterate, for those who missed it the first time: I *want* my woman to ‘sleep around.’ As a matter of fact, it would upset me if she were to *not* pursue physical pleasure, if it was offered, and she wanted it. If I thought that she had turned it down out of deference to me and my feelings of jealousy, or out of some sense of duty to me, I would be absolutely horrified.”

Check out Justin Richard’s excellent and grittier look at three open relationships in Sarasota, Florida. This one is called A missus, A mister, and her mistress.

If you’re considering an open relationship, be sure to read Dan Eldridge’s excellent do’s and dont’s post. He’s engaged to a chick that hooks up with other people.

Moving away from open relationships for a minute, be sure to read Marguerite Fields’ Modern Love essay winner, Want to be my Boyfriend? Please Define. Well written commentary on hookup culture.

Honey had two guest posts published recently, the first is vegan recipes on the Dad’s House blog, and the second is an article asking if pickup should go mainstream on the new Pickup Podcast blog. Be sure to check them out.

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Everyone have a durty durty weekend.