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Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009. You can contact Honey via email here or online here.

We’re Taking Pictures Of Ourselves Having Sex!

In my life, I’ve noticed that my “favorite foods” are sort of temporary.  There will be something that I absolutely crave and feel that I could eat at every meal (and almost do, for awhile) to the exclusion of almost anything else.  I will be absolutely convinced that I could eat it every day for the rest of my life and never get sick of it.  (Usually these items are from Trader Joe’s, for those of you lucky enough to have one in your town…yum…).

I have found that the BF and I also do this with our sex life (though I usually do get sick of the food at some point and never want to eat it again…that has never happened with sex!).  We will find something that we haven’t done in awhile, or haven’t done before, and it will become the centerpiece of our sex life for a month or two before we become obsessed with something else and “retire” our obsession (though we still obviously bring it out to play every once in a while).

Right now our obsession is taking photos of ourselves having sex.  We have two digital cameras, which is a must because then one is for home and the other for all other occasions where someone else might be holding your camera.  Our “home” camera stays by the bed and, whenever we start to get it on, one or the other of us will grab the camera and start snapping away.  There’s a tacit understanding that whenever one person aims the camera at a particular spot, we pause and hold as still as possible so as to get the best shot.

This new trend has several benefits: (1) we switch positions more than perhaps we otherwise would, in order to get a wide variety of shots, (2) there is a certain amount of teasing (and, therefore, sexual tension) during the moments we hold still, especially since the other person never knows it’s coming, and (3) the obvious masturbation fodder.  I was scrolling through the shots one day while he was downstairs and it turned out that one morning when I got up before he did, he’d woken up hard and taken a few shots just of that.  Heaven.

Other shots have included me going down on him (quite a few of these), him going down on me (just one so far, as I tend to get a little distracted), a bunch of actual sex shots, one of my lady parts freshly shaven and clean, one of my lady parts all sex-slippery and covered on cum (he pulled out and came right at the entrance to my vagina), as well as other assorted shots.  What a fun game!  We are still trying to figure out where to put the camera and take some video, since it does that, too.  Tough to say what the best angle would be, and we don’t want the camera doing any crazy Blair Witch-style cinematography.  Sex shouldn’t be scary!

We still haven’t quite figured out how the pictures will be stored to ensure each of our privacy if we ever break up.  Not that, with sex like this, that seems likely.

Have you ever done this?  What have your experiences been like?

Say cheese!

  • http://www.lovingforyourheart.blogspot.com Loving Annie

    Never done it, but it sounds like an outstanding idea eith someone you trust to keep that secret. What a great way to spice up something already delicious :)

    Loving Annies last blog post..More on Baggage Reclaim

  • http://20-forty.com/ lisaq

    No. But maybe at some point. You know, as soon as I’m in an actual relationship with someone I trust! 😉

    lisaqs last blog post..Mr. Unavailable & The Fallback Girl-Part 3

  • http://honeyandlance.com/contact Lance

    Awesome. Don’t let those accidentally get onto the Internet. Next on Honey and Lance: Honey’s sex pictures!!

  • http://www.idatewhite.com Eathan

    Of course! Taking pictures is hot! I can’t count how many pcitures I have… or even yet.. any/all of my ex’s have. just don’t take any pictures that you don’t want on the net. Now-a-days… they have a major chance of getting on there. I don’t mind if mine do.. but then again.. I’m not ashamed :)

  • http://thedateabledork.typepad.com The Dateable Dork

    Honey – Rock on!!! I’ve tried a few times to get guys to let me take pictures of us, but alas, they always chicken out. I guess you really need to be in a serious relationship to have that kind of trust. But that doesn’t stop me from taking pictures of myself! : )

    You should definitely move on to home video. How fun!!!

    The Dateable Dorks last blog post..Quick update

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    From what people’s comments are (and my own observations) it does seem to be an activity that tends to get reserved for “serious” relationships for the reasons that Lance and Eathan suggest.

    For example, when I was in college my roommate was a photography major and I used to pose nude for her all the time…we had a huge falling out and she used a bunch of my photos in a local art show. Now we are on semi-speaking terms again so I might ask her if she still can make any of those prints as a gift for the BF.

    A boyfriend I had as an undergrad took some photos of me…but he used a polaroid camera and didn’t have a scanner. I’m sure they’ve totally faded by now.

    I have another amateur photographer friend who took a bunch of nude/lingerie type photos of me and made me a book that interspersed those photos with my own original poetry. Those are in the BF’s nightstand, and I also have a CD with all the photos taken burned onto it. This friend is married and all the shoots were done with his wife there, and he’s very reliable as well. I’ve known them over 10 years.

    I’ve never found a nude photo of me on the ‘net, and it seems like it would be unlikely to be associated with your name even if they did end up on there, unless someone was trying to get revenge on you.

    Honeys last blog post..How to Spot a Fake Match.com Profile

  • http://www.theseductionbible.com Bobby Rio

    I’ve got a compromising video of an ex who completely screwed me over… and the internet means to release it… but I just feel that there is some kind of unwritten code that any sexual pics/videos that were taken are just forever off limits… even for revenge purposes.

    but im sure not all guys are as kind as me.

    Bobby Rios last blog post..The Veronica’s Jess Origliasso Naked

  • http://www.vcarded.com The Virgin

    Photos and videos are hot…it takes a very strong trust in a partner to do such things for the reasons listed.

    If I got a partner to agree to shoot a video along with me, I would likely make two copies = one for her, one for me. That way if things went sour and they thought about going public with that, they would stop and realize that the other partner could just as easily retaliate.

    Putting “revenge” videos up is very, very low…you see them all over YouPorn and the like. Even if things went south, that’s a betrayal of trust. I once saw some video where the girl’s face was completely exposed. Despite his face not showing up that often, the guy had the gull to block only his face out. Low.

  • http://dadshouseblog.com dadshouse

    I had a booty call partner want to do this – photos or even video of us going at it. I was freaked she’d leak it to the internet – but wait to do that until I was famous or something. I put the kabosh on photos with her.

    But if it’s a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship and you have total control of the pics – go for it!

    dadshouses last blog post..Relationship Compatibility

  • Danimal’s Wife

    One of the best things about taking sex pics is being able to go back and look at them years later.

    We first took them a long time ago and its’ fun and hot to look back. You’ll love that you did this even more as time passes.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Believe it or not, I’ve never done the picture thing. Gina requested it over the weekend but we got distracted and went straight to the donking.

    Danimal’s wife, I’ll have to ask Danimal about that next time I see him! You durty little girl.

    Lances last blog post..Weekend Beach Sextacular

  • http://www.ikeepdating.blogspot.com Missy

    I love taking pictures! It can be really hot! Naughty, Naughty, and HAWT! I sometimes just let the guy take the camera and get some views from behind “doggie” style. Especially after a nice money shot! If the guy has been really blessed in all the right places, I love to get a picture of my going down on him…looking up…with big porno eyeshadow and eyelashes!!

    Say CHEESE!

    Missys last blog post..My name is Missy and I am a Cougar…

  • http://www.used-tire.net Used Tires

    I have never done this, personally because I always fear of the worse, and what my happens if the pictures get caught in the wrong hands. I guess I am fearful of some things, hehe. But from what I read here, it sounds like a lot of fun! But I think I would also have thoughts in the back of my mind if the pictures are not in the wrong hands.

    Till then,


  • http://listener.tumblr.com Listener

    Wow. Now I’m really, REALLY regretting not asking you out in college even more than I did when I totally wussed out each time. That’s what I get for being shy, I suppose.

    Yes, shy. From the person who wrote the line “te zurraremos” in a presentation. (Turns out the proper line was “le azotaremos”. Learn something new every day.)
    .-= Listener´s last blog …"ng her masturbate and beg to be fucked (credit Sinn on this move). I also had her suck my weiner…" =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    Well, given that I don’t want children it probably wouldn’t have worked out…but it probably would have been fun while it lasted!

    Glad to see you here, Listener :-)
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Negotiation: Get What You Want By Giving =-.

  • http://1235426 Kelly

    OMG I LOVE taking pictures of me and boyfriend scott having sex. When he jacks me up doggie stile his friend snaps a few. I love the feel of him inside me so i want it all either on tape or as a photo. the other day me and him had the BEST SEX EVER. his friend came over and my boyfriend let him fuck me too so i had two penis’s inside me at once. i now live with both of them since my mom kicked me out of the house because every time she came home i was having sex with scott or another guy. We have the BEST FUCKING videos on youtube.Omg scott is here he just walked in the door…….


  • http://1235426 Kelly

    uh uh uh uh uh my boyfriend scott is fucking me right now Uuh uh uh uh ya ya thats right harder honey harder like you mean it UH UH UH UH UH UH CRAP your not using a fucking condom you ass hole i dont want to be pregnate but no no dont stop fuck me harder…………………..


    We are still having sex and i just finished giving him a rocking awsome blowjob uh uh got to go he is fucking me doggie stile!!!!!!!!!!

  • Hottie

    My boy friend is doing me rightnoe he has such a hard penis

  • Cutey66Smile

    WOW U guys are stupid as FUCK RETARDS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • http://miley.com unknown

    yea yesterday i had sex w/ a dude named varrick

  • Dean

    Hmm , looking for a local cab company, not sure how i got here, but…if sex is so good ..how can you type? peace and love to all…and a suggestion of therapy to some of them…you know who you are..

  • Reb

    Sex rocks

  • http://People Nicole

    That is so fucking hot