Hey everyone! I’ve been off in a little reflective mode lately, as I mentioned in my sort-of New Year’s Resolutions post that I was going to be taking stock of my life and making a conscious effort to do the things that make me happiest. The thinking part gummed up my blogging mojo for a bit, but I decided that it was time to report on my progress in some different areas. Continued
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Did everyone have a totally sweet Valentine’s Day? YAAAKKK. That was me tossing my cookies. I tried my best to break up with my girlfriend of six months right before V-Day and it almost worked…we broke up for three days after she pulled some sneaky stuff, and I was hoping it would last through the weekend so I could be spared the lameness of actual V-Day activities.
Unfortunately, my scheming didn’t work. We broke up and got back together late Friday the 13th. Smokin’ hot makeup sex ensued, and I was obligated to buy a gift and take her to dinner on Saturday, which is exactly what I did. Things have moved on from there. In case you’re keeping score, that’s FOUR pseudo breakups in the span of six months. Yes, I have a f’ed relationship. What, did you expect the perfect romance?
So as I implied in my comments to Lance’s blog regarding how he blew his Valentine’s Day opportunity, the BF and I made our plans together. Last year we went to his favorite sushi restaurant near our house, so this year it was up to me to pick the place. I chose Canal because I had gone there for a networking event for my sorority alum club. I remember getting really excited about the menu but all the ladies only ordered one glass of wine apiece and there were enough of them that I thought it would be awkward to order food. I’d been thinking of the place ever since, so I went ahead and made our reservations. The BF and I set a price limit on Valentine’s Day gifts ($30 apiece) and we were set. Continued
If, despite Lance’s good advice, you decide to spend Valentine’s day in, there’s a lot more you can do with your time than watch When Harry Met Sally or Sleepless in Seattle for the 500th time with a bottle of wine and a box of tissues. Here’s a list of three of my favorite relationship-oriented TV shows. This way you can pass judgment on people (always a good time) as well as learn something for your next relationship. Of course, I have to point out that if you add these to your TiVo list and GO OUT, then you can have some Valentines’ fun and have something to compare your experience with when you get home.
The Millionaire Matchmaker
Patti Stanger is a Jewish third-generation matchmaker who sets up successful millionaires with classy, marriage-minded ladies. The show is entirely worth it to watch her bluntly tell playboys with unrealistic priorities and gorgeous gold diggers exactly why they’re still single. The show airs Tuesday nights on Bravo, but there are reruns on all the time. I like to compare my analysis of the men and women to hers throughout the show. Her Bravo Website has, among other things, “Dating Commandments” for both men and women. Not all of these commandments apply to us mere mortals, as they are the rules of her club.
So I’m cruising through the grocery store with a work friend and we’re both waxing poetic about how we could care less about Valentine’s Day (we’re single). And we’re not just saying that, we actually feel perfectly good about ourselves and we’re looking forward to a V-Day without significant others. Seriously. Was it always this way? Nope. Why is it now? Good question.
I’ve had plenty of V-Day’s with girlfriends and a couple without them. The ones WITH girlfriends I did a lot of bitching because of the pressure to come up with a good date, spending the money, blah blah blah. I also enjoyed spending time with my gf and I usually enjoyed the date. Somewhere in the recesses of my pimping heart I like the pomp and circumstance of a romantic date. Don’t let that get around.
Should you go the conventional route and do flowers and dinner on Valentine’s Day? My take here is pretty simple…if you’re in a relationship and the things you normally do on Valentine’s Day are fun for you, then I say go for it. This includes flowers and dinner. If you’re just dating, then you might want to skip the bouquet of roses and try a simpler gift. There’s a lot of backlash in the pickup community against anything that would be considered conventional, but the reality is, if you’re in a long term relationship, then yes you’re going to do those things every once in awhile. Valentine’s Day is one of those holidays where you’re supposed to celebrate your significant other (or others, if you’re a real pimp).
But, since we’re talking about special occasion dates, why not do something out of the ordinary, have fun, and still maintain your pimp cred? Here are a few suggestions…