All Posts Tagged With: "routine"

After over 3.5 years, Jake and I still have an awesome sex life.  We don’t do it every day, but then again, we were long-distance so much of the first two years that was never the norm for us in any case.  I’d say that we average 3 times a week usually, with the odd week off due to one of us traveling, getting sick, or having a period (okay, only one of us has ever needed a week off for that, and fortunately, it doesn’t appear that I’ve ever dedicated an entire blog posting to one!).

Still, when you’ve been together for awhile, things do get a bit routine if you aren’t taking steps to avoid it.  Sometimes, though, you don’t even need to take the steps – it just resurges on its own.

In the past two weeks, Jake and I have had sex so many times I’ve lost count.  When my alarm clock goes off in the morning…when he gets home at night…several times a day on the weekend…let me just say that it’s AWESOME. Continued

Last time I checked in I mentioned how I met this cool girl at a 4th of July party. Well, we communicated over Facebook this week and set up a date for drinks this evening. Whoa!! That’s right, an actual first date with a perfectly normal girl that I met not in a bar, club, or crappy dating website. I was starting to think that wasn’t possible. Anyway, I’m pretty psyched because I think we’ll get along great and have a blast.

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Sometimes, just when everything is going more smoothly than ever, you begin to feel vaguely dissatisfied with your life…not unhappy.  Maybe just bored.  Now that the BF and I have moved across town and we’ve settled into a routine, I think he has started to feel that way somewhat (he, like most of us, goes through these phases periodically – they don’t seem to always have such a specific trigger).

We were walking the dog and he said that while he anticipated that we would look back on these days as among the best of our lives, he was craving something exciting and different – something to shake up the regular routine. Continued

I try to live my life by the idea that happiness is a decision you make, not something you wait to happen to you.  With that in mind, I’ve made all sorts of decisions that, apparently, are difficult for many people.  Moving across the country to get a PhD in something I’d basically never heard of.  Starting a relationship/sex blog.  Most recently, quitting my job as a teaching assistant at the U and moving to another city to live with my boyfriend–without even having a job.

My best friend often says that my ability to pursue the path I think is right for me regardless of whether it’s easy or not is one of the qualities she admires the most about me.  However, I have to admit that this move has been fucking tough. I could really relate when I read Holly Hoffman’s post on Introducing a New Person Into Your Life, but I couldn’t help but think–what about when you’re the new person?  Because although we’ve been together over two years, I haven’t been trying to incorporate my man into an existing routine.  I’ve completely changed everything about my life and have been trying to build a new routine–in some ways an easier thing, but in other ways much harder. Continued