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Revelations Part III: What’s Your Fighting Style?

This is Part III of a series.  You can read Part I here and Part II here.

Despite (or perhaps because) this is the revelation that I had first and feel is most important, it is the last (and hardest) to write.  I started off by calling the post “what I could do differently,” and then I tried to come up with a name that had something to do with compromise, but nothing was working and I just couldn’t get started.

Then I had a conversation with Jake this morning before leaving for work that cleared things up for me.  Despite not being especially philosophical, he is definitely a logical thinker because of his profession :-)   Here’s what I realized:

There’s a lot of focus out there on people’s so-called “love styles.”  In case you haven’t heard of this, you can read about it here, here, here, or here (For starters.  There are similar quizzes everywhere).  The styles are physical touch, quality time, gifts, words of affirmation, and acts of service.  However, each and every “love style” is more than that – it is also a preferred communication style, which means it’s also your fighting style. And it’s just as important to know how to communicate when your relationship is under stress as it is when everything’s great (maybe more so). Continued