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3 Relationship Mistakes That Royally Suck

Here are three gnarly relationship mistakes that I was involved with earlier this week. These sucked. In fact, they were so bad that Megan and I are now in this weird detente state where we’re not talking to each other and neither one wants to make a move to re-start communication. Relationships are a pain in the ass. Avoid these mistakes like the plague.

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Honey’s Marriage Makers

So, ever since Lance posted about his marriage makers, I’ve been thinking about mine, and I realized something strange.

In the same way that you always think that having kids, or getting old, or sick, or even winning the lottery is something that’s always going to happen to other people and not to you, I never thought that I would get married. I spent my whole dating life wanting to be serious with someone, but I never fantasized a wedding. I never imagined a dress, or a wedding location, or a honeymoon–it literally never occurred to me. I will admit to imagining a ring, but heck, that’s jewelry, not a relationship. And for those of you who are curious, here’s the only ring I have ever liked.

In any case, this is totally lame, but I spent the whole winter break with the BF, and it’s definitely the most time we’ve spent together (second place goes to a month in Europe–look for an entry about how international travel is the true test of compatibility). Now that school has begun again and I’m driving to and from Flagstaff, I realize how lucky I am that we are so compatible. However, this realization has made being away from him much harder. If I were not going to graduate in May then I would seriously consider leaving, or switching schools, or doing something so that I could be near him.

And then the other day I was alone in my Flagstaff (very cold because the heat was turned off while I was away!) apartment and watching the season finale of The Real Housewives of Orange County. To warn you all now, I’m sadly indiscriminate when it comes to tv–I love everything and will probably recommend it to you–but this was the season finale and one of the women was having her wedding. Suddenly it hit me.

I want to marry my BF. I want to make long-term plans, and strategize to solve our financial problems, and wake up next to him every day, and take care of our pets, and bicker over the TiVo, and everything. I would not be whole without him. For me, this was a completely different realization from knowing that I loved him, which happened after we had been dating only 4 months. Now it’s been about 2 years, and I seriously cannot imagine my life without this person. I definitely have friends and a life that I miss because I drive back and forth, and that life I am missing is something that is satisfying that I could return to if we broke up. However, one of the things that now invests my life with meaning is sharing it with him, and getting his input on my interactions, problems, and triumphs.

I haven’t told him this yet, and in part it’s because he told me after we’d been dating for 10 months that he knew after 7 months that he wanted to marry me. While I drunkenly blurted out that I loved him after 4, I now realize that wanting to marry someone is a completely different admission than saying that you love them. This is something that never even occurred to me prior to about two weeks ago, and I am still trying to fit this into my understanding of the world.

I know this is not a list, and I know that I have advocated making them to you, but this feeling

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is hard to quantify. I think if I had to narrow it down to one thing, it is this: my whole life I felt that I had to put on a bit of a show in order for someone to like me. There was always this nagging feeling that if a guy knew the real me, then he’d run screaming in the other direction. But after this long together, the BF knows the real me no matter how I’ve tried to hide it, and I can be myself. And he’s still here.

7 Thought Leaders in the Dating & Pickup Industry

If you’re into pickup like me, you’ll see lists of the top 10 pickup artists of the year floating around the various blogs. You can see two such lists here and here. These are usually pretty popular, and often times controversial.

This post isn’t one of those lists. I’m not interested in who is a pickup machine and who can get the most lays. I am interested in attraction and social artistry, though, and I try to keep up with the latest ideas coming out of the pickup/dating/relationships niche. There needs to be more information (and innovation) about how to socialize and be attractive, because most people are terrible at both of those things. It’s also been my experience that conventional wisdom, ie the stuff you read on mainstream sites, is way off the mark from what’s actually happening during real life interactions.

What I want to know is, who is coming up with fresh ideas about dating and relationships? Who’s changing the way we think about attraction? Who are the thought leaders and innovators out there in this crazy little niche?

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Man Gets Dumped For Being Excellent Boyfriend

Atlanta, GA – An Atlanta man was dumped on Monday for trying to build a strong emotional connection and having deep intimacy with his girlfriend. Dennis Dickerson, age 29, had been going steady with Roswell resident Amanda Knupfel for two years.

“It really took me by surprise,” said Dickerson, “I thought we had a really awesome relationship. I mean, we got along, we spent a lot of time together, and I wanted us to open up and become even closer than we were. I thought being even more vulnerable was the next step in our relationship.”

“Everything was going so well,” Dickerson continued, “I was thinking really long term, like, you know, maybe getting married.”

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Say Yes! To Friends With Benefits

I recently read an article arguing against friends with benefits, written by Simcha Whitehill at The Frisky. As everyone who reads H&L regularly knows, I’m pro FWB and pro fuck buddy, and I’m also con bad dating advice. Of course, her article is her opinion and if FWB’s don’t work for her, that’s cool too.

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Honey, Here’s How You Can Be A Better GF

So I found this fantastic video on videojug.com, a site that bills itself as the “definitive online encyclopaedia of life.” Well, of course they a have a dating/relating/sex section, and I perused several of the videos and they’re awesome! Some of the vids have a distinctly “British” feel to them, if you catch my drift…
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