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Today is three and a half years since Jake and I met.  Things are going great!  I don’t have much to add, so I am throwing in a recent e-mail exchange.  Enjoy!

A Game

Jake,

You made me so happy this morning when you said that I was the best thing in your life.  I try really hard for that to be the case (even though like I said in my card earlier this week I feel like I fail a lot).  [Note: I'd gotten him a card and a bottle of wine for being patient and covering some expenses for me until my freelance check came in.] I think you deserve good things and I think that relationships don’t just stay great – you have to try, even if you’ve been together for years. Continued

This is Part II of three.  You can read Part I here.

First of all, on a side note, Lance has demanded that the BF have a name.  Unfortunately, I told the BF he could name himself.  So, his name is Jake.  Honey and Jake…sigh.

Back on topic…much to my delight, this past weekend reaffirmed just how much Jake and I really do get along when he isn’t being taken to the emergency room or drinking himself into a stupor because of work stress.  The best part, however, was what he said on Friday when we were having drinks with his work friend, Dick. Continued

Indianapolis, IN – Dave Bonner, an Indianapolis native, broke up with his ex-girlfriend on Sunday, ending the quasi-non-relationship they had been sort of but not really engaged in. Bonner and his ex-girlfriend, Connie Bishop, had been broken up for three months and dated for a year-and-half prior to that. Bonner said their  non-relationship had threatened to grow into a full-on regular relationship at several points after the initial breakup but he had to finally end it.

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Dear Honey,

OK, so I just read your latest post and felt so unbelievably frustrated. Being the relationship & sex guru that you are, I thought you might be able to help me with this.

I went off my birth control about a month and a half ago. I was on the high-estrogen stuff and I felt like it was making me nuts, depressed, etc. So I went off, but my gyno wouldn’t give me a new ’script until I came in and I couldn’t come in until the Monday after next. So no birth control. Well, my boyfriend is like Mr. Super Sperm – the two times he’s had unprotected, non-birth control sex he sired kids. Yep, two illegitimate kids. Please, let’s not get into that part. Suffice it to say, I will *not* have unprotected, non-birth control sex. Rightly so. But if I even bring up condoms, he wilts. Literally. We’ve never successfully had condom-protected sex. It’s been a month since we’ve done it. I’m going nuts, and I honestly think it’s affecting our relationship, from my end of things. He’s fine with fooling around. I’m not. I need the good stuff, and it will be another 6 weeks before I get on the new birth control and am in the safe zone.

Help??

No Love Without a Glove, Massachusetts Continued

Since I’m a big proponent of casual and NSA sex, I hear all the time that with casual sex you can’t achieve intimacy. I hear this in person, via email, and when reading blog posts. This got me to thinking, what is intimacy, anyway? And, why do we want it?

BTW, just recently, two of my blogging friends published posts where they talk about intimacy, see here and here.

Let’s just jump right in. I’ll attempt to define intimacy and what it does for me, and I want to invite all of our readers to attempt their own definitions, too.

When I think of intimacy, I think of that squishy, cuddly area of a relationship when couples talk about Deep Life Things, share secrets, and generally get to know each other on a super personal level. An intimate level. Continued

Here it is, folks, the moment you’ve been waiting for: the winners of our first ever kickass contest! If you haven’t checked out all our awesome entries, you can check out everyone’s insights (or the links to their insights) in the comments section of this post. The question was

“How do you define successful relationships, and what does it take to achieve that success?”

We used strict criteria of total subjectivity and beating each other into submission over e-mail to agree on our two winners, and were especially thrilled because we had so many awesome entries to choose from. Way to make it tough for us, you guys! Continued