By Lance on Jan 31, 2009 in Field Report | comments(0)
I met this totally rad chick on Saturday night. Her name is Lisa, she’s from a small town in the panhandle of Florida and attended the University of West Florida (I rated her an 8). She was partying in Orlando with two girlfriends. Here’s why I thought she was remarkable. Lisa joined the Navy and is heading to bootcamp on Monday. I asked her why she joined the Navy and she said because she wanted to see the world and get out of her small town. Most of her friends were married or engaged and some even had kids. In fact, Lisa has a twin sister who is already divorced AND has a kid. Lisa is 22. None of her friends were rich or on the path to wealth. She knew that if she maintained the status quo her life could be the same.
(Yeah, that’s right, I threw up a pic of Brit hott Catherine Bell, aka Lt Colonel Sarah Mackenzie from JAG. She’s not even Navy, she’s Marine Corp, so sue me. )
I thought this was an incredible piece of self-realization for someone her age and in
her environment. I’ve met plenty of girls out on the scene where this was their reality: Small town, get married, have kids, settle down, age 22. Lisa figured out that she wanted more.
Lisa is gorgeous, so I imagine she must have had plenty of guys from that town trying to lock her down in relationships and get her knocked up. She identified a goal, made a plan, and took action. I found this very attractive, and it makes me rethink my earlier stance on ambition for women not being a significant attractor. Lisa is the coolest girl I’ve met in 2008 by a wide margin, and most of it was due to her intangibles, her self-realization and her ambitions.
I must admit, I wanted to give her a good patriotic bonking before she shipped out. It would be un-American not to feel this way.
Navy Gal, I wish you the best of luck and a safe journey. Don’t get knocked up before you see the world!
By Lance on Aug 6, 2008 in Dating | comments(15)
Okay, so let’s say you’re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places you can go to practice your social skills and find dates.
Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your social skill is to hit the bars and clubs and mix it up there. Make as many approaches as you can and bank the experience. You’re going to get blown out, but suck it up because it’s part of the learning process. With that being said, I can totally understand if the club environment is intimidating and discourages you from making approaches. Continued
By Lance on May 19, 2008 in Field Report | comments(6)
This is part 2 of my post on getting numbers and setting up dates. Read part 1 here. I’m going to present three of my interactions and describe why they worked or didn’t work.
Before I launch into it, I want to say a few words on Calibration. Calibration is your sense of how a person is going to react to the things you say and do. The more interactions you have and the more experience you accumulate, the better you’re calibrated and the better you can respond to the other person. Calibration is pretty much fundamental to game, and every social artist will tell you to do thousands of approaches until your calibration is finely tuned. For me, this is where pickup becomes an art form…human interactions go from being awkward, clunky communications to highly interesting (and fun) exchanges. In fact, I want to go a step further and say that an interaction can become transcendent when you have two people with great game communicating with each other.
By Lance on Feb 14, 2008 in Dating | comments(2)
So I’m cruising through the grocery store with a work friend and we’re both waxing poetic about how we could care less about Valentine’s Day (we’re single). And we’re not just saying that, we actually feel perfectly good about ourselves and we’re looking forward to a V-Day without significant others. Seriously. Was it always this way? Nope. Why is it now? Good question.
I’ve had plenty of V-Day’s with girlfriends and a couple without them. The ones WITH girlfriends I did a lot of bitching because of the pressure to come up with a good date, spending the money, blah blah blah. I also enjoyed spending time with my gf and I usually enjoyed the date. Somewhere in the recesses of my pimping heart I like the pomp and circumstance of a romantic date. Don’t let that get around.