By Honey on Jun 19, 2010 in Relationships | comments(19)
No, not me leaving the blog – the breakup when we were dating! Since I soon won’t be posting anymore, I thought that I’d tell you all the story from my perspective (I’d be pretty interested to hear Lance’s as well).
Lance told the story of the original pickup here, and for the most part it’s pretty accurate. The only mitigating factors worth mentioning:
- I was bored stiff on the date I was on. He was a guy in my yoga class that I’d been friendly with for over a year, and I always thought he was pretty boring. Turns out I was right.
- I don’t remember what Lance said when he walked up either, but I do remember that both my date and I were low on drinks and Lance bought me another beer and, like he said, didn’t say anything to my date at all. I thought it was pretty studly
- When he contacted me in the next day or so, he said that he thought my date was totally lame and that I could do better. I agreed, and he asked me out. Nice! Continued
By Honey on Mar 23, 2010 in Featured, Relationships | comments(11)
Well, things are looking up since my last post.
Jake has decided he has too much on his plate to do a real job search at the moment, so he’s calling that off. However, given what went down with his supervisor recently, he has decided to go balls-to-the-wall in terms of his working conditions at his current place. He thinks that there is a good chance that his strategy will pay off, in which case he’d be perfectly happy continuing to be there (it is not the amount of work he does that he objects to, it is a variety of aspects of the environment). If it doesn’t work out and they fire him, then obviously he will have plenty of time to do a big search. Either outcome would be better than the status quo. Continued
By Honey on Feb 11, 2010 in Relationships | comments(9)
Hey everyone! I’ve been off in a little reflective mode lately, as I mentioned in my sort-of New Year’s Resolutions post that I was going to be taking stock of my life and making a conscious effort to do the things that make me happiest. The thinking part gummed up my blogging mojo for a bit, but I decided that it was time to report on my progress in some different areas. Continued
By Honey on Dec 11, 2009 in Life | comments(5)
My job interview for the faculty position was Thursday, and while it’s very tough (for me, anyway) to gauge people’s reactions when I can’t see them, I can say that I dropped the names I wanted to drop, mentioned the aspects of my skills I wanted to mention, and we’ll see what happens! When I e-mailed my dissertation chair and told him about the interview, he immediately cleared space in his schedule so we could chat on the phone, nail down my talking points, and practice some questions, and it was definitely a big help.
They say they’ll get back to me in a week or two and let me know if I’m advancing on to the next round or not. I’m solid either way because 1) it was such an unbelievable coup to get interviewed at all that I’m riding high, and 2) if I don’t advance then it means that Jake is free to look for a job out of state in the new year. Either outcome is pretty awesome by me! Continued
By Honey on Oct 13, 2009 in Life | comments(5)
So, as I’ve mentioned several times, Jake is really unhappy in his job and would also like to move to another city, since he grew up here and isn’t so much a fan. I understand, as I moved to Arizona in large part to escape Florida, which I think is a humid, touristy pit of hurricanes, mosquitoes, and despair. He was going to wait until January and then start looking, since if he doesn’t include months on
his resume that’ll give him the appearance of three years. Continued
By Honey on Mar 20, 2009 in Featured, Relationships | comments(13)
Well, we’re finally in our new place (phew!). I have to say that while moving is unequivocally not fun, I think that this move has brought us closer in many ways, and I don’t just mean the fact that my commute went from an hour plus to about 10 or 15 minutes. I mean the BF and I are closer, and this is a very good thing.
Despite the fact that he obviously adores me, I have had lurking insecurities about this relationship from the beginning – not because of anything he’s done or hasn’t done, but because that’s just the way I am. Statistically, every single one of your relationships will fail except maybe one, and that is only if you are very lucky. Plus, there’s no way you can know in advance if that’s “the one,” so while you may believe it at certain points, all too often you are later proven wrong (this has certainly happened to me before). So even though everything has been going very well on the surface, it is extremely difficult for a Virgo like me to not keep waiting for the other shoe to drop. You know, for him to really get to know me and decide that, well, he doesn’t like me so much after all. Continued