All Posts Tagged With: "monogamy"

The Weekly: More Evidence Monogamy is Lame

Haven’t done one of these in awhile, but I found more evidence that monogamy is for the birds. The first is Monogamy unnatural for our sexy species, by psychologist and author Christopher Ryan.

Money quote:

Women’s pendulous breasts, impossible-to-ignore cries of sexual delight, or “female copulatory vocalization” to the clipboard-carrying crowd, and capacity for multiple orgasms also validate this story of prehistoric promiscuity.

Well duuh that’s like in every PUA manual out there, but nice that he pointed out that chicks are designed to be sex machines. On CNN.com. As you can imagine, there were some strongly worded comments following the post.

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Dirty Sex and Monogamy Is Lame, by Kiera (NSFW)

This is a guest post from Kiera, who blogs at My Secret Hobby. I’ve been reading Kiera for awhile now and I love her stuff. What does she blog about? SEX and more SEX. Raw and unfiltered. I totally love this chick, she gets more play than a bar full of PUA’s. Her tagline is real simple: “The pursuit of cock.” What more is there to say? Enjoy this erotic encounter and then head over to her blog for more goodness.

While I was writing this guest post for Lance I received an drunken offer at 2:30 in the morning to meet up with an old fling… specifically, the guy whose virginity I took about two years ago. I rarely see him in person since he moved so we keep in touch through chat and webcam. Our conversations are always explicit and we always throw out offers to meet up but it never works out.

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Defining Casual Sex

So recently in the comments on his blog, Hammer accused me of having something against casual sex, and this got me to thinking.  I mean, I’ve certainly had plenty of it.  I’ve never kept a list of previous partners because I think that’s creepy (like, psycho creepy, ewwwww), but suffice it to say we’re not talking single digits here (though not triple digits, either).  So why do his posts engender an almost physical reaction of disgust, depression, and pity in me?

Well I guess in order to try and figure that out, we’re going to have to define casual sex.  Continued

Happy New Year: Best Of Honey and Lance 2008

Well, after ruining Thanksgiving on purpose (by having my wisdom teeth removed) and then ruining Christmas by accident (by thinking that I could cure my UTI on my own only to have things go horribly, horribly wrong) my first goal for 2009 is to not be in any pain or on any unpleasant medications during any of the major holidays!  Keep your fingers crossed for me.

But other than those two extremely unfortunate events, 2008 was a very good year.  Lance and I have really enjoyed getting this site off the ground and becoming part of such a thoughtful, diverse community.  So let’s start off the new year by appreciating the old, shall we?  Without further ado, the best of Honey and Lance 2008!
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What Is Cheating, Anyway?

To add to the discussion about what’s great about monogamy versus some of the other systems out there, my interest was peaked when I came across this article called “Let’s Chat About Cheating.” Author Steve Penner not only references the Sex and the City movie and TV series (one of the most accurate commentaries on relationships EVER), he gives his perspective on AshleyMadison.com, a “dating” site for people who are…um, married, and interested in having an affair(s).  In fact, one of their slogans is, “Life is short.  Have an affair.”

(His life’ll be short all right, when his wife sees that collar…) Continued

Top 5 Benefits of Monogamous Sex

So, with all the talk going around about open relationships and “growing with your partner,” I feel like I have to come to the defense of good old monogamous sex.  I do admit that there’s something to the anticipation and sexual tension of a first time, and there’s obviously something to be said for variety.  However, aside from the obvious benefits of not having to use a condom, I think that monogamous sex has the potential to be far more exciting and fulfilling than sex with a bunch of different partners.  Here, Honey’s Top Five Benefits of Monogamous Sex. Continued