Things have been awesome at the Honey/Jake homestead lately. He is jobsearching in Phoenix, so his employment situation may change for the better (and, as anticipated, the mere act of looking has cheered him up immensely). I love my job, and my job loves me – I had my annual performance evaluation which went great, and I am getting a bunch of new equipment for my office. The ergonomic keyboard and footrest arrived today and I am getting a new keyboard tray in the next few weeks as well as a new computer and monitor. I was skeptical about the footrest but can already tell it’s going to be fantastic, although in the meantime it does highlight just how awful my current keyboard tray and mouse placement is. Continued
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Wow! Lance’s kinky sextacular has me all jealous. Though I haven’t been playing durty games in shady hotel rooms on the beach, things have gotten somewhat better since my last post. I’ve managed to sleep off the majority of my new-job exhaustion, and the BF has been really good about trying to get to bed at a reasonable hour even on the weekend. This Monday he even got up for work when I did, which has never happened before.
We’re still not having sex quite as much as I would like, but we are managing to get in some solid nooky in in the weekends (including more pool sex…that thing is like an aphrodisiac, I can’t believe that we haven’t been using it more in the last year we’ve been at this place). We managed to even work in a weekday last week, so I have high hopes that we’re on our way to getting a rhythm in place. Continued
Hey, everyone! Sorry I’ve been incommunicado for the last week or so. Life’s been crazy busy, as it all too often is. Here’s a little taste of what I’ve been up to.
Update on My Happiness
I’ve been doing a lot better as far as my personal independence since my Philosophy of Happiness post. I’ve gone out again with my sorority alum club and been to the gym almost every day. Also, in a recent conversation, the BF admitted that he’d been at fault, too. He’s really still in a lot of debt from grad school because his field doesn’t offer funding to grad students, and he also didn’t do a great job budgeting so there’s a credit card debt factor. As a result, he can’t afford to do a lot of the things he considers fun, and he admitted that he’s been taking out the frustration about the results of his poor financial planning on me. But I do have some news that is not only great for me, but which will also alleviate both our financial situations. Continued
In this post on his blog, Evan Marc Katz asked his readers to rank themselves in four categories: Looks, Personality, Intelligence, and Career. Both Lance and I couldn’t resist commenting, and Lance also blogged an excellent reaction here. It is pretty evident from the comments to his blog as well as the original article on the Freakonomics bulletin here that most people have a tendency to seriously overestimate themselves. EMK hypothesizes,
The good news is that having a combination of self-esteem and self-delusion seems to be exactly what allows us to function. How would we feel if we didn’t believe we’re above average in every single way?
Although that is insightful and seems at least partially true, I also can’t help but feel that there must be a little more to it. In a comment on Lance’s blog about whether you can teach an old dog new tricks, I mention something that I always told my students:
People are inherently lazy. Therefore, to convince them to take action, you must convince them not that your position is morally superior, but that they have more to lose by doing nothing than they do by taking action.
I try to live my life by the idea that happiness is a decision you make, not something you wait to happen to you. With that in mind, I’ve made all sorts of decisions that, apparently, are difficult for many people. Moving across the country to get a PhD in something I’d basically never heard of. Starting a relationship/sex blog. Most recently, quitting my job as a teaching assistant at the U and moving to another city to live with my boyfriend–without even having a job.
My best friend often says that my ability to pursue the path I think is right for me regardless of whether it’s easy or not is one of the qualities she admires the most about me. However, I have to admit that this move has been fucking tough. I could really relate when I read Holly Hoffman’s post on Introducing a New Person Into Your Life, but I couldn’t help but think–what about when you’re the new person? Because although we’ve been together over two years, I haven’t been trying to incorporate my man into an existing routine. I’ve completely changed everything about my life and have been trying to build a new routine–in some ways an easier thing, but in other ways much harder. Continued