By Honey on Jun 19, 2010 in Relationships | comments(19)
No, not me leaving the blog – the breakup when we were dating! Since I soon won’t be posting anymore, I thought that I’d tell you all the story from my perspective (I’d be pretty interested to hear Lance’s as well).
Lance told the story of the original pickup here, and for the most part it’s pretty accurate. The only mitigating factors worth mentioning:
- I was bored stiff on the date I was on. He was a guy in my yoga class that I’d been friendly with for over a year, and I always thought he was pretty boring. Turns out I was right.
- I don’t remember what Lance said when he walked up either, but I do remember that both my date and I were low on drinks and Lance bought me another beer and, like he said, didn’t say anything to my date at all. I thought it was pretty studly
- When he contacted me in the next day or so, he said that he thought my date was totally lame and that I could do better. I agreed, and he asked me out. Nice! Continued
By Lance on Jan 7, 2010 in Life | comments(21)
It’s taken me a few days to get to this, but here it is. Instead of making a bunch of resolutions I’m going to try to give my year two foci. These are areas of personal development that I’m driving forward. I think this is a more strategic way to handle my projects for the year and it’ll be more productive than making a bunch of vague resolutions. I got this from Steve Pavlina’s 2010 Focus post…be sure to spend a few minutes checking out what he said.
By Honey on Oct 12, 2009 in Featured, Relationships | comments(5)
So, apparently there has been a misunderstanding between Jake and I that I didn’t even know about – but that is now resolved. Here’s the story:
When I was an undergrad in Florida, I was in love with this fellow I worked with. Let’s call him Brent. Brent was an MA student in Literature, and to my eyes intelligent, funny, and good-looking. I had a raging crush on him, which didn’t seem to be reciprocated – which was fine since I was dating someone anyway. Continued
By Lance on Jan 31, 2009 in Field Report | comments(0)
I met this totally rad chick on Saturday night. Her name is Lisa, she’s from a small town in the panhandle of Florida and attended the University of West Florida (I rated her an 8). She was partying in Orlando with two girlfriends. Here’s why I thought she was remarkable. Lisa joined the Navy and is heading to bootcamp on Monday. I asked her why she joined the Navy and she said because she wanted to see the world and get out of her small town. Most of her friends were married or engaged and some even had kids. In fact, Lisa has a twin sister who is already divorced AND has a kid. Lisa is 22. None of her friends were rich or on the path to wealth. She knew that if she maintained the status quo her life could be the same.
(Yeah, that’s right, I threw up a pic of Brit hott Catherine Bell, aka Lt Colonel Sarah Mackenzie from JAG. She’s not even Navy, she’s Marine Corp, so sue me. )
I thought this was an incredible piece of self-realization for someone her age and in
her environment. I’ve met plenty of girls out on the scene where this was their reality: Small town, get married, have kids, settle down, age 22. Lisa figured out that she wanted more.
Lisa is gorgeous, so I imagine she must have had plenty of guys from that town trying to lock her down in relationships and get her knocked up. She identified a goal, made a plan, and took action. I found this very attractive, and it makes me rethink my earlier stance on ambition for women not being a significant attractor. Lisa is the coolest girl I’ve met in 2008 by a wide margin, and most of it was due to her intangibles, her self-realization and her ambitions.
I must admit, I wanted to give her a good patriotic bonking before she shipped out. It would be un-American not to feel this way.
Navy Gal, I wish you the best of luck and a safe journey. Don’t get knocked up before you see the world!
By Honey on Oct 1, 2008 in Sex | comments(17)
Last week we put out a call to all bloggers to talk about what their virginity was worth. Virginity is interesting because it’s one of those moments that’s a big deal until it happens, and then suddenly it’s no longer fascinating. Kind of like turning 21, which seems so important (and is a big deal for awhile), but then after the novelty wears wears off you are having some beer at home or ordering two of your favorite mixed drinks at a local bar instead of getting entirely plastered off of shooters that are only recommended to you because they have racy names (I can’t think of the last time I ordered a Red Headed Slut).
By Lance on Aug 6, 2008 in Dating | comments(15)
Okay, so let’s say you’re single and not quite ready for the hyper-competitive environments of the bar and club scene. There are plenty of alternative places you can go to practice your social skills and find dates.
Before I get to that list, I do want to say that the fastest way to increase your social skill is to hit the bars and clubs and mix it up there. Make as many approaches as you can and bank the experience. You’re going to get blown out, but suck it up because it’s part of the learning process. With that being said, I can totally understand if the club environment is intimidating and discourages you from making approaches. Continued