All Posts Tagged With: "insecurity"

Insight Into A Guy’s Mind

Last night I decided to create a surprise for Jake when he got home.  It was all inspired by these fancy cupcakes that were on sale at Fry’s.  I don’t eat sweets, but Jake loves them, so I got him a layered, frosted, cream-filled German chocolate piece of deliciousness.

Sunday, he’d taken some wild turbot fillets out of the freezer.  I am always leery when he does this, as he has a hectic schedule and doesn’t cook very often (and I am also sort of opposed to eating fish at home and don’t like that he even buys it).  But by Tuesday, it was clear: cook the fish tonight or it was going to go bad.

So I used a citrus rub that he’d bought recently, some olive oil, and some fresh lemons to create a marinade.  I broiled it for 5 minutes a side and then put it on a bed of quinoa flavored with shallots, garlic, and leeks as well as a “chicken” vegan bouillon, and served it with what is probably the last of this season’s fresh corn on the cob.
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Moving Closer: Anger, Recession, and Relationships

Well, we’re finally in our new place (phew!).  I have to say that while moving is unequivocally not fun, I think that this move has brought us closer in many ways, and I don’t just mean the fact that my commute went from an hour plus to about 10 or 15 minutes.  I mean the BF and I are closer, and this is a very good thing.

Despite the fact that he obviously adores me, I have had lurking insecurities about this relationship from the beginning – not because of anything he’s done or hasn’t done, but because that’s just the way I am.  Statistically, every single one of your relationships will fail except maybe one, and that is only if you are very lucky.  Plus, there’s no way you can know in advance if that’s “the one,” so while you may believe it at certain points, all too often you are later proven wrong (this has certainly happened to me before).  So even though everything has been going very well on the surface, it is extremely difficult for a Virgo like me to not keep waiting for the other shoe to drop.  You know, for him to really get to know me and decide that, well, he doesn’t like me so much after all. Continued

Why I Am A Flawed Human Being, pt. 1

As Lance and I (and practically every other dating site out there) are fond of saying, insecurity is the death knell for any type of relationship. Of course, insecurity has many manifestations, and many of them seem like the opposite of insecurity if you’re not paying attention. For whatever reason, it’s a cinch to to recognize in other people. It’s harder to recognize insecurity in yourself, not least of which because:

  • Who wants to admit something icky about themselves? Plus,
  • Admitting it means that you have to actually do something about it. Denial is a small price to pay for the bliss of inertia. Continued