By Honey on Jul 8, 2008 in Featured, Relationships | comments(11)
I recently received an e-mail from a fellow who saw my post on The Seduction Bible. He wanted some advice regarding his ex-girlfriend, who he’d been seeing for almost a year. Out of respect for his privacy I won’t reveal the details, but the relationship seemed pretty full of drama and, although they’re broken up now, they are still blurring that line between friends, friends-with-benefits, and romantic partners. The thing that struck me about his e-mail was that he said several times that he’s always “in it till the end,” and that if he feels there is even the smallest chance of saving a relationship then he will keep trying.
This, of course, raises the question: when is enough, enough? How do you know when it’s “the end”? How do you know when “the smallest chance” for saving a relationship has passed? Continued
By Honey on Jul 3, 2008 in Featured, Style | comments(12)
So last night the BF and I were watching this crazy tv show called Manswers (that’s how bad the summer tv drought is hitting our TiVo), and one of the segments was on what type of women are best in bed. First they polled a bunch of dudes and asked them whether they thought party girls, gymnasts, or smart girls would be best in bed. I was taken aback by the fact that there are, apparently, only 3 types of women (and one of those types is gymnast?!) but surprised and pleased that they at least edited the footage to suggest that there was a three day tie.
The expert sexologist stated that party girls and gymnasts aren’t nearly as good in bed as smart girls (though “college-educated” was their definition of smart and I’ve taught too many courses at the university level to buy that). Woo-hoo, Dateable Dork, Vix, and me are all phenomenal in bed! As if you all didn’t know that. I did think it was funny that the show didn’t mention whether the same was true for fellas (though the BF pointed out that such claims might alienate the majority of the Manswers demographic). Continued
By Honey on Jul 2, 2008 in Life | comments(8)
I try to live my life by the idea that happiness is a decision you make, not something you wait to happen to you. With that in mind, I’ve made all sorts of decisions that, apparently, are difficult for many people. Moving across the country to get a PhD in something I’d basically never heard of. Starting a relationship/sex blog. Most recently, quitting my job as a teaching assistant at the U and moving to another city to live with my boyfriend–without even having a job.
My best friend often says that my ability to pursue the path I think is right for me regardless of whether it’s easy or not is one of the qualities she admires the most about me. However, I have to admit that this move has been fucking tough. I could really relate when I read Holly Hoffman’s post on Introducing a New Person Into Your Life, but I couldn’t help but think–what about when you’re the new person? Because although we’ve been together over two years, I haven’t been trying to incorporate my man into an existing routine. I’ve completely changed everything about my life and have been trying to build a new routine–in some ways an easier thing, but in other ways much harder. Continued
By Honey on Jun 23, 2008 in Relationships | comments(14)
To add to the discussion about what’s great about monogamy versus some of the other systems out there, my interest was peaked when I came across this article called “Let’s Chat About Cheating.” Author Steve Penner not only references the Sex and the City movie and TV series (one of the most accurate commentaries on relationships EVER), he gives his perspective on AshleyMadison.com, a “dating” site for people who are…um, married, and interested in having an affair(s). In fact, one of their slogans is, “Life is short. Have an affair.”
(His life’ll be short all right, when his wife sees that collar…) Continued
By Honey on Jun 19, 2008 in Sex | comments(40)
So, with all the talk going around about open relationships and “growing with your partner,” I feel like I have to come to the defense of good old monogamous sex. I do admit that there’s something to the anticipation and sexual tension of a first time, and there’s obviously something to be said for variety. However, aside from the obvious benefits of not having to use a condom, I think that monogamous sex has the potential to be far more exciting and fulfilling than sex with a bunch of different partners. Here, Honey’s Top Five Benefits of Monogamous Sex. Continued
By Honey on Jun 15, 2008 in Style | comments(15)
Lance shot me this link from The Huffington Post, which attempts to explain why women are so much more likely than men to date people who are significantly less good-looking than they are (and sometimes, apparently, not good looking by any standard):
(I think he’s got a little stiffy, and why not?) Continued