By Honey on Jul 31, 2008 in Featured, Sex | comments(23)
In my life, I’ve noticed that my “favorite foods” are sort of temporary. There will be something that I absolutely crave and feel that I could eat at every meal (and almost do, for awhile) to the exclusion of almost anything else. I will be absolutely convinced that I could eat it every day for the rest of my life and never get sick of it. (Usually these items are from Trader Joe’s, for those of you lucky enough to have one in your town…yum…).
I have found that the BF and I also do this with our sex life (though I usually do get sick of the food at some point and never want to eat it again…that has never happened with sex!). We will find something that we haven’t done in awhile, or haven’t done before, and it will become the centerpiece of our sex life for a month or two before we become obsessed with something else and “retire” our obsession (though we still obviously bring it out to play every once in a while). Continued
By Honey on Jul 27, 2008 in Field Report | comments(12)
So this week the BF and I went to Prescott for 3.5 days (he had to go for work and since I start my new job tomorrow I figured this would be the last chance I’d have to get away…and Prescott is about 20-25 degrees cooler than Phoenix so it was a nice getaway). I had a great time! The BF was off working during business hours but I got to hang out with him at night (he was really glad I was there, I guess his work was pretty tedious during the day and he didn’t want to be alone at night), and during the day explore the town and do my own thing. Continued
By Honey on Jul 22, 2008 in Dating, Featured | comments(18)
When Lance asked me to cobble together a “typical” Match profile written by a dude, I have to say that it turned out to be a bit more difficult than I thought. Why? Well, here are a few typical profiles, lifted straight from the source in their entirety:
I like to have fun Im a layed back fellow that likes to be funny and funny people. I just want a NORMAL GENUIN person to hang out with and enjoy life on a low key level see some things and experience first times. (Horrible Grammer)
You also can’t spell or punctuate, fellow.
(In addition to not being able to spell, I have no friends, and thus must take my own photograph.) Continued
By Honey on Jul 17, 2008 in Life | comments(4)
Hey, everyone! Sorry I’ve been incommunicado for the last week or so. Life’s been crazy busy, as it all too often is. Here’s a little taste of what I’ve been up to.
Update on My Happiness
I’ve been doing a lot better as far as my personal independence since my Philosophy of Happiness post. I’ve gone out again with my sorority alum club and been to the gym almost every day. Also, in a recent conversation, the BF admitted that he’d been at fault, too. He’s really still in a lot of debt from grad school because his field doesn’t offer funding to grad students, and he also didn’t do a great job budgeting so there’s a credit card debt factor. As a result, he can’t afford to do a lot of the things he considers fun, and he admitted that he’s been taking out the frustration about the results of his poor financial planning on me. But I do have some news that is not only great for me, but which will also alleviate both our financial situations. Continued
By Honey on Jul 16, 2008 in Featured, Style | comments(11)
In this post on his blog, Evan Marc Katz asked his readers to rank themselves in four categories: Looks, Personality, Intelligence, and Career. Both Lance and I couldn’t resist commenting, and Lance also blogged an excellent reaction here. It is pretty evident from the comments to his blog as well as the original article on the Freakonomics bulletin here that most people have a tendency to seriously overestimate themselves. EMK hypothesizes,
The good news is that having a combination of self-esteem and self-delusion seems to be exactly what allows us to function. How would we feel if we didn’t believe we’re above average in every single way?
Although that is insightful and seems at least partially true, I also can’t help but feel that there must be a little more to it. In a comment on Lance’s blog about whether you can teach an old dog new tricks, I mention something that I always told my students:
People are inherently lazy. Therefore, to convince them to take action, you must convince them not that your position is morally superior, but that they have more to lose by doing nothing than they do by taking action.
The fabulous cheekie suggested that I write a post where I expand on that idea, so here we go. Continued
By Honey on Jul 8, 2008 in Featured, Relationships | comments(11)
I recently received an e-mail from a fellow who saw my post on The Seduction Bible. He wanted some advice regarding his ex-girlfriend, who he’d been seeing for almost a year. Out of respect for his privacy I won’t reveal the details, but the relationship seemed pretty full of drama and, although they’re broken up now, they are still blurring that line between friends, friends-with-benefits, and romantic partners. The thing that struck me about his e-mail was that he said several times that he’s always “in it till the end,” and that if he feels there is even the smallest chance of saving a relationship then he will keep trying.
This, of course, raises the question: when is enough, enough? How do you know when it’s “the end”? How do you know when “the smallest chance” for saving a relationship has passed? Continued