By Lance on May 16, 2009 in Featured, Relationships | comments(6)
Indianapolis, IN – Dave Bonner, an Indianapolis native, broke up with his ex-girlfriend on Sunday, ending the quasi-non-relationship they had been sort of but not really engaged in. Bonner and his ex-girlfriend, Connie Bishop, had been broken up for three months and dated for a year-and-half prior to that. Bonner said their non-relationship had threatened to grow into a full-on regular relationship at several points after the initial breakup but he had to finally end it.
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By Lance on Apr 23, 2009 in Dating | comments(14)
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After reading the latest from one of my favorite bloggers, the Dateable Dork, about her recent man trouble, I thought I’d fire off some of my own rejection stories for fun and amusement. Yes, even players get the Heisman. Which is totally okay. DD, I hope in some way this makes you feel better.
So, as I’ve mentioned recently, I broke up with my now-ex-girlfriend Megan about a month ago. That means Lance is single and available. I’ve gone on exactly three dates in the last month and I got next’ed after all three. Pretty shitty. I’ll be completely honest here…my game blows nuts right now and I’ve been lazy about developing prospects. This is all by choice and I’m totally fine with the fact that my dating life is mediocre at present. I’ll explain why at the end.
Without further ado, here is me getting shut down:
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By Lance on Sep 30, 2008 in Sex | comments(13)
I recently read an article arguing against friends with benefits, written by Simcha Whitehill at The Frisky. As everyone who reads H&L regularly knows, I’m pro FWB and pro fuck buddy, and I’m also con bad dating advice. Of course, her article is her opinion and if FWB’s don’t work for her, that’s cool too.

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By Lance on Jul 5, 2008 in Field Report, Sex | comments(8)
Okay, so recently I met this great chick while traveling for work. I picked her up, closed her, and generally had a great time for a couple of days. Remember how I talked about having a plan with every potential partner you date or meet? You should form a good idea if the person is LTR material, one nighter, fuck buddy, or nothing, in which case you need an exit strategy.
This girl I’m talking about is super cool and I want to maintain some kind of relationship with her, but a long distance relationship is out of the question. So I set up what I call a long distance fuck buddy (LDFB) arrangement. Basically, what it boils down to is that we’ll meet on party trips or in other cities to have adventures together. I’ve had a couple of friends pull this off successfully, and the idea really crystallized after reading Brad P’s ebook where he described several similar type arrangements he maintained.
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