Indianapolis, IN – Dave Bonner, an Indianapolis native, broke up with his ex-girlfriend on Sunday, ending the quasi-non-relationship they had been sort of but not really engaged in. Bonner and his ex-girlfriend, Connie Bishop, had been broken up for three months and dated for a year-and-half prior to that. Bonner said their non-relationship had threatened to grow into a full-on regular relationship at several points after the initial breakup but he had to finally end it.
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So it’s been approximately two months since I’ve broken up with Megan and we’re now in this weird zone where we’re not GF-BF, we’re not casually dating, and we’re still sleeping with each other. We’re also technically exclusive. The exclusivity mostly comes from me having suck-ass game right now, as I’ve been on several dates with other women and couldn’t get anything going. Megan has opted not to put herself on the market even though I told her it’s perfectly fine if she wants to do that.
There are pro’s and con’s with this situation and the jury is still out (for me) on whether it’s worth it. I set this situation up on the night of our breakup when I simply said that if she ever wanted to get together for drinks and a sleepover, I would be down with that. Megan was initially against the idea but was clearly intrigued by it. We proceeded to have ass kicking breakup sex that night. And we’ve hooked up many times since.
Below is a guest post from a friend I know IRL…sort of. We’re in the same program and have many of the same professional and research interests, although she started long enough after I began that we’ve rarely run into each other in person (we don’t even live in the same town!). We do, however, follow each other’s many blogs, pseudonymous and otherwise. If you like what you read here, check out Demeter’s House.
Forgive me readers, for I have sinned. It’s been four months since my last sexual encounter.
Four months–I know, I know. A terrible sin for a woman in her sexual prime. But it goes back to that tricky question Honey raised last week about when to reveal certain things.
Maybe part of my problem is that I’ve spent too much time over the years with my guy-pals, sitting in creaky wooden chairs at the neighborhood bar as we drank our beers and talked about girls. On those Guinness nights my guy-pals told me that they would never date a divorced woman. And they sure as hell wouldn’t date a divorced woman with children. My guy-pals, who admittedly function under overly-simplistic equations, saw it this way: single mom = needy, clingy woman. And my guy-pals ran from this most ominous breed of female.
When I was sitting around having those beer-induced talks with my guy-pals, I had no idea that I would become the divorced woman. With children. But wait, there’s more. The children happen to have pervasive developmental disabilities.
Running yet, boys?
After reading the latest from one of my favorite bloggers, the Dateable Dork, about her recent man trouble, I thought I’d fire off some of my own rejection stories for fun and amusement. Yes, even players get the Heisman. Which is totally okay. DD, I hope in some way this makes you feel better.
So, as I’ve mentioned recently, I broke up with my now-ex-girlfriend Megan about a month ago. That means Lance is single and available. I’ve gone on exactly three dates in the last month and I got next’ed after all three. Pretty shitty. I’ll be completely honest here…my game blows nuts right now and I’ve been lazy about developing prospects. This is all by choice and I’m totally fine with the fact that my dating life is mediocre at present. I’ll explain why at the end.
Without further ado, here is me getting shut down:
Yo, wanted to respond to Holly Hoffman’s excellent post, News Flash: Sex is a Distraction. She’s got a lot of great stuff in there and I suggest you pop over and read it. Here are some points I picked out:
- Holly pooh-poohed her old fuck buddy relationship.
- She got laid on New Years Eve via a bar pickup. No, it wasn’t me. It looked suspiciously like a two-day stand, which I have zero problem with–go Holly!
- Relationships and sex are distractions.
- Women spend too much time getting made up for dates.
- She suggests it’s okay for women to focus on their careers and not have sex even though it might be socially unacceptable.
I recently read an article arguing against friends with benefits, written by Simcha Whitehill at The Frisky. As everyone who reads H&L regularly knows, I’m pro FWB and pro fuck buddy, and I’m also con bad dating advice. Of course, her article is her opinion and if FWB’s don’t work for her, that’s cool too.