All Posts Tagged With: "frustrated"

Help! My BF Won’t Use a Condom!

Dear Honey,

OK, so I just read your latest post and felt so unbelievably frustrated. Being the relationship & sex guru that you are, I thought you might be able to help me with this.

I went off my birth control about a month and a half ago. I was on the high-estrogen stuff and I felt like it was making me nuts, depressed, etc. So I went off, but my gyno wouldn’t give me a new ‘script until I came in and I couldn’t come in until the Monday after next. So no birth control. Well, my boyfriend is like Mr. Super Sperm – the two times he’s had unprotected, non-birth control sex he sired kids. Yep, two illegitimate kids. Please, let’s not get into that part. Suffice it to say, I will *not* have unprotected, non-birth control sex. Rightly so. But if I even bring up condoms, he wilts. Literally. We’ve never successfully had condom-protected sex. It’s been a month since we’ve done it. I’m going nuts, and I honestly think it’s affecting our relationship, from my end of things. He’s fine with fooling around. I’m not. I need the good stuff, and it will be another 6 weeks before I get on the new birth control and am in the safe zone.

Help??

No Love Without a Glove, Massachusetts Continued

Work, Circadian Rhythms, and Sex Drive

I just finished my second week at a new job (though it won’t feel official until my first paycheck next Friday, when I can finally stop living off my savings).  My job is 25 freeway miles away from my house, so I have to get up pretty early in order to be there by eight.  This has had several ripple effects in my sleep pattern and my sex drive, and also gotten me thinking a lot more about the BF’s sleep pattern and his sex drive, and I’m starting to realize just how huge a deal these sorts of things can become. Continued