I try to live my life by the idea that happiness is a decision you make, not something you wait to happen to you. With that in mind, I’ve made all sorts of decisions that, apparently, are difficult for many people. Moving across the country to get a PhD in something I’d basically never heard of. Starting a relationship/sex blog. Most recently, quitting my job as a teaching assistant at the U and moving to another city to live with my boyfriend–without even having a job.
My best friend often says that my ability to pursue the path I think is right for me regardless of whether it’s easy or not is one of the qualities she admires the most about me. However, I have to admit that this move has been fucking tough. I could really relate when I read Holly Hoffman’s post on Introducing a New Person Into Your Life, but I couldn’t help but think–what about when you’re the new person? Because although we’ve been together over two years, I haven’t been trying to incorporate my man into an existing routine. I’ve completely changed everything about my life and have been trying to build a new routine–in some ways an easier thing, but in other ways much harder. Continued