Firstly, my simple model of evaluating a relationship is spot on. There are two components, Companionship and Sex, and I rate them on a scale of 1-10. For me, the sex has to be at least a 9 and the companionship a 6. If I have those two things at those levels I’m pretty much set. I don’t bother overthinking all the stuff that goes into a relationship (communication, commonalities, pets, religion, etc) because those are details and the details are malleable.
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So here’s a question I’ve been asking myself lately: Do we let our friends/family/loved ones fail because it’s good for them?
Here’s the specific situation that prompted me to ponder this. A close pal of mine is a part-time sports coach in addition to his regular day job. Well, this past summer he decided to take on a second part-time coaching gig, which means he’s now coaching in the early morning before work and then again in the evenings immediately after work. Continued
No, not me leaving the blog – the breakup when we were dating! :-) Since I soon won’t be posting anymore, I thought that I’d tell you all the story from my perspective (I’d be pretty interested to hear Lance’s as well).
Lance told the story of the original pickup here, and for the most part it’s pretty accurate. The only mitigating factors worth mentioning:
- I was bored stiff on the date I was on. He was a guy in my yoga class that I’d been friendly with for over a year, and I always thought he was pretty boring. Turns out I was right.
- I don’t remember what Lance said when he walked up either, but I do remember that both my date and I were low on drinks and Lance bought me another beer and, like he said, didn’t say anything to my date at all. I thought it was pretty studly
- When he contacted me in the next day or so, he said that he thought my date was totally lame and that I could do better. I agreed, and he asked me out. Nice! Continued
I picked up this mediocre looking chick at a bar recently (pic on the left is NOT her). I haven’t done bar pickups in months because I have a new girlfriend, but I was with my wing Lilly and we both needed the practice so there we were.
My opening line to the set: “You two look interesting.” Easy hook from there. I had a phone number and an invite to tour her facility (she works in an art space) within 15 minutes.
I have since met up with this chick, who I’ll call Anna, three times since the PU. The first time we had lunch and that was super duper boring. She talked a mile-a-minute and I couldn’t get a word in edge-wise, which combined with the setting meant I couldn’t generate any attraction. I dipped out of lunch quickly and figured I’d never see the chick again.
The second time I engineered a meetup that same night at a bar. She left her dinner party from across town and met me. We shot pool, danced a little, and had a pretty good time. Minimal talking. We made out at the bar and I took her to my house. We made out on my couch for about an hour. She was a lousy kisser. Because of this, I opted not to push for the lay and I sent her packing at 4:00 am. Plus, she talked too much.
Dating has been a complete adventure the last few weeks. At one point, I had dates lined up with four different chicks, four nights in a row. I declared my undying love at least once. Maybe twice. And now I think I have a girlfriend with a chick who’s unemployed and lives with her parents. I’ll explain.
Following up on Honey’s post about safety and my post about keeping it real, I wanted to lay out how I generally do first dates. Much of this involves strategies and tactics that I learned from studying pickup. Keep an open mind, especially if you’re a chick, because this will sound off-putting at first. I’ll draw some conclusions and give recommendations at the end. This post does not cover bar pickups, day game, or other quick seduction methods.