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All Posts Tagged With: "Dating"

I’ve Had Weird Dating Experiences Lately. But I Think I Have a Girlfriend.

Dating has been a complete adventure the last few weeks. At one point, I had dates lined up with four different chicks, four nights in a row. I declared my undying love at least once. Maybe twice. And now I think I have a girlfriend with a chick who’s unemployed and lives with her parents. I’ll explain.

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A Typical Date With Lance and Why Intimacy Matters on First Dates

Following up on Honey’s post about safety and my post about keeping it real, I wanted to lay out how I generally do first dates. Much of this involves strategies and tactics that I learned from studying pickup. Keep an open mind, especially if you’re a chick, because this will sound off-putting at first. I’ll draw some conclusions and give recommendations at the end. This post does not cover bar pickups, day game, or other quick seduction methods.

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How Safe is Too Safe? Or, Lance Blows Up Brazen Careerist

So, Lance blew up the comments in the “Ask Penelope Trunk!” chatter section – check it out on Brazen Careerist, and then sign up if you didn’t after reading his review of the updated site.

Similar to dadshouse’s entry on how a woman he met online didn’t want to meet up for a hike on a first date, Lance’s date refused to come over and let him cook dinner for her at his house.  Like DM, Lance is frustrated by the fact that women feel unsafe in their initial encounters, largely because it either leads to “sipping Bud Lights while we stare at each other across tabletops and play word games and play dress up” (Lance) or “coffee dates, those fact-finding information exchanges that modern singles embrace as necessities like college-bound kids taking the SAT” (DM).

Where do you, the readers, draw the line? Continued

One Super Important Thing I Learned From Dating Three Chicks At Once

As I mentioned in my post on three quick things I’ve learned on recent dates, I went through a stretch where I was dating three girls at once. That stretch lasted about 4 weeks and the process of maintaining three “girlfriends” was fun, interesting and revelatory.
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Interview with DJ Fuji, Lifestyle and Dating Coach

I had the good fortune of meeting DJ Fuji, a lifestyle and dating coach, at the recent 21 convention. You can read a few of my thoughts about the 21 convention here. Fuji’s presentation was excellent and, suffice it say, everything he said was useful for regular people in regular dating situations. I think Fuji is going to become one of the really compelling voices in social artistry in the not-too-distant future because of his grounded approach and focus on fundamentals. He agreed to hit us with an email interview. You can find his blog at The Tao of DJ Fuji. Enjoy!

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Is Your Love Style Blowing Your First Dates?

So recently I mentioned that I met a perfectly cool chick at a 4th of July party and also that I had a first date with her for the following weekend. The first date went 100% awesomely. I nailed every single one of my goals on the list, including the tipsy ass-grab and intense makeout session at the end of the night. It was lovely. Teri is a great gal and I’m super stoked about this one. I’m getting kind of a chub thinking about it.

Post-date, I did a lot of thinking about how first dates and the early-early stages of dating are so volatile. Continued