All Posts Tagged With: "advice"

Do We Let Our Friends Fail Because It’s Good For Them?

So here’s a question I’ve been asking myself lately: Do we let our friends/family/loved ones fail because it’s good for them?

Here’s the specific situation that prompted me to ponder this. A close pal of mine is a part-time sports coach in addition to his regular day job. Well, this past summer he decided to take on a second part-time coaching gig, which means he’s now coaching in the early morning before work and then again in the evenings immediately after work. Continued

How to Act Dumb (Or Smart) And Be More Attractive

There were some good comments on my post When I Act Dumb Chicks Want To Sleep With Me More, so I thought I’d write a followup and dive into how acting dumb makes you more attractive.

When I said I acted dumb what I  meant was I act tactically dumb, that is, I might purposefully act clueless, shallow, jackassey, or not have an opinion on something in order to generate attraction. At first blush this might be perceived as being dumb, but if you unpack it this is what you get:

* I’ll act clueless about a subject in order to draw out conversation or pump up her enthusiasm about something. Honey mentioned this tactic in her comment. An example might be acting clueless about a genre of music so that she’ll get fired up about explaining it to me, even though I know tons of stuff about that genre. Everyone I know does this, knowingly or unknowingly.

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7 Ways To Destroy Creepiness and Improve Your Life (Part 2)

In my previous post on creepiness I talked about why guys get creepy and also tried to dispel a few misconceptions on creepiness and pickup arts. I stated that studying pickup and practicing social skills has improved every area of my life, and I meant it. Now it’s time to share some strategies anyone can use to destroy creepiness and get more social.

So without further ado, 7 ways to destroy creepiness and improve your social life. Continued

Finding Our Center Again

My last post got so many comments that I thought it would be easier to address them in another post.  I want to say that I appreciate everyone’s concern and support – just don’t be offended that I’m not taking any of your advice.

Yes, the BF’s had a pretty shitty pattern of drinking lately.  Remember, last year his pattern was to not eat or drink, which is how he got his kidney stone.  Personally, I think that a kidney stone is a way worse health consequence than being hung over, and the fact that last week was almost one year to the day as the kidney stone just goes to show how specific his stress is to the summertime.  He hasn’t had any alcohol since, so we’re both monitoring the situation and going from there.

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New Car!

No, not for me, unfortunately – but fantastic news for the BF!  He bought a 2008 Dodge Avenger for $15,500 (almost $7K off the sticker price) this weekend.

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Why A New Car

Currently, the BF drives a 13-year-old Jeep Grand Cherokee.  There are several unfortunate things about the car, but the most important are: 1) it gets about 8 mpg on the highway, and 2) it has started experiencing mechanical failure because of its age…in addition to the fact that he’s had to get towed about 3 times in the last 6 months or so, the power locks on the front doors don’t work, nor does the retractable antennae, and thus, the radio. Continued

Social Artistry at Its Finest

So last week at work I sent out an e-mail blast to all of our graduate students advocating the dossier management service Interfolio.  Essentially, you can upload any documents you want (including confidential letters of recommendation that your recommenders upload to your account themselves via a secure link) and then when you apply to a position that wants a dossier, you can select via checkboxes which documents/letters you want sent, and Interfolio does it for you.  This is nice because you don’t have to print out everything yourself or worry about where the nearest post office is.

I highly recommend this service. Continued