Spanking for Beginners (Guest Post)

I’ve been exploring D/s this year and I’ve been fascinated by the spanking part. Like, why do people get into it and why is it such a turn on, especially for her? Like most vanilla peeps, there was a point where I thought spanking was lame, even ridiculous. Now I love it and so do my partners. To shed some insight on the subject, I asked excellent sex and kink blogger The Beautiful Kind to share her thoughts on the subject. Please check out her blog for more goodness (NSFW).

Also be sure to check back later this week when we have Eathan from kinking it up. Enjoy!

Years ago I had a girlfriend who wanted a riding crop for Christmas, and I thought, “Oh my!” I’ve been to more than one party that featured a flogger where I was just a voyeur, and it looked pretty intense. I wondered what people got out of spanking. I mean, I spent my whole childhood trying to avoid a spanking, why would I want one voluntarily as an adult? I finally decided to get some firsthand experience with the kinky pastime.

I told the guy I’ve been playing with I had submissive tendencies, so he suggested I bend over his knee. I’d been slapped on the ass during sex, but have never “assumed the position” like that. I balked for oh, about negative one second, then decided to give it a try. Oh my gosh it was hot! He spanked me and get me all hot and steamy and wet and then finger fucked me, then spanked me again. I liked feeling his hand leave my ass, which meant it was about to come back down. More than two spanks in a row was deliciously unbearable.

One time we were talking about it, and he said, “I don’t really understand the spanking thing – I mean, it’s fun, I don’t mind doing it, but I’m not sure what it’s all about.” I said, “Dude it was YOUR idea! I’ve been going along with it! … and I LIKE it.”

At first I just used the strong hand of a man, which is one of my favorite ways to get a spanking. I like for the butt to get all nice and glowy pink, not bruised. It’s fun to compare the rosy hot cheeks to the cool white flesh of the thigh. And all that evidence of butt whuppin’ fades after a little while with no problem.

I’ve since graduated to floggers and have even been paddled. THAT was intense. I don’t want to try caning, that’s too much for me. I did try being suspended upside down and beat black and blue once (NSFW) – I felt like I ran a marathon after that session. I was really proud of my body’s endurance and showed off my stormy bruises like a badge of courage.

So why do I like it? I like attention, and I like FEELING. It’s fun incorporating it into a roleplaying fantasy. You can make it playful, mean, scary, or frisky. I also like a challenge. I get riled up, and fear or anger will often get a woman wet. It’s exciting foreplay. Also, it may sting or hurt, but the afterglow of endorphins is quite a rush.

At first my partner didn’t get turned on spanking me, but that changed. As he kept seeing how much I got off on it, he got aroused in turn. He also gets to let off steam, it’s an intelligent outlet for aggression. Plus there’s the thrill of flirting with a taboo subject – a man isn’t supposed to hit a woman. We have to trust each other. It’s a very intimate experience to share.

I’ve even had an orgasm from being spanked – the steady rhythm and hot sensation put me into this sexually charged twilight zone. I was almost hypnotized, in another world, until I finally exploded. Sex is such an interesting combination of pain and pleasure. It’s fun to blur those lines.

PS: Check out this video. Doesn’t it look like such fun? (NSFW)


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  • Honey

    I enjoy being spanked, though I’ve never done it as part of a role-play. I just enjoy the sensation. I also enjoy having my nipples bitten for the same reason – intensity of sensation heightens your reaction to everything that’s going on, and even makes you more sensitive to lighter touches later.
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Spanking for Beginners (Guest Post) =-.

  • dadshouse

    I like slapping a girlfriend’s ass during sex, but I’ve never bent her over my knee. I don’t think I could bring myself to spank her. I do think light bondage and domination is fun, though. And you’re right, women love it. At least the one’s I’ve been with. They totally get off if I overpower them. Not in a way to hurt them, but just so they KNOW I’m in charge.
    .-= dadshouse´s last blog …He’s Not Worthy! You Deserve Better! =-.

  • kiera

    Spanking is wonderful. I find it’s 30% sound, 70% force. There’s no point in light swats by themselves. They need to be incorporated with harder, sting-ier hits for the contrast.

    My tip for the gents is to hit harder than you think. Start off softly to find the right spot and sound and if she loves it just keep amping it up. Don’t get too concerned about hurting us, that ruins the domination feeling. We can take what you can dish out… or maybe that’s just me. I’ve yet to be hit “too hard.”

  • Lance

    Sploing. I got a little chub just reading that.
    .-= Lance´s last blog …Spanking for Beginners (Guest Post) =-.

  • The Dateable Dork

    This is awesome! I just had a big conversation about spanking with a guy the other day. He totally didn’t get why I was into it, but when we actually tried it, I think he was excited about how much I loved it. For me, spanking is great because (a) I love when a guy takes charge during sex and roughs me up a little, and (b) it makes me feel like a naughty girl, kind of a throwback to my Catholic school days. And I totally agree with Kiera – I’ve never been hit “too hard,” even on the really hard ones. Spank away, guys!

  • David Black

    For even more fun, get one of those leather bound paddles, with a heart cut out of the middle. That is the perfect tool for the job, hehe.
    .-= David Black´s last blog …How To Get A Girl Off Your Mind =-.

  • The Beautiful Kind

    Thanks for featuring me. OH MAN every time I see that video still, I HAVE to watch it. Such infectious fun! So many fetishes captured in that vid! Furries, cheerleaders, spanking, matronly, teenage girl, BDSM, school, teacher…
    .-= The Beautiful Kind´s last blog …You Are The Beautiful Kind: AlwaysArousedGirl =-.

  • Matt Savage

    I’d have to say, I definitely enjoy spanking a girl’s ass every once in awhile, though I don’t think it’s the actual spanking part that gets me off, it’s more the reaction that the girls have to the spanking.

    There’s nothing like hearing that little whimper or gasp come from a girl’s mouth to get you feeling like a dominate alpha male.
    .-= Matt Savage´s last blog …Online Dating Profile Case Study =-.

  • Janak

    Yeah I guess I’m still in a place of thinking that being spanked is lame and ridiculous. I’m unconvinced that anyone not-crazy really enjoys it and isn’t just being like “oh la la, spanking is NAUGHTY *titter* *giggle*!”
    .-= Janak´s last blog …Pee dancer, my heart is yours… =-.

  • Honey

    I feel the same way about anal sex, Janak. It’s so dangerous, and so physically unpleasant for the woman, that it seems like people who say they enjoy it are really just trying to convince themselves that kinkiness is a virtue in and of itself instead of a totally irrelevant label that society puts on certain activities that are none of anyone’s business, anyway :-)

    I can see how D/s would enhance the physical pleasure for some people (similar to how many women say that being in love with the other person enhances the physical pleasure of sex). And I do think that in that context, D/s is totally normal, not kinky at all, but just another in the infinite number of ways to enjoy someone else’s company. But it just doesn’t sound interesting to me.
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Moving, Meetup, and Other Updates =-.

  • Lance

    I have a pretty strong opinion on butt sex, which is worth writing a whole post about. But suffice it to say now that I’m into it and it’s not the physical sensation that makes it hot/cool, it’s almost entirely the emotional and mental component that goes along with it.

  • Honey

    I’ll look forward to your post! I’ve never heard anyone say that before.
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Moving, Meetup, and Other Updates =-.

  • phone domination

    An excellent introduction read to spanking. I love striking a bare bottom. 😉