I’ve been exploring D/s this year and I’ve been fascinated by the spanking part. Like, why do people get into it and why is it such a turn on, especially for her? Like most vanilla peeps, there was a point where I thought spanking was lame, even ridiculous. Now I love it and so do my partners. To shed some insight on the subject, I asked excellent sex and kink blogger The Beautiful Kind to share her thoughts on the subject. Please check out her blog for more goodness (NSFW).
Also be sure to check back later this week when we have Eathan from idatewhite.com kinking it up. Enjoy!
Years ago I had a girlfriend who wanted a riding crop for Christmas, and I thought, “Oh my!” I’ve been to more than one party that featured a flogger where I was just a voyeur, and it looked pretty intense. I wondered what people got out of spanking. I mean, I spent my whole childhood trying to avoid a spanking, why would I want one voluntarily as an adult? I finally decided to get some firsthand experience with the kinky pastime.
I told the guy I’ve been playing with I had submissive tendencies, so he suggested I bend over his knee. I’d been slapped on the ass during sex, but have never “assumed the position” like that. I balked for oh, about negative one second, then decided to give it a try. Oh my gosh it was hot! He spanked me and get me all hot and steamy and wet and then finger fucked me, then spanked me again. I liked feeling his hand leave my ass, which meant it was about to come back down. More than two spanks in a row was deliciously unbearable.
One time we were talking about it, and he said, “I don’t really understand the spanking thing – I mean, it’s fun, I don’t mind doing it, but I’m not sure what it’s all about.” I said, “Dude it was YOUR idea! I’ve been going along with it! … and I LIKE it.”
At first I just used the strong hand of a man, which is one of my favorite ways to get a spanking. I like for the butt to get all nice and glowy pink, not bruised. It’s fun to compare the rosy hot cheeks to the cool white flesh of the thigh. And all that evidence of butt whuppin’ fades after a little while with no problem.
I’ve since graduated to floggers and have even been paddled. THAT was intense. I don’t want to try caning, that’s too much for me. I did try being suspended upside down and beat black and blue once (NSFW) – I felt like I ran a marathon after that session. I was really proud of my body’s endurance and showed off my stormy bruises like a badge of courage.
So why do I like it? I like attention, and I like FEELING. It’s fun incorporating it into a roleplaying fantasy. You can make it playful, mean, scary, or frisky. I also like a challenge. I get riled up, and fear or anger will often get a woman wet. It’s exciting foreplay. Also, it may sting or hurt, but the afterglow of endorphins is quite a rush.
At first my partner didn’t get turned on spanking me, but that changed. As he kept seeing how much I got off on it, he got aroused in turn. He also gets to let off steam, it’s an intelligent outlet for aggression. Plus there’s the thrill of flirting with a taboo subject – a man isn’t supposed to hit a woman. We have to trust each other. It’s a very intimate experience to share.
I’ve even had an orgasm from being spanked – the steady rhythm and hot sensation put me into this sexually charged twilight zone. I was almost hypnotized, in another world, until I finally exploded. Sex is such an interesting combination of pain and pleasure. It’s fun to blur those lines.
PS: Check out this video. Doesn’t it look like such fun? (NSFW)
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