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Sex: WTF is the Deep Spot??
By Lance on Jun 5, 2008 in Sex
Okay, I’ve been obsessing lately about sex (haha) and in particular female ejaculation and deep spot orgasms. Ever heard of them? Neither had I until a couple of months ago. I first heard about them from a video by Jason at the sargenation blog. Here’s the video I’m talking about where he discusses female ejaculation (don’t be put off by Jason caressing the beer bottle. There’s good value here):
I didn’t really investigate it at the time…maybe because I wasn’t getting laid, or maybe because I thought that stuff was urban legend. Anyway, I read this awesome ebook by Brad P., one of the top pickup artists in the world, and he talks about giving women squirting orgasms and stimulating the d-spot ALL THE TIME. I’m doing a full review of his book soon, but if you really want it you can purchase it here. It’s a great read, and the sex knowledge alone is worth the price of the book.
So anyway, I decided to up my bedroom game and figure out where the deep spot was. Basically, the d-spot is an area at the end of the vaginal canal (3-4′ deep), right before the cervix. Its ’smooth and firm and is stimulated typically with your fingers. It’s supposed to lead to amazing, full body orgasms, and it’s one solution for helping a woman achieve a vaginal orgasm if she hasn’t done so before. I haven’t quite figured it out (yet), but Jason breaks it down in an excellent video here.
Check here for an article by sex master David Shade (posted on Fastseduction) about the d-spot. Includes a complete description and a picture too!
What’s interesting is that most people haven’t heard of it, including women. I discussed this with Pixie Grrl on Sunday and she was clueless…and she’s 38!! I did attempt to find it with her, but no dice. Either my fingers aren’t long enough, or I was poking around the wrong area. I’ve also polled a couple of my female friends over the last few days and they’ve never heard of it either. Hey, could be something excellent to add to your sexual arsenal.
Anyone have any experience with this? Let us know.
I don’t *think* I’ve had personal experience with this, but it seems like the kind of thing where you would know if you did.
That said, check out the episode of Sex & the City where Samantha has a lesbian girlfriend who gives her a squirting O. If you ask your female friends about that episode, I’m sure they’ll realize they’ve heard about the deep spot.
Wait, vice versa. Samantha gives her girlfriend the squirting O. Whatever, check it out.
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I have experience with this. Or at least with my past partners. If done ‘correctly’ the woman will love it. It takes a some special talents on the man to give the simulation..but it also takes the woman to be able to relax. There is plenty of documentation/how to videos/articles on how to explore this option. Some can achieve this by using fingers and others can achieve this by penetration. Once you learn to do this ‘trick’ Lance.. women can’t get enough… SERIOUSLY…
Cool. My middle finger is exactly 3.5 inches long…is this long enough, or am I wriggling around in the wrong place??
@Honey: You should forward your BF this info and
“play” with it. Report back your findings.
Oh this is very good news for me now isn’t it?
hehe…
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The fact that 90% of the vagina’s nerve endings are in the outer 1/3 lead me to SERIOUSLY doubt that this is for real, though obviously I don’t know enough to say for sure. Never having had an orgasm without a vibrator, I’d certainly be interested if this were true.
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A ha!
Ok, so I have experienced this…(blush) … often…
just didn’t know there was an actual moniker for it…
So nope, not an urban legend…at least not for me. Although, not every woman experiences this, of which there is nothing NOTHING wrong. Just like everything else in life, some can some can’t. The best part is the playing around to find it…once you do, oh man. Holy hell….
My mom told me a story once about my grandmother. Her mom. She was a deeply religious woman, and when she had sex with her husband (my grandfather) this happened to her and she was so mortified and embarrassed that she hated sex from that day on. Which is such a sad, sad story. She even convinced all of her daughters that sex was bad and for men only.
Thank GOD I never had that impression put upon me
(and no, that’s not the same grandparents I have previously written about)
Thanks Lance..or should I call you Mr. Sex Ed
cheers!
I experience the deep spot orgasm as you call it more with a vib than with my partner. I think it’s because with the vib, a more sustained pressure is present, as I dont have to move it much to feel sensation (it IS vibrating). So i can keep it deep with minimum in out movement. While with a partner, he usually takes it out halfway then puts it back in, not much sustained pressure there.
Honey is right, the 1/3 outer part of the vagina is the ticklish spot, and orgasms arising from this region are always pleasurable, in that the woman anticipates it (”yess yess”). With the deep spot orgasm, a woman could panic if she feels it for the first time as the sensation translates first as pain (though it’s not EXACTLY painful… more of a weird sensation between pain and pleasure that doesn’t have a name yet).
If she bears with the feeling of perceived pain, however, and keep at it for a little longer, the resulting orgasm is more profound than the superficial type. Like you’re dying/swooning, but with no control and no idea how to stop it. I usually yell NO instead of YES with this one because that weird pain-pleasure feeling as orgasm approaches through Deep Spot sensitization could make any first timer panic (i know i did). It almost always resulted in a few tears, .. in fact, i call it “emotional orgasm” (EO). Or, “overwhelmed with love for you, sweetheart”…
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Yes, I have experienced this. I’m not sure its a “Spot” that is separate from the G-Spot but I certainly have and do squirt. It never happened to me until a couple years ago and now its a somewhat regular thing, both by my partner’s hand (I’m sure this is not possible alone) or during sex. I think it has to be the right stimulation combined with the woman knowing how to squeeze her PC muscles and relax at the same time plus the man figures out what stimulates it. The first few times it freaked me out but now its awesome and it drives my guy completely wild. Crazy stuff, its a gush and is definitely NOT pee, I have completely soaked the bed, couch, carseat… I also wonder if being well-hydrated and typically very wet makes a difference.
This link was on The Girl’s website a while ago, definitely I believe these researches - some women are NOT capable of vaginal orgasms because they may not in fact have a G-Spot. It explains a lot (Honey, read this. I’m interested in what you think):
http://www.guardian.co.uk/science/2008/feb/21/medicalresearch.sciencenews
Interesting article…although I am pretty damn sure clitoris size has nada to do with it either. That’s like saying only men with big balls can ejaculate.
We aren’t trick pony’s though…and yes, being well hydrated, before during and after, helps. As does a glass or two of wine. And being highly aroused/wet is probably just a good indicator that you are really horny, which therefore makes you more able. So get really horny girls. lol.
Also, you have to get passed that weird crampy feeling, cause that’s when it’s about to happen. It doesn’t hurt, but you aren’t quite sure wtf is going on. And using your muscles properly, practice a lot. it’s fun.
You apparently cannot physically urinate during sex, or high arousal, according to some articles I have read. So don’t worry about that. It definitely isn’t pee.
They do believe that it might be the female prostate. Who knows. As usual anything regarding female sexuality is only researched fully when it’s in context of how to improve a man’s. They really haven’t done much investigating.
Frankly they can research all they want to, I’m just going to enjoy….
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