Wow! Lance’s kinky sextacular has me all jealous. Though I haven’t been playing durty games in shady hotel rooms on the beach, things have gotten somewhat better since my last post. I’ve managed to sleep off the majority of my new-job exhaustion, and the BF has been really good about trying to get to bed at a reasonable hour even on the weekend. This Monday he even got up for work when I did, which has never happened before.
We’re still not having sex quite as much as I would like, but we are managing to get in some solid nooky in in the weekends (including more pool sex…that thing is like an aphrodisiac, I can’t believe that we haven’t been using it more in the last year we’ve been at this place). We managed to even work in a weekday last week, so I have high hopes that we’re on our way to getting a rhythm in place.
The fact that other couples have/have had this problem, too, has helped me relax immensely. I am in many ways a true Virgo and major changes in my routine are quite upsetting to me (though I am on the cusp of Leo and capable of real warmth and spontaneity, big adjustments that I know are permanent are very, very tough).
Birthday Update, Woot!
Speaking of Virgo, the fact that my birthday is approaching is awesome! This weekend! The BF actually just called me to ask if I had any preferences for a gift (he and I have like 3-page single spaced bulleted lists of gift ideas that are organized by category…yes, that’s the Virgo part of me for sure). It’s nice because we can get things that we know we like, and the lists are so long that there’s still no telling what the other person would get.
We are probably just going to do dinner someplace nice for the actual day…I’d considered having a party but totally slacked when I started this new job and before I knew it, it was too late to plan something (plus I don’t really have my *own* friends here yet, and while I like his friends, it’s not quite the same).
Other “Couple-Friendly” Activities
Since this is turning into a kind of potpourri of my life right now, I should also say that our latest “couple” activity that isn’t sex is cooking together. We’re both veggie (he switched about two and a half years ago, just before he met me, while I’ve been veggie for about 8 years) and own a ton of cookbooks, plus a vegan friend of mine runs a cooking blog. She not only lists the recipes, but how they turned out and how easy/difficult they are to cook, which is a nice screening tool.
This weekend we made the baked tofu for about the fifth time (see my guest post on dadshouse blog for the recipe…I know there are some tofu doubters out there and I actually usually don’t care for tofu dishes myself, but this is seriously one of the five most fucking delicious things I have ever put in my mouth) and also vegan won tons in our deep fryer.
We will definitely make the won tons again (and the Tofutti Better than Cream Cheese was surprisingly indistinguishable from “real” cream cheese…Better than Sour Cream is next on the list to try). They are actually one of the nicer foods to cook together as a couple since one package of won ton wrappers makes so many that one person stuffing them and one person deep frying them makes for a nice little assembly line that allows both people to talk while they work. However, I think we will make them when we have a bunch of people over, because the recipe makes a shit-ton of won tons and they aren’t nearly as good reheated. Unlike the baked tofu, which is fucking unbelievably mindblowingly fantastic hot or cold.
And that’s the news, folks. What is your favorite thing (outside of sex) to do with your significant other (when you have one, if you don’t currently)?