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Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009. You can contact Honey via email here or online here.

Sex & Work Updates

Wow!  Lance’s kinky sextacular has me all jealous.  Though I haven’t been playing durty games in shady hotel rooms on the beach, things have gotten somewhat better since my last post.  I’ve managed to sleep off the majority of my new-job exhaustion, and the BF has been really good about trying to get to bed at a reasonable hour even on the weekend.  This Monday he even got up for work when I did, which has never happened before.

Sex Update

We’re still not having sex quite as much as I would like, but we are managing to get in some solid nooky in in the weekends (including more pool sex…that thing is like an aphrodisiac, I can’t believe that we haven’t been using it more in the last year we’ve been at this place).  We managed to even work in a weekday last week, so I have high hopes that we’re on our way to getting a rhythm in place.

The fact that other couples have/have had this problem, too, has helped me relax immensely.  I am in many ways a true Virgo and major changes in my routine are quite upsetting to me (though I am on the cusp of Leo and capable of real warmth and spontaneity, big adjustments that I know are permanent are very, very tough).

Birthday Update, Woot!

Speaking of Virgo, the fact that my birthday is approaching is awesome!  This weekend!  The BF actually just called me to ask if I had any preferences for a gift (he and I have like 3-page single spaced bulleted lists of gift ideas that are organized by category…yes, that’s the Virgo part of me for sure).  It’s nice because we can get things that we know we like, and the lists are so long that there’s still no telling what the other person would get.

We are probably just going to do dinner someplace nice for the actual day…I’d considered having a party but totally slacked when I started this new job and before I knew it, it was too late to plan something (plus I don’t really have my *own* friends here yet, and while I like his friends, it’s not quite the same).

Other “Couple-Friendly” Activities

Since this is turning into a kind of potpourri of my life right now, I should also say that our latest “couple” activity that isn’t sex is cooking together.  We’re both veggie (he switched about two and a half years ago, just before he met me, while I’ve been veggie for about 8 years) and own a ton of cookbooks, plus a vegan friend of mine runs a cooking blog.  She not only lists the recipes, but how they turned out and how easy/difficult they are to cook, which is a nice screening tool.

This weekend we made the baked tofu for about the fifth time (see my guest post on dadshouse blog for the recipe…I know there are some tofu doubters out there and I actually usually don’t care for tofu dishes myself, but this is seriously one of the five most fucking delicious things I have ever put in my mouth) and also vegan won tons in our deep fryer.

We will definitely make the won tons again (and the Tofutti Better than Cream Cheese was surprisingly indistinguishable from “real” cream cheese…Better than Sour Cream is next on the list to try).  They are actually one of the nicer foods to cook together as a couple since one package of won ton wrappers makes so many that one person stuffing them and one person deep frying them makes for a nice little assembly line that allows both people to talk while they work.  However, I think we will make them when we have a bunch of people over, because the recipe makes a shit-ton of won tons and they aren’t nearly as good reheated.  Unlike the baked tofu, which is fucking unbelievably mindblowingly fantastic hot or cold.

And that’s the news, folks.  What is your favorite thing (outside of sex) to do with your significant other (when you have one, if you don’t currently)?

  • http://www.yankeeinnewworld.com NewWrldYankee

    Other than cooking, because you covered that already, I like to do home repair or any sort of project. Be it discussing notes for school or a paper or putting some thing together at home, or painting, I like it all. It makes something tedious exciting or at least more so. And there’s nothing like watching your man intellectually stimulated or getting his hands dirty.

  • http://20-forty.com/ lisaq

    Sounds like you’re getting there. Then again, as solid as the two of you are, there really was never any doubt!

    Anything that makes the mundane more exciting is good. Ummm…I guess that’s all I got! :D

    lisaqs last blog post..The Crazy (Ex)Girlfriend

  • http://www.worklovelife.com Holly Hoffman

    My BF is a Virgo, too, and definitely has the I-know-what-I-like food thing down, so that kills the fun cooking thing. One of our current favorite things to do (just to drive home how dorktacular we are) is the crossword puzzle. I bring it home from work everyday and when we get set up on the couch or snuggled up in bed, we attack it in true nerd fashion.

    Holly Hoffmans last blog post..Looking foolish along the way

  • http://honeyandlance.com/contact Lance

    You’re a nerd!!

    Seriously though, I’ve dated a couple of Virgos and they don’t get along with Gems AT ALL IN THE LEAST. Honey is a good exception though, because she has Leo leanings.

  • http://dadshouseblog.com dadshouse

    Happy Birthday, Honey! I’m a Leo, so I like your cusp.

    And I can’t let this line rest: one of the five most fucking delicious things I have ever put in my mouth

    Do share the other four! I sense a blog post coming. (And of course, since this is Honey and Lance, I have to guess what at least one of those five things is…. heh heh… )

    dadshouses last blog post..Men Suck

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    Well, DM, one of the others is goat cheese (chevre) for sure. I’ll have to do some thinking about the rest…some are non-food-related for sure…

    Honeys last blog post..Sex & Work Updates

  • http://thedateabledork.typepad.com The Dateable Dork

    dadshouse – Hahahaha! I’m glad I’m not the only one who’s mind is in the gutter. Honey, please do share with us. : )

    The Dateable Dorks last blog post..Excuse me, I’m on a date

  • http://thedateabledork.typepad.com The Dateable Dork

    Aside from cooking with my sweetie (whoever that may be at the time), I love to do something active/competitive with them. I am seriously competitive, and nothing turns me on like kicking someone’s butt in a friendly little game. Plus, all that running around really gets the juices flowing, and it’s a great precursor to fantastic sex. Now if only I could find someone to play around with… : )

    The Dateable Dorks last blog post..Excuse me, I’m on a date