Comments on: Say Yes! To Friends With Benefits

By: Infinity

Infinity — Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:00:38 +0000

I am still getting into understanding the dynamic of FWB. There are some things that I need to separate in my mind in order to distinguish that from a more serious relationship. But, to me, there aren't really any disadvantages to having a FWB relationship. It all depends, like you said, on the current situation in your life. If you notice, we tend to tailor everything to our current situation in life. Including relationships. Sometimes, it may change but before we even approach someone, we almost have a clear idea what kind of relationship we'd like to have. Infinity´s last blog post...Great News and Fun Times Ahead!

By: NewWrldYankee

NewWrldYankee — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 05:56:19 +0000

I think an FB is different from a random booty call, which is diff from a FWB. FWB is FRIENDS with benefits. So I agree, with you Lance - if you aren't hanging out before and doing other stuff together, then you aren't FWB, but maybe just FBs. I think all of these terms are mutually exclusive. Also, I am not sure I buy into the whole "every gorgeous woman has a FB" thing. Seriously?!! I think I'm pretty damn hot, and I don't have one, and many of my gorgeous friends don't either. Maybe it's the age range, or maybe it's this small community that stops us. At my uni,if you even go hang out with someone, everyone knows in seconds. 6 degrees of separation?! It's about 2 here. I remember when I was in my last LTR, I went to the movies with a friend of mine, and I had three ppl ask the next day, if I was dating a Filipino guy now. Ok, everyone at OSU did that, but maybe Europe, or maybe this small program is diff. Or maybe I'm just totally in the dark on this one. NewWrldYankee´s last blog post...Hoping This Doesn’t Happen in my Exam Today…

By: Stealing a Girl Away from Another Guy « Hammertime

Stealing a Girl Away from Another Guy « Hammertime — Thu, 02 Oct 2008 01:53:04 +0000

[...] is, every woman has someone. Most quality women are never totally single. As Lance pointed out in a recent post, even those who claim to be single have fuck buddies. But for the most part, when a woman starts [...]

By: SINgleGIRL

SINgleGIRL — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 23:07:33 +0000

First, I prefer the term fuckbuddy to fwb because, quite frankly, I don't hang out with my fb when we're not fooling around. Second, having a fb or two keeps me sane. I don't deal well with celibacy. I need sex to stay happy and well-balanced. FBs are what keep me from climbing the walls when I'm in between LTRs. And thank goodness for them. That reminds me, I owe someone an email... SINgleGIRL´s last blog post...Fun Ride

By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 12:43:46 +0000

That's cool, it doesn't work for a lot of people. Lance´s last blog post...Calling All Bloggers! Let’s Talk Virgins!

By: lisaq

lisaq — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 10:52:39 +0000

As you already Lance, FWB relationships just don't work for me or for many women I've talked to in my age group. Obviously, there are exceptions. I personally can't do them, but I have absolutely nothing against them. They just don't work for me. lisaq´s last blog post...Huh? A Cuckold Relationship?

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 04:01:45 +0000

This is a hot topic. I actually agree with every commenter so far. lol.

Single Mom Seeking makes a great point – that if you’re involved with a FWB/Lover/Booty Call Partner, you aren’t truly available for someone new.

Bobby Rio makes a great point – that gorgeous women have fuck buddies. Period. (Why not be her FWB?)

Eathan make a great point – sex is fun. It’s good. It’s necessary. Why not have a FWB?

Hammer makes a great point – if you have a FWB, you are more relaxed and less desperate on the dating scene.

My two cents: I think it’s easier for men to separate emotions from sex, so while I “get” what Single Mom Seeking is saying, I think for men a FWB is actually good, even if you’re looking for an LTR elsewhere. It keeps you loose and happy.

That said, if I meet a woman who rocks my world, I would drop my FWB in a heartbeat… at least until the world rocker and I broke up.

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By: Lance

Lance — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 04:01:24 +0000

SMS, when I have a FWB, I only have one, so I don’t do multiple buddies. I was making that assumption in my post. If a person has multiple buddies, then that’s a whole other ball of wax with a different set of rules.

If you have a FWB and you’re interested in finding your LTR mate, it could limit you, but only if you let it. You have to communicate and establish with your buddy that you’re ONLY doing a casual thing and that it could end at any time. I actually encourage my buddies to go on other dates, and if they find someone they want to go steady with, that’s totally cool, it just means our FWB situation ends. I would expect the same treatment.

If anyone here follows Vix the Over Educated Nympho, she had a lengthy thread where she had a fuck buddy relationship that she recently ended because she wanted to date a co-worker. She couldn’t go steady with the FB because they were incompatible in too many ways. I think she handled it well and it’s worth reading her blog just to get her perspective and her rules.

By: Hammer

Hammer — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 02:49:12 +0000

I would go as far as to say that FWB is absolutely necessary when searching for that LTR. It keeps you sane and non-needy. This prevents you from falling into an unhappy relationship. All high quality women do this by the way. I'm going to write a post sometime later this week about stealing a girl from another man, and the reason is because all women have someone always. But most of the time that someone is either an on and off fuck buddy or someone they're keeping around and using until they find a better situation. Hammer´s last blog post...DramaTel and SpoofCard

By: Eathan

Eathan — Wed, 01 Oct 2008 00:20:02 +0000

Those are a couple good reasons. I have kept FWB for other reasons also.

1. My physical need at the time.

2. I realized she doesn’t fit my dating profile (kids too young, too many kids, social misfits)

3. Great SEX, of course.

Of course my FWB has her own list and relationship agenda. But some how our basic needs seem to bring us together.

Some times you ride a motorcycle for fun… but driving a Mercedes offers so much luxury for all occasions.

I’m a believer of good sex doesn’t equate to being in love. Those are 2 different things. And we all know that you don’t haven’t to have 1 to get the other. The biggest problem arises when 1 person is more involved emotionally than the other. {as much as I hate to sound like a coined blogger }