Holy cow, have you seen this story? A woman, RoseMary Shell, was jilted a few days before her planned wedding to Wayne Gibbs in 2007. He dumped her by leaving a note in the bathroom and a check for $5000. She sued for “breach of promise.” She won and was awarded $150,000.
Her argument was that she was financially ruined by the dumping. She left a $81,000 HR job in Pensacola to be with Gibbs, and her resulting job after moving to Georgia only paid $30,000.
Gibbs argued that he had already given her significant sums of money during their courtship, including paying mortgage payments, paying off $30,000 of her debt, and a high priced engagement ring, which he didn’t get back. He claims that he broke off the engagement after learning that she had even more debt than he had previously known about. She eventually filed for bankruptcy.
Um, I’m not even sure where to begin. My initial reaction is that Shell is a gold digger and Gibbs got taken to the cleaners. Gibbs is a douchbag for dumping her via bathroom note, but something in my gut tells me she deserved it. (BTW, it’s no crime to be a douchbag.) She was dumb for not securing a higher paying job prior to moving to Georgia and also she didn’t properly consider the financial ramifications of the move. I also feel that he gave her WAY too much cash during their relationship. Only needy guys pay off the credit card debts of chicks. I don’t know jack about the legal aspects of the case, but it doesn’t make any sense to me that you can sue (and win) without a written contract. They were only engaged, not married. I’m sure this will be appealed.
Also, this is a great reason for not getting married, ever. Mixing finances and love is too volatile.
Would you ever pay off the debt of your beloved? Would you change to a shittier job and move states for a SO? If you’re a chick and you got jilted, would you give back the engagement ring?
Ugh, I need to look around my house and see if I can find my lost Hope for Humanity.