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Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009. You can contact Honey via email here or online here.

Revelations, Part 1: The Weekend

Things are finally settling down a little.  Things got a little worse with the BF and I at the very beginning of the month.  This was mostly because he hadn’t been able to take any time off (or even get home at a reasonable hour).  In fact, he had to drive to CA with a client for two days for some work that had to be done on-location. 

However, he got back at 3 a.m. Monday night/Tuesday morning and I sat up with him a bit…he was fortunately able to work from home the next day while I had to drag my sorry butt to work.  But after that, I could tell we were over some sort of invisible hump that has been in our way since the incident.

Then he got some unexpected validation for practically killing himself for his job.  I had mentioned previously that his office was  going to do layoffs, then they weren’t going to do layoffs…well, I guess they’re doing layoffs, and the first guy on the list is his best friend at work, Dick.  This guy has been at there longer than the BF, and if it weren’t for the fact that the BF has higher billable hours, who knows?

Despite this news, however, the BF did a wonderful thing: he took the weekend off.  In fact, on Friday he called me just as I was leaving work (which is right by a light rail stop) and asked me to come downtown and join him and Dick for drinks.  It turned out to be a complaining fest – which was fine with me since I sort of assumed that (given the recent state of things).  Plus, in addition to work gossip, Dick’s been told to shit-or-get-off-the-pot by his girlfriend of four years, who wants marriage and a baby in the next year or she’s out. 

So I graciously offered to probe Dick for the deets on he and his girlfriend be the DD for both of them (I’m on Weight Watchers anyway, so I didn’t want to have that much beer) while they complained.  Which they did, but I also want to say that the BF said what may be the best thing he’s ever said to me during the rounds of appetizers and drinks.  It’s central to the revelations of this past week, but will have to get a post of its own.  In any case, let’s just say it was a perfect start to the weekend.

Saturday was devoted to its own purpose: absolutely nothing.  I’d even run errands after work on Thursday so that the BF could stay home all day on Saturday – he hasn’t had a single day without going anywhere in over two months.  We watched Watchmen (which neither of us thought much of), he cooked me lunch, he took a nap while I watched four hours of So You Think You Can Dance, and then I joined him in his nap.  We woke up at 10:40 at night and sat in the living room drinking beer and talking.  We’ve actually been sitting together at least once a week lately, just talking or maybe playing a board game but not watching TV.  It’s nice to feel the reconnection happening.

Sunday we slept in, grabbed a quick lunch at Chipotle, and then went to Golfland/Sunsplash to ride the lazy river, do some of the fast tube slides, and play silly video games (I have found that I am not too bad at video games that are calibrated for a 6-year-old’s coordination level).  By the time we left we were starved (the selection not being too great for veggie folk at the hotdog stand!) so I suggested Chili’s.  They’ve changed their menu since we were there last, but everything was delicious, and then we went home to watch the World News with Charlie Gibson before going to bed early.  He even got up when I did today because we never picked my car up and it was still at work.

In short, it was heaven.  It was so nice just hang out with no demands on our time, loose plans that could be changed on a whim, and remember all the reasons that we love each other.  He’s already told me to make plans to go to The Landmark restaurant this weekend (which he’s wanted to take me to for years), and I get to pick a fancy restaurant to go out for my upcoming 30th birthday as well.  And then there’s what he said when out for drinks on Friday…

What’s your favorite weekend memory?  Share in the comments below, and then check out these fine posts:

  • http://20-forty.com/ lisaq

    So glad to hear things are going better for the two of you!
    .-= lisaq´s last blog …Sex Education Goes Online =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Please please please give your the BF a name. Between your the BF and Holly’s the BF, I can’t keep all these shadowy fellows straight!!
    .-= Lance´s last blog …Revelations, Part 1: The Weekend =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    Ugh. I’ve been trying to avoid this because I told him he could name himself.

    The BF’s name is Jake.
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Revelations, Part 1: The Weekend =-.

  • http://casualencounters.com/blog/ Janak

    Dick’s girlfriend sounds like a, well. A dick.
    .-= Janak´s last blog …Hookup.com review =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    I added a link to an old story about Dick (http://honeyandlance.com/what-if-you-dont-like-his-friend ). I’m amazed that he has stayed with her this long (explained a little more in that blog), although it’s not because she’s a jerk. She strikes me as a normal (maybe a little anal retentive) 29-year-old girl who wants to have children before her ovaries give out. While I do think that she should have had this conversation with him years ago, I also know that his stance on marriage and children hasn’t changed in the last 4 years…so she’s been lying to herself because she loves him. Which we’ve all done (or me, anyway).

    I’m also amazed at how much things can change in a year. The blog that I link to about Dick says the BF, Jake, and I are saving up to buy a house – we’ve since decided to be perma-renters. Also, I like Dick quite a bit more now than I used to. He loves beer and has *precisely* the same taste in books and TV as me, which helps.
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Revelations, Part 1: The Weekend =-.