I am divorced and currently live alone.I am not in a LTR, but certainly do date a bit and am blissfully satisfied w/ my life as it is at the moment.

I spend my “me time” mostly hanging with vastly diverse groups of friends, running, kayaking, horseback riding, gardening, practicing archery and reading.I also dabble in multitude of other hobbies that help me stay busy and happy.

I wake up happy every single day-because it is what I choose to do.I don’t need a significant other to be happy, but if one happens come along at some point he will only add to my joy for life, not become the pivotal point on which those positive feelings are dependant.

Awesome post.:)Thanks.

Movie nights sound great, too!

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Anyway, off topic. I moved to a new part of the country about a year ago and faced these same issues, except I didn’t have a SO to keep me company. I got a roommate and adopted her social circle, which was key. I even started dating one of the girls in her circle. I started hanging out with work friends a bit, played ultimate frisbee 2-3 times per week, worked out a lot, and joined Rotaract, which is like rotary for young professionals.

Of course, the thing that kept me really busy was going in-field and trying to pick up chicks all the time. That’s like a little part time job. Blogging helped too.

You might try taking a ’simple’ job in the meantime, like working at a cafe or something you would find fun and not stressful. When I first got sober (that’s when I was the new person… but in my whole LIFE), I took a part-time job at a cafe because I loved coffee and it was an excuse to sit around and talk to people all day. I actually only got paid in tips. That’s how desparate I was.

I totally hear you on the clingy thing. Being in my first adult relationship, the thing I’m coming up against is how I maintain who I am independently of him. I feel like a wet painting sometimes, afraid of getting smudged, or worse - that I’ll be willing to entirely paint over it. That’s my shit, though. And that’s what I’m working on. I think there’s probably a post in there somewhere…

Finally, gotta love the blogging! In the past 6 months since I’ve started the blog, I have met the coolest women. It’s unfortunate that we’re all over the country (and world, HAF!), because it would be so fun to hang out. In spite of that, it’s really awesome to (at the very least) know that we’re not alone and that other successful, intelligent (and sexy!) women have been there.

I’ll say this to you as much as to me, have some patience and be courageous! Do some daring shit, and maybe treat it like dating. Look up some Myspace or Facebook folk in your area and e-mail a bit, then meet up for coffee. Be honest. A girl once messaged me through Match.com with the subject line “I’m a chick on Match not looking to date you.” She just wanted to chat about our experiences. I thought that was cool.

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See, that’s the best part about having a kiddo, going to the kid flicks…

Hey Honey, I thought of something else too, volunteering. I am sure that there are some really interesting org’s down there. I do it occasionally and it’s just a great way to help, get out of the house, learn some new skills and network too!
Arts festivals are always looking!

cheers!

In regards to the movie “The happening” dammit that was the crapiest movie i have ever seen in my life. The ending really pissed me off … i was like is that it?? what have i been waiting for this whole time!!!!!

The only person that need to see it, is someone who wants more ideas in which to kill themselves.

Im def in agreeance with you in seeing “wanted” though, that looks HOT. “Hancock” looks fun too, don’t know whether it has already been released over there in the states =)

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Oh, and The Happening. Basically everything cool was in the preview. Unlike his usual stuff (which I find overplotted), this had a very simple plot. Unfortunately, it was kind of a) boring, and b) public service announcement for my taste. However, if you appreciate truly gratuitous violence, there are plenty of scenes that didn’t make it into the trailer, so it might be worth it for that. Me, I can skip watching people get run over by tractors.

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So, I decided to do some things for me, that I used to do before the job hunt became my life.
Like go for long walks to the beach. Go to the bookstore. Daytime things. Nighttime is easier, there’s always someone who wants to grab a drink or a movie, but it’s the day that’s killer!

Have fun, and thanks for the heads up on The Happening, I wanted to go see that..I trust your opinion…