Totally unexpectedly, I met and attracted a perfectly normal girl at a 4th of July backyard party over the weekend. You read that right, no drunken hookup, no bar makeup, no same-night-lay, and thank the maker NO Match.com chicks. I was beginning to wonder if it was even possible to meet a normal gal the “old fashioned” way, that is to say, via friends at a social event.
To make a long story short, I went to a friend’s house for a party where my primary social circle was in attendance. Almost immediately, I noticed a cute gal approximately my age who I had never seen before, which was unusual, because I was certain I knew all the friends of the people in my circle. It turns out she used to be a regular at this athletic club I belong to, had taken a job and moved an hour away, and only occasionally came back to town when our mutual friends invited her to a particularly large event, such as a party. Within 10′ I had homed in on her, opened and locked in for some solid introductory convo.
If anyone is interested, my opener was a literal introduction (“Hi, my name is Lance, what’s your name?”) and a handshake followed by asking her how she knew everyone at the party. Nothing exciting, but it was all that was needed.
Stats: Teri, age 29, athletic-slender, brunette, dorky engineer type who had discovered her inner sex kitten later in life, which combined with her innate dorkiness to create a really attractive and fun vibe. I guess this is what guys mean when they say they like nerdy girls. Likes Star Wars and Star Trek. Sarcastic sense of humor. Best feature is legs.
By the end of the party I had had several good conversations with her, played a couple of games of Cornhole where we partnered up, and I ended up giving her a shoulder and back massage while the party wound down and fireworks popped across the horizon. It was totally cool.
By the end of the weekend we were Facebook friends and firing off witty, teasing emails to each other. I’m cautious, but I think this one has a bit of potential. What’s a good sign is that our sense of humors are highly complimentary and she reacts to my teasing perfectly.
My reservation, which isn’t huge at the moment but could get big in the future, is that she lives an hour away. Not convienent, but certainly not a crushing blow. Question: would you date someone an hour away?
If things go well over email the next day or so, I’ll try to set up a meetup for drinks in her town. This is a solid lead and I’m kind of psyched about it.
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