A Perfectly Normal Girl At A Fourth Of July Party

Totally unexpectedly, I met and attracted a perfectly normal girl at a 4th of July backyard party over the weekend. You read that right, no drunken hookup, no bar makeup, no same-night-lay, and thank the maker NO Match.com chicks. I was beginning to wonder if it was even possible to meet a normal gal the “old fashioned” way, that is to say, via friends at a social event.

To make a long story short, I went to a friend’s house for a party where my primary social circle was in attendance. Almost immediately, I noticed a cute gal approximately my age who I had never seen before, which was unusual, because I was certain I knew all the friends of the people in my circle. It turns out she used to be a regular at this athletic club I belong to, had taken a job and moved an hour away, and only occasionally came back to town when our mutual friends invited her to a particularly large event, such as a party. Within 10′ I had homed in on her, opened and locked in for some solid introductory convo.

If anyone is interested, my opener was a literal introduction (“Hi, my name is Lance, what’s your name?”) and a handshake followed by asking her how she knew everyone at the party. Nothing exciting, but it was all that was needed.

Stats: Teri, age 29, athletic-slender, brunette, dorky engineer type who had discovered her inner sex kitten later in life, which combined with her innate dorkiness to create a really attractive and fun vibe. I guess this is what guys mean when they say they like nerdy girls. Likes Star Wars and Star Trek. Sarcastic sense of humor. Best feature is legs.

By the end of the party I had had several good conversations with her, played a couple of games of Cornhole where we partnered up, and I ended up giving her a shoulder and back massage while the party wound down and fireworks popped across the horizon. It was totally cool.

By the end of the weekend we were Facebook friends and firing off witty, teasing emails to each other. I’m cautious, but I think this one has a bit of potential. What’s a good sign is that our sense of humors are highly complimentary and she reacts to my teasing perfectly.

My reservation, which isn’t huge at the moment but could get big in the future, is that she lives an hour away. Not convienent, but certainly not a crushing blow. Question: would you date someone an hour away?

If things go well over email the next day or so, I’ll try to set up a meetup for drinks in her town. This is a solid lead and I’m kind of psyched about it.

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  • Hippylovechild

    Well, this is kind of how I met my boyfriend too. He was a player, and I rebuffed all his lines and we totally hit if off and have been together for over a year.

    BTW, I am also a petite, athletic brunette IT nerd…maybe that’s my hook? ;o)

  • http://hammer86blog.com Hammer

    Fuck no man, not in the burbs. Living an hour away by train in NYC isn’t that big a deal because it’s a 20 minute cabe ride or something, and you can just chill while the train does the work for you, but an hour away driving is a no no. That shit’s a Hasselhoff like Knight Rider.
    .-= Hammer´s last blog …Are You Your Dream Girl’s Dream Guy? =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Did we meet at a party on Saturday? 😉

  • http://www.chooseveg.com Steve

    Lance, congratulations. It *is* refreshing to meet someone the old fashioned way. So much BS just doesn’t happen.

    I’ve been forming my own stereotype of “match.com girls” so I would be interested to read you elaborate on what you consider to be such a person. In my experience it is usually a woman who is a workaholic or who focuses her life around traveling( not being interested in men who aren’t ready to take 3 trips a year ).

    I know how you feel about the distance thing. My ideal would be to have a GF close enough by to fit in impromptu weeknight dinners. However, have been on a lot of nowhere dates, quality women for me don’t come along everyday so I am a bit more open minded about distance.

    Weeknights are so busy and pass so fast, leaving Friday night, Saturday and Sunday to be with someone special.

    I commute an hour each way to work everyday and that is no big deal, so I think of it as
    “Would I drive an hour to be with this person?”.

    Some women yes, some women no.

    I think it is worth taking a risk.

    BTW, “29” is not “later in life”. Put that comment into the calendar of your email account to send you a note 15 years from now. You will understand and laugh.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    The BF moved TWO hours away less than a week after we met. A significant portion of the first two years we were together was spent that far apart. So yes. :-) And I know you’ve done it before, too! The question is, is THIS ONE worth it?
    .-= Honey´s last blog …A Perfectly Normal Girl At A Fourth Of July Party =-.

  • http://www.worklovelife.com Holly Hoffman

    When I lived in Orlando I dated a guy who lived in Tampa (an hour away). It worked fine with one of us scooting back & forth every weekend depending on who needed to stay in town.

    And I have to throw in my favorite “30 Rock” line: “I dig aggressive girls with a nerdy vibe.” So does Lance, apparently. 😉
    .-= Holly Hoffman´s last blog …Taking a Year To Be =-.

  • Me Thinks

    Oh yeah, that is the best way to meet people but obviously the pool is a lot smaller. I consider myself lucky to have met my man that way.

    1 hour is not so bad and in fact there are some side benes: personal freedom, paces the relationship, you get to know each other by talking and when you do get together the sex is better because you’ve been waiting for it.

    That said, I dated a guy that lived only :40 away and it was a pain in the ass. Then again, he was a needy tool and I just wanted to get laid…. Different if there is real LTR potential.

    And here’s to my nerdy athletic brunette sisters! We rock.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    Well, yes – he dated me, after all!
    .-= Honey´s last blog …A Perfectly Normal Girl At A Fourth Of July Party =-.

  • http://www.hotalphafemale.blogspot.com Hot Alpha Female

    Ur asking the question if you would date someone who lives an hour away?

    Know someone called Honey by any chance? *winks*

    Dude, I think if you like someone that much, one hour is neither here nor there.

    You don’t want someone who is “conveniently close” to you anyways.

    Hot Alpha Female
    .-= Hot Alpha Female´s last blog …I Really Like Him – Now What?! =-.

  • Hippylovechild

    Sorry, sweetie, I live a little more than an hour away 😉

  • http://www.cashbackrewardcreditcards.net/ Cash Back

    As others have said, if the girl is worthwhile, you can make a long distance relationship work. Really 1 hour isn’t all that far away. It does provide some benefits that ‘Me Thinks’ mentioned. Who knows, maybe circumstances will change over time. Is there any chance that either of you could move closer to the other if this works out?

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Steve, good question about the stereotype of match girls, I’ll try to answer in blog post. I definitely have an opinion on this.
    .-= Lance´s last blog …Summer Lovin’…or Not =-.

  • http://www.used-tire.net used tires

    If we hit it off real well, and I felt like there might be something special about it, I would date someone an hour away for sure!

    That’s pretty awesome though Lance, and you were giving her a massage at the party, wow, that’s gotta mean alot if you ask me! To be able to interact that close, etc.

    Till then,


  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Cool news, I’ve got a meetup set for this evening in her area. Should be a hoot!
    .-= Lance´s last blog …Summer Lovin’…or Not =-.

  • Mr_Right

    I’m dating someone who is a hour and 15 minutes away (2.5 hours during rush hour… damn you DC traffic).

    It’s definitely doable, expecially for the right girl. You just have to have her come up as much as you go down. Innuendo intended.

  • http://casualencounters.com/blog/ Janak

    I don’t mean to be rude, Lance, but it is important to spell- and grammar-check posts before publishing them. This one contains quite a few errors, which are distracting to the perhaps-meaningful percentage of your audience who care about such things.

    Also, what the hell is “Cornhole” when it’s a party game? The mental imagery it generates for me is terrifying.
    .-= Janak´s last blog …Mate1.com review =-.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Janak, thanks for heads up, I went back and made the corrections. I’m usually pretty good about that, but I seem to recall I was in a hurry while writing the post. Also, cornhole is a backyard game: http://www.cornhole-game.org/

    It’s fun!
    .-= Lance´s last blog …Obama and Sarkozy Staring At Hot Chick’s Ass =-.

  • Me Thinks

    Where I live, Cornhole is a big party game. I saw a shirt once “Cornhole… not as gay as it sounds!”


  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    I want that shirt RIGHT NOW.

  • Me Thinks

    Here it is:


    I’d say “I suck at Cornhole” but that sounds like something out of Penthouse Forum….