In reading Lance’s response to Goot, I was forced to ask myself an unpleasant question: why do so many ladies out there hate “players” so much? Because an emotion or reaction like hate (or detest/dislike/despise/disapprove of, if you think hate is too strong of a word) can only be inspired in someone who is threatened by whatever caused the emotion. Generally we don’t admit this, and say things like “I feel sorry for them because…” or talk about karmic retribution or whatever. But, pretty much, saying that we hate players means that a) we think they’re onto something, and b) we’re afraid that they’re going to gain the upper hand with us. So a hatred of players generally revolves around fearing loss of control.
Fear 1. Players Don’t Play The Game. When it comes to dating, most of us imagine pretty much the same things, in the same order. Women may want political and economic equality, but they certainly don’t want equality in relationships–they want the upper hand. After all, most of the traditional rules of dating were designed to give the woman the advantage. One of the appeals of “nice guys” is that their responses are predictable: I talk to you and you buy me a drink.
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on Mar 24, 2008 in Sex
We got back from San Francisco yesterday, and then I had barely enough time to unpack, repack, and drive back to Flagstaff (whew!). We managed to divide our vacation time fairly equally between my friends (I was there for a conference) and his friends (we were staying with someone he knows from his Master’s degree who lives in the city). We didn’t have time to do everything, but we did manage to do each other! Addendum to my travel advice from before: leave at least one entire afternoon free for a pub crawl. We try to do this in every city we visit–the pure freedom of having to take a cab anyway means no d-driver! Other addenda: Read the full article
on Mar 22, 2008 in The Weekly
March madness people! Even better than topless photos of Ashley Dupre. What’s that? She was underage when getting filmed by Girls Gone Wild in the buff? WTF?? See here.
Whoopsie. Looks like Joe Francis, founder of GGW, who just got out of jail, may be in more hot water.
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on Mar 21, 2008 in Dating
Ah, Happen Magazine. I love these people. Really mainstream dating advice that’s so watered down it’s useless or just plain inaccurate. See this article, “Are you dating a player?” The author, Dustin Goot, gives us the 5 signs of a player versus 5 signs of a nice guy. Here’s me taking him to task…
5 signs of a player
He’s bold. True, all players are bold. This is totally a good thing. I mean, who wants a shy guy? Beta. Shy equals wussy. Shy equals indecisive. Shy equals lousy in the sack. Nuff said.
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on Mar 19, 2008 in Sex
Thank the maker Honey is here to keep this a relatively clean outfit. I have totally descended into pop culture watching, Googling nudie pics of Ashley Dupre, and reading the New York Post.
More awesome hooker news. Apparently Dupre’s million dollar prospects may be drying up. That took all of what…24 hours? See this article in The Post. Girls Gone Wild offered $1M to pose nude, but quickly rescinded the offer when they realized they already had video of her getting nutty during spring break at age 18. This includes nudie and hot lesbo action. Best quote in the universe:
“I personally remember Ashley. She was really at her peak back then. I’m glad I got to her before Spitzer – she looked a lot better at 18.” [Joe Francis, founder of Girls Gone Wild]
In the end, the crew shot seven tapes of Dupre footage – who is now 22 – but had to send her home to North Carolina after they caught her drinking.
The Post, in their infinite glory, have posted TWO galleries of pictures, to include a quasi-striptease during a spring break party, her getting shitfaced and passing out at a club, and some old fashioned skirt lifting.
Sample photo after the jump…
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Though my days as a carefree (ha!) graduate student are nearing their end, it is officially “spring break” for Honey. And in that spirit, here’s a travel edition of my blog. Traveling with your SO has some fantastic benefits: shared experience and the inevitable inside jokes and stories that result bond you as a couple; you get to get the hell out of your been-there, done-that town and do something cool; when you’re out of the comfort zone that you live in, you’re more likely to get out of your comfort zone sexually. Of course, it’s an intense dose of your SO, and anything that annoys you about him or her is likely to be intensified as a result of so much undiluted time together–kind of like drinking lemon juice instead of lemonade. But, if you’re willing to put a little effort in, you can have an absolutely amazing time. Here you are: Honey’s Top Five Tips for Tantric Travel (okay, maybe not tantric, but the alliteration was just too much to resist…)
Tip #1: Don’t Forget the Pragmatics–A Mini Checklist
Okay, I hate to start out with the boring advice, but you’ll never really be able to enjoy your trip if you don’t feel absolutely confident that everything’s taken care of so that you can relax while you’re away. My BF’s ex got sick on every single trip they ever went on because she was so stressed about things going well.
- Pack Airborne, painkillers, Kaopectate, and Benadryl in addition to any prescription medications.
- Hire a petsitter or a housesitter. If you’re nervous about being away, most services will call or e-mail you daily to let you know everything’s all right.
- Arrange rides to and from the airport. Make sure your return flight doesn’t get you back so late that you have to rush off to work the next morning tired (thus ruining whatever relaxing effect the vacation had).
- Check the weather for your destination, and pack for inclement weather.
- Bring at least 150% of the money you think you will spend (twice as much is better, especially if you’re traveling abroad).
- If you can afford it (and depending on what time you will get in or fly out) consider reserving your hotel room for an extra day on either side of when you plan to be there. Then you can check in or out at your leisure rather than at the hotel’s convenience (I have yet to be able to afford to do this, but can’t wait for the day when I can!). Nothing’s worse than a redeye flight when you can’t check into your room until 2.
I know I’m being a little bit of a Virgo here, but you’ll feel much more free to relax, be spontaneous, and enjoy yourself if you know that everything that can be taken care of, is.
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