Relationships Boiled Down To Two Things

1. Sexual Compatibility

2. Companionship

Pretty simple, right?

My past two relationships, both of which lasted over a year, helped me crystallize what differentiates a good relationship from a bad one.

I’ll briefly describe my last two LTR’s and then put some structure to my relationship model.

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Great Tip: Sinn’s Relationship Ladder

One of my favorite Uber-PUAs, Jon Sinn, posted a great tip for creating sexual attraction and moving an interaction into a sexual territory. It’s a simple conversational ladder with a focus on establishing a faux-relationship with a date (or target) and it accomplishes two goals:

  1. Let’s her know that you’re hitting on her in fun way, without being creepy or awkward about it.
  2. Gets her to passively agree to participate in the seduction.

He demonstrates the convo ladder in a short video, which for some reason I can’t figure out how to embed on this page, and also links the PDF transcript. Since I can’t embed the video, here’s a picture of a hot chick instead:

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Happy Valentine’s Day from Recondo

I was going to put together my own top 5 tips for Valentine’s Day, but I simply couldn’t top this. Also, I think Valentine’s Day is uber lame and I try to ignore it completely, or break up with my girlfriend for the weekend, whatever is easiest.

#1: Shave your balls. It’ll make your junk look bigger, and it’ll let her know you took the time to risk your life just to do her.

Brilliant.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9OypNQ61ysE[/youtube]

Men Faking Orgasms, Why Porn Is A Good Thing, Pornstar Sex (NSFW)

My good pal and uber-dating coach Evan Marc Katz posted a link to this article in New York Magazine. The article, by Davy Rothbart, is called How Porn Is Affecting the Libido of the American Male. It’s a solid article and provokes thought. I encourage you to open another tab on your browser, read it, and then come back to this post for some Lance goodness. After you’re done, leave me some comment love. BTW, this post is NSFW, so don’t go past the jump if you’re squeamish when you see words like cumshot, masturbation, or pornstar sex.

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How Do You Deal With A Bratty Girlfriend?

Here’s a situation I came across that I wanted to share and get some opinions. Check it out:

My work friend Bill and I knocked off work on Friday and planned to hit happy hour. Bill had to check in with his girlfriend before going. He called her, had a long call and ended up getting into a fight, apparently because he asked about going out. He went out anyway. We had some drinks and yukked it up, then Bill and I went our separate ways.

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My Take On The Mathematics Of Beauty

Ok, let’s completely ignore the fact that I haven’t blogged since October 17th, a much longer hiatus than I ever intended. I’ll get to that later. I’ve had Lance writer’s block for the past couple of months so I figured the best way to bust out of it is to just fire off some content. I’ll do a recap on my life and crap later.

My pal Hammer pointed me to a thought provoking article on the OkTrends blog, called The Mathematics of Beauty, which I thought was pretty interesting. These guys analyze the wealth of data from OkCupid.com and usually come up with insightful and sometimes controversial conclusions. See what you think.

I don’t want to spoil the article if you intend to read it, but what they analyzed was the amount of messages women get based on their perceived attractiveness, ie cute vs. super hot vs. ugly etc, and they offer somewhat surprising conclusions and recommendations.

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