on Jul 23, 2008 in Sex
A fellow named Wizard wrote a comment on one of my fuck buddy posts here. I started to write a long winded comment, but decided to blog about it instead because I got really fired up. I’m risking losing a reader, but screw it, we don’t pull punches around this blog. Wizard, you’re going to get roughed up a bit, but suck it up big boy because you’ve got it coming.
Here’s what Wizard wrote:
Read the full article
When Lance asked me to cobble together a “typical” Match profile written by a dude, I have to say that it turned out to be a bit more difficult than I thought. Why? Well, here are a few typical profiles, lifted straight from the source in their entirety:
I like to have fun Im a layed back fellow that likes to be funny and funny people. I just want a NORMAL GENUIN person to hang out with and enjoy life on a low key level see some things and experience first times. (Horrible Grammer)
You also can’t spell or punctuate, fellow.
(In addition to not being able to spell, I have no friends, and thus must take my own photograph.) Read the full article
on Jul 21, 2008 in Dating
As you may or may not know, I do a fair amount of bitching about online dating, especially Match.com. Match has got it’s place and I know it’s great for a lot of people, but I kinda have a love-hate relationship with it. Maybe a little more on the hate side. I prefer to meet women in the field and in the last two years I’ve met far more quality women the old fashioned way than via online.
(OMG I love to laugh!)
Read the full article
on Jul 17, 2008 in Life
Hey, everyone! Sorry I’ve been incommunicado for the last week or so. Life’s been crazy busy, as it all too often is. Here’s a little taste of what I’ve been up to.
Update on My Happiness
I’ve been doing a lot better as far as my personal independence since my Philosophy of Happiness post. I’ve gone out again with my sorority alum club and been to the gym almost every day. Also, in a recent conversation, the BF admitted that he’d been at fault, too. He’s really still in a lot of debt from grad school because his field doesn’t offer funding to grad students, and he also didn’t do a great job budgeting so there’s a credit card debt factor. As a result, he can’t afford to do a lot of the things he considers fun, and he admitted that he’s been taking out the frustration about the results of his poor financial planning on me. But I do have some news that is not only great for me, but which will also alleviate both our financial situations. Read the full article
In this post on his blog, Evan Marc Katz asked his readers to rank themselves in four categories: Looks, Personality, Intelligence, and Career. Both Lance and I couldn’t resist commenting, and Lance also blogged an excellent reaction here. It is pretty evident from the comments to his blog as well as the original article on the Freakonomics bulletin here that most people have a tendency to seriously overestimate themselves. EMK hypothesizes,
The good news is that having a combination of self-esteem and self-delusion seems to be exactly what allows us to function. How would we feel if we didn’t believe we’re above average in every single way?
Although that is insightful and seems at least partially true, I also can’t help but feel that there must be a little more to it. In a comment on Lance’s blog about whether you can teach an old dog new tricks, I mention something that I always told my students:
People are inherently lazy. Therefore, to convince them to take action, you must convince them not that your position is morally superior, but that they have more to lose by doing nothing than they do by taking action.
The fabulous cheekie suggested that I write a post where I expand on that idea, so here we go. Read the full article
on Jul 16, 2008 in The Weekly
Again a bit late with the Weekly but it’s all good my peeps. I was sucking down tequila shots on Friday night and that basically shot me for the rest of the weekend. What else? I’ve been talking online with a nice MILF who is a video game geek, my LDFB is coming down to visit in August, and generally I’ve been enjoying my summer. What, you expected me to invent cold fusion over here?
Read the full article