My Game Sucks Ass Right Now and I Got Rejected 3 Times Because of It.

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After reading the latest from one of my favorite bloggers, the Dateable Dork, about her recent man trouble, I thought I’d fire off some of my own rejection stories for fun and amusement. Yes, even players get the Heisman. Which is totally okay. DD, I hope in some way this makes you feel better.

So, as I’ve mentioned recently, I broke up with my now-ex-girlfriend Megan about a month ago. That means Lance is single and available. I’ve gone on exactly three dates in the last month and I got next’ed after all three. Pretty shitty. I’ll be completely honest here…my game blows nuts right now and I’ve been lazy about developing prospects. This is all by choice and I’m totally fine with the fact that my dating life is mediocre at present. I’ll explain why at the end.

Without further ado, here is me getting shut down:

Rejected by Laurie the Homely Bi-Sexual Chick, Round 1: You know my game is in the shitter when I’m going after homely bi-sexual chicks. Laurie and I have known each other for years with mutual attraction, but there was always something going on, like pesky significant others. Well, we’re both single and I finally busted a move. My move was getting drunk with her at a party on St Paddy’s Day and going for a makeout close. We kissed for like 3 seconds and then she gave me the Heisman. Ouch! Pretty embarrassing.

Here’s why I got rejected…I found this out weeks later:

  1. She had started dating this super lame dude a week before St. Paddy’s and made the grave mistake of fucking him before finding out I was single. So, that was a complication.
  2. I also found out she had a crush on a female friend of ours and she was holding out hope of getting with her. When this didn’t work out, she stuck with her backup of sleeping with the super lame dude. I simply entered the picture too late.

LJBF’ed by Kacy the Hot Temp: Kacy temped at my office for four days. We non-verbally flirted the whole time and on the last day she opened me with a long IM conversation. There was monster interest and I figured this one was in the bag. Kacy was cute, nice bod, great rack, rich kid, well traveled, couple of years younger than me, bubbly-dorky personality. This big negative here was the fact that she was a Super Christian, which would make her less inclined to sleep with me on a first date.

Fast forward about two weeks. I ran some text game on a Friday evening and got her to drop what she was doing and meet me downtown for drinks. We met, drank, and bounced to 5 different bars. I ran standard Lance game. Conversation was good but I couldn’t get ANY response from her. In other words, I was flirting with her and she wasn’t flirting back. There was simply no vibe. I couldn’t figure it out but I believe one of two things happened:

  1. She developed another prospect in the intervening weeks and next’ed me before arriving.
  2. She thought I was a douche.

Got nothing at the end of the night. We haven’t spoken since. Hey, it happens. We’re Facebook friends and I’m keeping tabs on this one.

Reject by Laurie, Round 2: I took another shot at Laurie. I took her to the Flight of the Conchords concert (fucking awesome, go if they come to your town no matter what). It pains me to admit this, but I paid for her ticket. Like I said, my game is crap right now.

Anyway, to make a long story short, I did my thing and there was no return vibe. Zero. She simply gave me nothing. At the end of the night I went for the k-close and got Heisman’ed again. Ugh. After a bit of research, I found out she was sleeping with the super lame guy, which explains why she was holding back. So, basically, I was in the Friend Zone and I wasn’t getting out.

The good news here is Laurie is NOT good looking, like she looked like a confused bi-sexual chick, so the rejection saved me the grief of dating a busted chick. Yeah, I admit it; I tried to get with a busted chick. Sue me.

My Game Sucks Balls Right Now and Here’s Why It’s Okay

So this is the deal. I’ve been in a “work mode” for the last several months, trying to balance my day job, my part-time coaching job, and my freelance gigs. I have very little time to go out and almost zero energy and creativity to get dates. My coaching gig closes in a month, so I figure at that point I can pump more energy into chasing chicks.

Oh, yeah, there’s one more little detail. I’m still bonking Megan, even though we’re broken up. I established a fuck buddy relationship with her the same night we broke up (story for another time) that takes care of my sexual needs, so I’m even less inclined to go out and find dates. Which is fine, because I don’t have the time to date right now anyway. The cool thing is my sex life is way WAY better now that we’re broken up than it was when we were together. How does that work??

To conclude, my feeling is that getting rejected and blowing dates is completely fine. In fact, it’s kind of fun. Don’t take it personally and never think it’s because you suck. Your game might suck, but you’re still awesome, and the rejecter either has something else going on or just isn’t cool enough to hang out with you.

If this post made you want to chase after a homely chick and get the Heisman, you might like these posts:

  • http://www.vcarded.com The Virgin

    Ah, that’s why I like you Lance, raw, down-to-earth honesty about your ups and downs – not one of those guys trying to convince the blogosphere that they are master player (you can see right through them). Hope things pick up again for you soon, man.

    The Virgin´s last blog post…Gaudium in Veritate

  • http://simonandcole.com simon

    You are simply amazing with words. I’ve heard almost every word for having sex with someone. Bonking? That is just soaringly AWESOME

    simon´s last blog post…Handjobs by Cole

  • http://simonandcole.com Cole

    a girl friend of mine once told me that when you cast your net out to the whole sea, you’re bound to come up with some bad fish…but also some great ones! Keep up the good work buddy! Rejection just means your putting yourself in situations that could either end with an awesome experience/story for you and us, or a story that went terribly for you, but is still awesome for everyone else.

    Cole´s last blog post…Handjobs by Cole

  • http://casualencounters.com/blog/ Janak

    Man, I don’t even want to think too much about some of the disasters I’ve been involved in. Drink is the link, kids.

    Envious of the FotC concert experience, they’re one of my favorite acts. Did confused bisexual girl dig them?

    Janak´s last blog post…Alt.com – yours in Christ

  • Jonsi

    I like when you say, “your game may suck, but you are still awesome.” I’m a firm believer that even if your game sucks, as long as you are not a douche, you can still get into good relationships. The benefit of having good game, of course, is more friends, more sex, more confidence, more options, and more fun. So it’s never worth beating yourself up if you feel bad game gets you rejected, because (1) you can improve your game and (2) in all probability, she had something else going on such as just being dumped, dating some dude, etc. Guys with good game often know when to bail so those girls don’t even count as a rejection because they never let it get that far. No chick is worth turning your guns 180 degrees and firing upon yourself (though it is good to be self aware).

  • http://www.thedateabledork.com The Dateable Dork

    Hahaha – Lance, you are too funny! Yeah, I guess it does make me feel a little better that even stud-boy Lance gets rejected, but dude, getting rejected sucks! Sorry babe.

    P.S. – Why are you still fucking Megan??? Didn’t she drive you crazy? Wait… I shouldn’t talk… I almost fucked an uber-jerk the other day. Nevermind. : )

    P.P.S. – If you’re having some great, dirty sex, where are the details??? Don’t hold out on us!

    The Dateable Dork´s last blog post…I think I need help

  • http://www.used-tire.net Used Tires

    Well, sorry to hear you are off your game, although with the story about Kacy, I also use facebook to keep track of what’s going on with people, it’s actually quite handy too lol.

    Till then,

    Jean

  • http://www.idatewhite.com Eathan

    Shake it off. You’ve been goofing off during the off season. You need to get back to training camp and get ready for the season opener.

    A couple voluntary mini camps, preseason scrimmages and you’ll be back to normal.

    Eathan´s last blog post…Modern Single Momma Contest

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Handjobs by Cole? I’m gonna read that post immediately…

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Like the sport analogy. Pretty much I’m off my game, but who doesn’t need some down time? Just wait till the summer…

  • http://www.projectinfinity.me/blog URwingman

    Perfect words, Lance.

    URwingman´s last blog post…The Professional Wingman is Here!

  • http://singlemomseeking.com/blog/ Single Mom Seeking

    If you want us to feel sorry for you, it’s not working.

    I also wanted to know: Why are you still fucking Megan??? Didn’t she drive you crazy?

    Sounds like all of your needs are being met….

    Single Mom Seeking´s last blog post…First time home buyer?

  • http://engagement101mag.wordpress.com Tiffany @ Engagement 101

    Why the rush? Does being single suck that much?

    Tiffany @ Engagement 101´s last blog post…Would you attend an ex’s wedding?

  • http://dadshouseblog.com dadshouse

    I think exes make great fuck buddies! My lover for most of last year was an ex-gf. As for your game – it will come back. Great that you’re back out there.

    dadshouse´s last blog post…My Drunk Date

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