Jake and I always joke about the “gifts” love style because it seems funny to us…he does very much like to receive gifts, which I try to buy on a fairly consistent basis (for me, gifts are sort of an act of service in any case, so I am not too bad at giving them although I am far better at other things). He also likes to give gifts. When it comes to receiving actual physical gifts, it is very difficult for me to think of things that I would want, as I’ve said previously. But lately he’s found a way to sneak it in there.
We’ve been going out more recently – dinner, drinks, that sort of thing. Now usually he pays and then we’ll settle up later through our reckoning (he pays the
rent, I do the grocery shopping, and we each have about half the utilities in our names). Lately, though, he hadn’t been following up with me for those dinners and things.
The week of my birthday, he was a little short of cash and had asked about postponing some expense, I don’t remember exactly. Then I asked him whether he’d been financially okay to pay for all our our recent entertainment expenses. He said yes and that he’d actually been making a conscious effort to pay for more things because I do so many of the household chores.
I had no idea! He said that since he doesn’t have the time to help around the house and I end up doing pretty much everything he thought that he should be more conscious to repay me in another way, a strategy I mentioned in a recent post. I double-checked that he wasn’t going to drive himself into bankruptcy trying to be nice to me for doing the laundry, and he said to just sit back and enjoy the things that he enjoyed doing for me. Awesome.
But hey! Does that make me a prostitute?
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