Lance’s 2010 Focus: Don’t Be A Douche

It’s taken me a few days to get to this, but here it is. Instead of making a bunch of resolutions I’m going to try to give my year two foci. These are areas of personal development that I’m driving forward. I think this is a more strategic way to handle my projects for the year and it’ll be more productive than making a bunch of vague resolutions. I got this from Steve Pavlina’s 2010 Focus post…be sure to spend a few minutes checking out what he said.

I’m doing one regular resolution-type project right off the bat: I’m going vegetarian and no-alcohol for the month of January as part of a larger fitness plan. Basically, I want to get really jacked this winter and cleaning up my diet is a big key. I did the vegetarian thing for 1 month last year and had so-so results, so I thought I’d take another crack. Incidentally, I thought it was way easier to cut out booze than it was to cut out meat, mostly because when I dine out the options are much more limited. I also have this problem where I don’t grocery shop well and I don’t set enough time to plan and prepare meals, which makes eating creative vege dishes tough. So we’ll see how it guys.

My Two Areas of Personal Development for 2010

Besides that, I’m going to focus on two areas of development:

1. Develop and implement an Internet Marketing strategy for the purpose of  establishing passive revenue streams. I currently work for a startup so I want to add extra streams in case something happens to me or my company. Besides that, I want to start setting myself up for self-employment in the not-too-distant future. This will require a fair amount of education and a shitload of work on my part, but I’ve got the technical foundation to do it. Part of the process will simply be getting my hands on all the knowledge I can on the subject and then start doing stuff. By the end of the year I should have it down pretty good. Part of this strategy also includes marketing this blog better and getting it to pay for itself at the very least.

I dropped one of my part-time jobs recently (coaching) and I actually have a little more time per week than I did last year, which will go a long way towards getting this done. If anyone wants to help me become a successful Internet Marketer, feel free to email me at lance [at] honeyandlance [dot] com.

2. #2 is to move towards relationship mastery. Okay, it’s a little over-the-top to suggest that I (or anyone) can master relationships in a year, or any amount of time really, but I want to get much better at this than I currently am. I don’t have a specific goal of acquiring a girlfriend or dating X number of chicks, but I wouldn’t mind getting involved with a really rad chick this year. I had a couple of girlfriends in 2009 and those were mostly unsatisfactory…albeit highly educational. I can step this thing up and do better.

So that’s it. Those are high level goals, from which I’ll develop a strategy and map out how it’s gonna happen. I’ll be blogging about it, for sure. What are your goals and resolutions for 2010? Let’s hear it in comments.

If you’re ready to rock out with your cock out in 2010, you might also like these fine posts:

  • Honey

    I am assuming you’re still eating cheese? I am going to e-mail you some of my favorite, easy, and fast recipes (they might not each be all three, but will be one of the three:-)

    If you want to get really jacked, anything with seitan will be a good option for you. Find thee a Whole Foods, stat!
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Lance’s 2010 Focus: Don’t Be A Douche =-.

  • dadshouse

    Great goals! You could have cribbed these from my own journal. I too am looking to increase my passive revenue streams, and enter into a long term relationship. Mastery is key, I agree.
    .-= dadshouse´s last blog …Tequila Sunrise Recipe =-.

  • Kat Wilder

    Going veggie isn’t that hard if you are conscious of getting the proper nutrients. That will involve some understanding of what’s essential and how to get it. Which means, you need to do your homework first.

    As for relationship “mastery” — hmmm. If you’re being the best person you can be, then the right kind of woman should take note of that.

    My goal is to win the lottery. Why are you laughing? 😉
    .-= Kat Wilder´s last blog …The Madonna/whore, Marilyn/Jackie O dilemma =-.

  • Honey

    Kat, Lance’s biggest problem with relationships in the past has been that the moment he realizes that there are fundamental, irresolvable incompatibilities between him and the lady in question comes significantly AFTER the moment he is emotionally attached despite those issues, and LONG BEFORE the fact that he actually accepts the fact and ends the relationship.
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Natalie Portman Won’t Get Naked–BUMMER! =-.

  • beforewisdom
  • beforewisdom

    Short description of where to get the best vegetarian nutrition information:
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom

    Here is some inspiration for your dietary goals Lance. A plant based diet dramatically reduces pollution, including greenhouse gases. Even more so than giving up your car. Check out these short articles describing the environmental good things of a plant based diet:
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom

    Lance, I don’t think you can get more inspiration healthwise for reducing animal products in your diet than to read the book The China Study

    The China Study was started in the 1990s. It was run by one of the most prestigious scientists and was one of the largest epidemiological studies in history.

    In a nutshell, people in China tend to stay in one region and eat the same diet for most of their lives. The China Study showed that the people who ate the least meat enjoyed the best health. The China Study also had a team of international scientists analyzing the results and they found out why.

    Very fascinating read and written for a lay, popular audience.
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom

    Hey Lance, here is more inspiration for you. A person can do more for global warming by eating a plant based diet than driving a Prius:
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom

    The American Dietetic Association states that vegetarians have “lower rates of death from ischemic heart disease; … lower blood cholesterol levels, lower blood pressure, and lower rates of hypertension, type 2 diabetes, and prostate and colon cancer” and that vegetarians are less likely than meat-eaters to be obese.

    – Ann Mangels, Virginia Messina, and Vesanto Melina, “Position of the American Dietetic Association and Dietitians of Canada: Vegetarian Diets,” Journal of the American Dietetic Association, Jun. 2003, pp. 748-65.

    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom

    A short guide to the better vegetarian recipe sites on the web:
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom

    A free search engine that does nothing but search vegetarian recipe sites for particular recipes:
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom

    Lance, sorry for the veg spam, but I wanted to inspire you in your resolution.

    I went vegetarian when I was 14 years old. 30 years later I can see it was one of the best decisions of my life.

    I’ve avoided all sorts of common health problems. I often get mistaken for being much younger. I still get the attention of a number of 20 something women ( if I want it, I find the 30 – 40 something women more interesting ).

    I feel great and forward looking while many of my friends my age are dragging themselves throughout their day thinking of times past.

    Going vegetarian or vegan is one of the best things you do for how good you feel, how good you look, your health and the environment.
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom

    Comment by Kat Wilder
    2010-01-08 14:14:46

    Going veggie isn’t that hard if you are conscious of getting the proper nutrients.

    Hey Kat, I’m a regular reader of your blog ( Steve ). I really love it. Now I have another reason to like you aside from your sharp wit and your great writing :)
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • Hammer

    The China Study is incredibly misleading. Read about it here:

    Going vegetarian is pretty idiotic. Not only is it incredibly unhealthy for you, but it is also really bad for the environment as well, unless you somehow manage to get all of your nutrition while still cutting out wheat, legumes (including soy), corn and rice. There’s basically no good reason to go vegetarian and every reason to become a carnivore.
    .-= Hammer´s last blog …This Week in Game Column =-.

  • Hammer

    A diet containing legumes (soy), corn, wheat or rice is not only horrible for you, but also horrible for the environment. It’s not an accident that the “fertile cresent” used to be fertile. Farming is incredibly destructive to the environment.

    On the other hand, eating grass fed meats is completely sustainable and very good for you. It’s a shame that for someone who probably spends a lot of time thinking about this stuff and reading about it, you have the facts completely wrong.
    .-= Hammer´s last blog …This Week in Game Column =-.

  • beforewisdom

    “This announcement brought to you by the Atkins Corporation, The US Beef Council”
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • beforewisdom


    I’ve been a vegetarian for over 30 years. My health has been better than friends my own age. Starting 30 years ago I developed an interest in reading up on nutrition as a hobby. In the last few years I have also been regularly reading about the environmental consequences of different food choices.

    Most of the literature out there is the opposite of your opinions.

    As Carl Sagan used to say:

    Extraordinary claims require extraordinary proof
    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …Quit Milk, Survive Cancer =-.

  • Honey

    This is great, beforewisdom! I am thinking that I will spend 2010 expanding my vegan recipe base so that I can phase out animal products. If you’ve got any recommendations for a brand new Cuisinart owner, shoot me an e-mail :-)
    .-= Honey´s last blog …Watch the Hotel Chevalier Short Film NOW =-.

  • beforewisdom

    You can use that fancy new food processor to make the cilantro puree for this recipe:

    Cilantro Rice

    1 cup cooked – any non-sticky rice
    3/4 cup pureed cliantro/chopped fine

    1/4 chilli pepper/ jalapeno- pureed along with the cilantro or chopped fine.

    1 tsp – cumin
    2 cloves – garlic – chopped
    1/4 onion – chopped (okay to skip).

    1/2 cup – chopped vegetables of your choice. smaller pieces help.

    salt – to taste.

    Heat 1tsp of oil. Keep flame on medium.
    When oil has heated, add cumin. Let the color turn brown.

    Add chopped garlic and onions. Also add the chopped chilli pepper if not part of the puree.

    Stir to prevent burning or sticking. If things start to stick, either lower the heat some or add 1/2 tsp of oil.
    Add the vegetables. Let them cook a little (about 5 minutes).

    Add the cilantro puree + salt. Stir well and let the puree cook for about 5 minutes until you see it just start to bubble.

    Stir in the cooked rice. (Adding in batches makes mixing easier).
    Mix well.

    Turn off the heat when rice has been well mixed

    .-= beforewisdom´s last blog …” – but people have drank milk for centuries” =-.

  • Boxing Bags

    Great goals man – I will check back in 2011 and see how ya went! 😛