Dating has been a complete adventure the last few weeks. At one point, I had dates lined up with four different chicks, four nights in a row. I declared my undying love at least once. Maybe twice. And now I think I have a girlfriend with a chick who’s unemployed and lives with her parents. I’ll explain.
Here’s a recap of some of the dates. Remember Nancy? I made out with her a bunch and also declared my undying love for her at a recent outing. Well, we had a hell of a night together again, after that. I invited her to come over to my house to watch college football and drink wine. She came over and we ended up spending the entire evening together. It was so totally awesome. We drank FOUR BOTTLES of wine, danced to the music of The Gourds and Yael Naim in my living room. We smoked cigarettes on my patio and talked about life, love, music, religion, and everything in between. We made out for hours on several pieces of furniture. Then we spent the day together on Sunday, attending a food and wine festival. Nancy is, no question, my soulmate. I am tremendously connected to her and I adore her. She still has a boyfriend and that’s not going to change. Obviously, it’s very complicated. So we’re friends. But, what a night. Everyone should have nights like that.
Then I went on this date with a Match.com chick. This girl, Sarah, is two years older than me, recently graduated from Grad School, currently lives with her parents in a town thirty minutes away, and is unemployed. We met for drinks downtown. We bounced to three more bars and ended up dancing to crappy/awesome 80’s music at one of my favorite places. Sarah is really super shy and she didn’t flirt, so the date felt like a grind because I wasn’t getting any feedback. Remember how I talked about how important emotional spiking is on first dates? There was no emotional spiking. I mean, she wasn’t giving me anything until the very end.
At the last bar, I pulled her close and said look, I want you to come over here and flirt with me for awhile. I feel like I’m on an island. Then I took her hand and put it on my ass while Bon Jovi was playing. Then I gave her ass a squeeze. And she laughed at this, and the ice was broken. We made out at the end of the night, so I guess the date went okay, but I didn’t think we had a future because it was so much work. I was worried about the shyness. I am not by any stretch a shy guy and my rambunctious nature makes introverted girls nervous. Or maybe they dig it, it’s hard to tell when they’re shy because they’re scared to take emotional risks.
Then I went on the date with this super cool chick where we dressed each other in crazy clothes from Goodwill. That was so much fun, but it went nowhere because I could tell she wasn’t that attracted. I mean, we had an awesome intellectual connection, but she’s tall for a girl so I think she had a hangup about us being basically the same height or something. Chicks with that hangup are pretty dumb, IMO. Her loss. No makeout. I haven’t talked to her since.
Then I went on another date with Sarah, the super shy girl. We went to the local arthouse theater and saw a Coen Brothers film. We were really comfortable around each other. During the movie, we held hands. I have never held hands on a second date before. But it was great. I think she fell in love with me a little bit there. We kissed after the movie and I felt completely different about her than from our first time together. I thought she was cute. And she flirted with me a lot, so I really enjoyed myself and I was inspired to flirt back, which made it fun.
Then I went on a third date with Sarah, where I taught her how to do my sport that I do, then we had lunch, then we checked out a farmer’s market. And we held hands at the farmer’s market. Now we’re totally into each other, even though that first date was a pain in the neck. Where would we be if I had not made her grab my ass while listening to Bon Jovi? If I hadn’t taken that risk? Maybe nowhere?
She texted me after date #3. It said, “You make me happy.” Now I want to spend a lot of time with her and I might have a girlfriend soon and I feel great about this one.
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