Comments on: Is Sex a Distraction or Should We All Just Get Laid?

By: Thug~Lovin

Thug~Lovin — Thu, 25 Feb 2010 10:17:04 +0000

I go with Fifty Cents quote :Homie, you’re hustlin’ backwards if you’re chasin’ a bitch, chase the paper, they come with the shit!”

Not that you should be planning on using money to get chicks but you do need to get your life & finances right & women can get in the way of that. One of the biggest failures in peoples lives is choice of wrong spouse. If you’re unhappy with that prson it will flow into other areas of life.

Swearing off sex??? LOL that’s girl ridiculousness. Everything in moderation is fine, but when something consumes you it’s time to evaluate the situation.

Great post Lance, just thought I’d add my 2 cents =)
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By: Lance

Lance — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 19:36:10 +0000

Ellorie, you make some good points. You should ALWAYS choose self-respect, no matter what relationship you're in. Don't sacrifice that. My take is that a man (or woman) isn't always looking for a relationship, and in fact that we go through phases where we're simply not looking, interesting, or ready for an LTR. We're just in a single phase, and often times that's caused by a focus on career or job or whatever. So, if I'm fucking a chick and I don't want to have an LTR, I don't want to have an LTR with anyone and not just her. So the casual sex just works provided both parties as in that same phase. Also, yes, it's more socially acceptable for a guy to have sexual experience and not socially acceptable for a woman to "fuck like a man," but that social value is fluid. I personally value women with sexual experience because I know they're better in the sack and typically more open minded and interesting with everything else in their lives. Lance´s last blog post...Is Sex a Distraction or Should We All Just Get Laid?

By: Ellorie

Ellorie — Sat, 17 Jan 2009 18:25:50 +0000

I think FB would be ok if there still wasn’t a sexual double standard when women are actually ready for a LTR. I just read a study a couple of days ago that indicated 51% of men still prefer to date a woman who has less sexual experience than they do. Yes, even in 2009, women are penalized for fucking like a man.

The way I see it, the FB relationship primarily benefits men in the long run. Men are much more valued for how much sex they can get regardless of where it comes from. Women are the other hand, are more valued when they can get a man to commit. So for every FB relationship a woman is in, it’s basically the man saying — you are good enough to fuck, but you aren’t good enough for anything else. Deep down no woman wants to a man to regard her that way. I tried an FB thing and ultimately I just felt used so I had to end it. It’s not even that I wanted to be in a LTR with the guy, but I just knew that at some point, a woman that he did want to commit to was going to come along and that was just going to make me feel like dirt. So, I got out and decided for myself that if I wasn’t in a commit relationship, I prefer self respect over sex any day.

By: Not A Goody Goodie

Not A Goody Goodie — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 20:38:25 +0000

Dudes, I was getting fresh with my GF last night when she stopped to watch overtime of the Cavs-Bulls game. Bizarre role reversal. I had to decide between being pissed and amused. I chose amused. Not A Goody Goodie´s last blog post...Is Sex a Distraction or Should We All Just Get Laid?

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 19:17:26 +0000

Tax advice during sex? Um... okay. Whatever floats your boat! dadshouse´s last blog post...Discreet Affair

By: The Dateable Dork

The Dateable Dork — Fri, 16 Jan 2009 02:03:36 +0000

I heart fuck-buddies and agree with Lance and a lot of the commenters above. What's not to like? Free, awesome sex with someone you like but have no obligation to. Often my FBs are in the same situation as me - busy professionals who just want to get laid on a regular basis. One time a FB gave me awesome tax advice WHILE we were having sex! Dudes, it doesn't get much better than that. : ) The Dateable Dork´s last blog post...Bracing myself

By: single mom seeking

single mom seeking — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 21:59:46 +0000

If I hadn't known any better, I would have thought Holly had interviewed me for her post. Wow. Holly has described me word for word here (you go Holly!!) "On one hand, I can sleep with guys I’m not interested in, but not repeatedly. Eventually they do something that turns me off, and its done. On the other hand, if I go sleep with a guy I could be interested in, it’s just too tempting to turn it into something more. And that’s *precisely* what I don’t have time for." During this current hiatus from sex, I've made big strides in my career. Too bad I've spent all my extra cash on sex toys... single mom seeking´s last blog post...Is it okay to ask a man out on a second date? I need your advice.

By: Lance

Lance — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 12:39:40 +0000

That's pretty funny. IMO it's not about being noncommittal, as in I don't like my FB enough to do a LTR with them, it's more like I/we don't have time or resources to develop a healthy relationship so instead we're having fun and enjoying each other sexually. Ideally, you would have two FB's who are in similar busy situations, eg two career-focused professionals. Lance´s last blog post...Is Sex a Distraction or Should We All Just Get Laid?

By: JR Moreau

JR Moreau — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 04:53:59 +0000

I enjoy Holly's writing a lot, but I disagree with her on this. I wouldn't give up sex purposefully. Sometimes you have dryspells, but going into one on purpose doesn't make sense to me. JR Moreau´s last blog post...Generation Y's Student Loans

By: kiera

kiera — Thu, 15 Jan 2009 04:29:35 +0000

FBs are saving the world one noncommittal fuck at a time. kiera´s last blog post...R2 Wednesdays