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Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009. You can contact Honey via email here or online here.

I Gave My Boyfriend a Yeast Infection!

We’ve all been there, haven’t we ladies?  Itchy, discharge-y….that’s right, the yeast infection.  As most of you know, I recently had my wisdom teeth removed, and one of the zillions of prescriptions they put me on was antibiotics.  Now, I don’t like antibiotics for several reasons:

  1. They make me feel like crap (hello, it’s ultimately all about me),
  2. They don’t kill a lot of things and create SuperBugs,
  3. They tend to give me yeast infections (didn’t I just say it’s all about me?).

As I also mentioned in my wisdom teeth post, the fact that the BF and I weren’t supposed to be having sex of course meant that we were complete maniacs and did it like twice a day the whole time I was on antibiotics.  I was having minor yeast infection symptoms (soreness, dryness, some discharge) but just took a shower before we had sex, used Wet lubricant, and didn’t think too much of it.

The last time we had sex was a Monday night, and the BF mentioned to me that the week off that we had to take while I had my period was probably a good thing, because there was a red and tender spot on his penis.  Chalking it up to all the sex we’d been having, we moved on.

When I was back in commission, so to speak, we of course humped like little horny bunnies all weekend.  On Monday he mentioned that the red and tender spots on his penis were back, only slightly worse.  He showed me and suggested that it was an STD that one or the other of us had been carrying since we met (he tends a little toward paranoia and STDs are one of his big fears).  Pointing out that we had both been tested 3 months after becoming monogamous and the fact that I’ve had 2 additional complete workups in the 2.5 years since then, this was pretty unlikely.  Then, the way he described how it felt, BAM!  It hit me: yeast infection.

The total bummer of it all was that all the sex we had when I was back in commission also had me on the brink of a urinary tract infection (UTI).  Egad, the trouble…but here are some tips and tricks for you readers out there, in case one or the other of these things have happened to you:

Treatment of a Yeast Infection (Man or Woman)

There are loads of ways to treat/prevent a yeast infection, and most of them don’t even involve going to the doctor.  If you’ve never had a yeast infection before, it is recommended that you go to the doctor for a diagnosis – that way if it is something more serious you’re not futzing around with apple cider vinegar and yogurt.

  • Diflucan (fluconazole): pill, prescribed by a doctor (fast, easy, not messy, but requires actually finding time in your schedule and the doctor’s, which can be challenging).  This is wonderful; if you go to the doctor for your first one you can sometimes ask for a refillable prescription so you don’t have to keep going back once you know what to look for.
  • Direct application of Monistat or other yeast infection cream.  In the case of men, you would apply directly to the penis, perhaps adding a little apple cider vinegar (do not apply vinegar undiluted, as this will burn).  This option is messy.  For women they now have vaginal suppositories that are less messy, but no dice for the fellas.
  • Direct application of PLAIN yogurt (no added flavor or sugar).  I have used this numerous times myself and it is effective and much cheaper than Monistat, although also messy.
  • Adding 1 cup of apple cider vinegar to a hot bath.  I have not done this and think it would be kinda stinky, but not messy.  Important: regular vinegar will make a yeast infection worse.  Use apple cider vinegar.
  • Eating loads of garlic (bonus: no one will have sex with you until your breath stops stinking do you don’t have to worry about any awkward explanations).  You can also take garlic tablets orally.  I did read on a few sites that women can insert peeled cloves into their vaginas.  Yikes!  I have not tried this.
  • Drink at least 8 glasses of water a day (duh, breaking news…).
  • Buy probiotic supplements (acidophilus lactobacillus) since it is the dying off of good bacteria that make yeast start multiplying in the first place.  I have had these before and they taste really good, IMO.  I buy the liquid form rather than the pills, which don’t have as great of a concentration of live bacteria per dose.

If one or the other of you have a yeast infection, you should probably both do some kind of treatment and not have sex until you both feel you’re cured, otherwise you can keep passing it back and forth.

At-Home Treatment of a UTI

The first thing to note is that while UTIs are rarer in men, they are much more severe because the urethra is so much longer.  If you don’t catch a UTI in its early stages, you will almost always have to go to the doctor and get antibiotics.  If you do have to go the doctor route, then you should ask for diflucan at the same time and/or implement some of the at-home yeast infection remedies above because antibiotics cause yeast infections.

  • Drink cranberry juice.  Everyone knows this one, but the thing to realize is that you can’t buy that cranberry juice cocktail crap with added sugar that they sell at the regular grocery store.  Go to Trader Joe’s and buy Just Cranberry (or any health food store for 100% cranberry juice with NOTHING ELSE ADDED).  Beware that plain cranberry juice is bitter and you will probably have to dilute it.  This is fine, but you don’t want to add sugar (or vodka, however tempted you are…).  You can also buy cranberry tablets that provide the potency of the plain juice with no taste.
  • Dilute 1/2 teaspoon of baking soda in 8 oz. of water and drink this.  Apparently it makes your bladder a sad place for bacteria, which is happy news for you!  I recommend cold water since baking soda dilutes easily and hot water can bring out the salty taste.  This recipe is not recommended if you have high blood pressure because of the salt content.
  • Drink as much water as possible (no soda, milk, alcohol, etc.).  When I first started having sex I had like 6 bladder infections in a year, and I remember learning that about half the bacteria get flushed out each time you pee, but the bacteria double every 20 minutes.  I have NO IDEA if this is true or not, and the cranberry juice and baking soda can stop that rapid rate of growth, but your goal really should be to pee every 15 minutes or so and have it be a somewhat substantial flow.

I seem to have kicked my potential UTI in its tracks after one evening of the above, though you have to be diligent and also begin this regimen at the first sign of discomfort.

Final Thoughts

If you’re ever in doubt, see a doctor.  Don’t pass things back and forth.  And note to self: pick up Monistat on the way home from work…

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Seriously? Direct application of plain yogurt? That’s ridiculous. Great lists, though, probably the most practical thing I’ve read for common sex problems. I’m sending this one to a couple of the social news sites.

  • http://www.worklovelife.com Holly Hoffman

    I knew someone who used the direct application of yogurt also and they worked on her near chronic yeast infections. Don’t knock the home remedies – they can work.

    And since we’re oversharing…

    I get yeasties every freakin’ time I get on antibiotics and my gyno told me to just double-up on eating yogurt – and it works. And if I eat it pretty much every day, it prevents them altogether.

    As to UTIs, another lovely affliction of sexually active women, my sister gave me the best advice ever when I was 17: “Go to the bathroom within five minutes of finishing.” When I fail this, a UTI is damn-near inevitable.

    And let’s hear it for Diflucan, because Monistat feels like putting acid paste in my hoo-ha. 😛

    Holly Hoffman´s last blog post…How I Found Our Voices

  • http://www.idatewhite.com Eathan

    ummmm… I hate he’s paranoid… i’m sure he freaked..

    and these educational posts… they’re not any fun..haha

    Eathan´s last blog post…Online Dating Issues

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    I agree with you Holly (i.e., poo-poo, Lance!). Direct application of plain yogurt is by far the most effective method I have encountered of curing a yeast infection. Personally, I don’t like to eat yogurt which is why I have this problem.

    Yogurt contains the same bacteria as the probiotics that you can buy (although the probiotic dose is obviously larger) so eating lots of yogurt is a great way to prevent them.

    I hear ya with the Monistat. Nast-y….

    Honey´s last blog post…I Gave My Boyfriend a Yeast Infection!

  • Threads

    I heard that asparagus could treat UTIs since they raise the acidic level in one’s urine, I don’t know if this is true or not but I tried it recently since I felt it coming on. My pee stunk for days with the amount I ate, but every thing seems to be back to normal.

  • Threads

    Sorry, my comment was sort of poorly written. I didn’t look over it before I submitted it.

  • http://www.thedateabledork.com The Dateable Dork

    OMG, Honey, you have effectively scared the shit out of me! Well ok, not really, but I’ve never had a yeast infection, and now I REALLY don’t want to get one. At least now I have your handy tips. : )

    Of course, now that I’ve put this all in writing, I probably just jinxed myself into getting one… and the antibiotics have been abundant lately…

    Anyway, I hope you and the BF feel better soon. I imagine this situation sucks big time, so hang in there.

    The Dateable Dork´s last blog post…Please baby, don’t make me beg…

  • http://20-forty.com/ lisaq

    UGH! Sorry you both had to go through that. Both are completely miserable! Thanks for the good info. loLts of the home remedy stuff I didn’t know.

    lisaq´s last blog post…Still Need the Perfect Stocking Stuffer? Pure Romance Has Just What You Need to Spice Up Christmas!

  • http://www.debohobo.com/2008/12/17/help-me-find-my-muse/ Debo Hobo

    I feel for you……there is nothing on earth worse :(

    Debo Hobo´s last blog post…Guest Posting- I tried it and I liked it!

  • Yeasty

    How many nights should you use the direct application of plain yougurt? Should this be inserted with a tampon dipped in yougurt or inserted as a cream? Last question…I purchased some plain yougurt from walmart and on the back of the carton it says sugars 10g is this ok? It was the only plain yogurt in the store.

    P.S. I am on the last day of a 3 day monistat treatment and read somewhere that introducing the “good” bacteria after treatment is helpful to deter the overgrowth of the yeast after treatment.

  • http://www.candidayeasttreatment.net/ Erin

    thanks for sharing your experience yeast infections can be very embarrassing but they are so common these days aren’t they. I will definitely be back to read future posts.

  • http://getridofyeastinfection.us/ get rid of yeast infection

    As a happily married man I can say it happens to all of us. Our bodies are under siege from bad eating habits and a stressfull lifestyle that it is impossible to stay healthy without proper nutrition and necessary care. We owe it to ourselves to get informed and to act on it, thanks for the great advice..
    .-= get rid of yeast infection´s last blog …Yeast Test, Candida Test! Did You Pass? =-.

  • http://yeastinfectionshomeremedies.org yeast infections home remedies

    i have a question, my doctor gave me fluconazole. I took the one dose pill about this time yesterday and had thought I was feeling better, but mid day today the pain came back……and I also started having MORE discharge which was white……..could this be something else, or can I have pain like this with a yeast infection?

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    You should go back to your doctor. My guess would actually be that it wasn’t a yeast infection in the first place – flucanazole is awesome for treating yeast infections, and they’re not usually painful, just itchy.
    .-= Honey´s last blog …TBK Got Canned; Latest On The Beautiful Kind =-.

  • http://www.thebestcandidacures.com Matti

    Hey, great summary and Yup, the yogurt does work a treat! So does direct application of cider vinegar or colloidal silver.

    The two big things to remember when using any anti-fungal to cure your yeast infection are that you need to keep treating long after your symptoms have gone and that the yeast will build up a resistance to any anti-fungal that you use, so mix your remedies up a bit!

  • Jax

    Also, and FYI, your partner can keep giving you back the infection, he should also be treated, symptoms or not, the male can be a carrier. 😉

  • Nelly

    I’m having a bit of a scare at the moment.

    My boyfriend started complaining about a sore spot on the tip of his penis and went to his doc the next day. his doc said it was an infection and gave him Medaspor Tropical cream to apply 3 times a day. This was 2 days ago, and its only gotten worse. a couple Little lesions have appeared and this has us both very worried.We have both had complete blood tests in the past cpl months for any STDs, both showing up negative.

    Is this a yeast infection? his doc said he got it from me, saying that the friction during intercorse and common bacteria in the vagina cause these sort of infections.

    I feel terrible and extremely offended that i would cause my boyfriend so much discomfort and pain.This has never happened to either of us with past partners. I do get yeast infections when im on antibiotics, but havn’t had one in a very long time.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Honey

    It could be a yeast infection – the symptoms sound similar to when Jake had one. However, it could be herpes. Regular STD panels do not test for herpes – if there are sores the doctor can swab the sore and test for herpes, otherwise if there are no symptoms it is a separate blood test. If you are worried you should ask your doctor.

    If it’s just a common infection, then I wouldn’t feel too bad. I’ve been torn and sore from sex plenty of times and never held it against my partner. It’s just one of the consequences of rockin’ sex!
    .-= Honey´s last blog …I Nailed A Chick Other Than My Girlfriend =-.

  • http://getridofcandida.net Marty

    Nice site with helpful information. I have been researching how to get natural remedies for yeast infections. Finding good information about candida and yeast infections can be tough. I search all over the internet to find good content and good products.
    ps: I have some helpful articles on my site as well here: Yeast Infections Natural Remedies

  • Erika

    The stores sell this stuff called azo one for uti and one for yeast infections. Pretty cheap. The uti one makes your pee orange and smell funny. But it works. The yeast infection one you take three times a day and can take one pill every day after you done with your yeast infection to help prevent another one from reoccurring.who ever invented azo stuff was amazing it works…

  • Honey

    Azo for UTI’s relieves the symptoms, but does NOT cure the infection.

  • alexia

    i gave my boyfriend yeast infection but i didn’t knw that he would have catch it and now i don’t knw what to do

  • Honey

    He needs to go to the doctor, Alexia, there’s an over-the-counter pill he can take for it after they do a lab test to confirm it’s a yeast infection.