A commenter, V, found my post I Want A Tall, Handsome, Ambitious Man To Sweep Me Off My Feet Because I Love To Laugh! and had a major freakout about how chicks are shallow and weird about height, especially in online dating. Brother, I feel your pain. Here’s a taste of his comment:
“…WHO GIVES A FLYING FUCK ABOUT HEIGHT!!!! UGHHHHHH get the flying fuck over HEIGHT JUST FUCKING GET OVER IT PERIOD!!!!!!!!!! 5?8?, 5?9? 5?10? IS NOT FUCKING SHORT!!!! AND YES TO YOUR WOMEN’S POINT WE GENERALLY DON’T LIKE THE FUCKING FAT ASS WOMEN!!!”
Then Honey had a *really* strong reaction to V’s freakout:
“I am sick of reading about all these guys with enough inner rage over this issue to blow up a post office…”
Go read the post and then check out the comments. It’s pretty clear that height, or lack thereof, is a raw nerve for men and a huge sticking point for women. That’s right, I said it’s a sticking point for women, not the guy, and that’s what it is. Most chicks define themselves by their ability to attract men and on several levels it’s perceived (by the woman) that attracting taller men is better. Tallness is a prize, they make better mates, their children will be taller, it’s sexier, whatever. I won’t break that down further, but the notion is nothing you haven’t heard before. I think it’s great that Honey is attracted to a shorter guy, good for both of them.
I definitely have personal experience with this issue. I don’t consider myself short, but I am by no stretch tall either. I’m medium heighted. I don’t recall if I ever blogged about this, but the whole reason I got into pickup was because I got unceremoniously dumped by the hottest chick I ever dated after a single month. Why? She told me I wasn’t tall enough for her. In fact, she said she hated it when we went out and she towered over me in heels. Boom, just like that, I was out. After that little incident I resolved to NEVER lack choice or control in my dating life. I found the social arts, I read The Game, the rest is history. Now I date whatever I want.
Moving right along, if you’re a short dude and you’re getting blown off by tall chicks, here’s how you game them:
A. If you don’t want to learn social arts, you can substitute good game with the other things that attract chicks. This can be material things. Money is effective, although you really have to have a lot of it and be willing to spend it to overcome bad game and lack of height. There’s a lot of problems with attraction via money, namely that you’re still a beta douchebag and you’ll get dumped and used by chicks for your roll.
B. OR, you can substitute non-material things like intelligence, nice physique, wittiness, strong personality, ambition. Chicks really dig cool, smart guys, so you can overcome her height sticking point with coolness…which is really just saying have good game. I create attraction with good game, obvious good fitness, great personality, presenting well, and coolness. That combination works wonders for me and I regularly attract tall chicks. Basically, I put together a package that screams alpha and it overcomes her issues with height.
If you’re meeting a tall, hot chick for the first time, here’s how you play it
1. I establish my alpha-ness with excellent body language. This means good posture, nothing beta. Spread your legs slightly and aim your package out, either at her or just to the side. This establishes your comfort as a sexual being. Have your arms hanging with maybe a thumb latched to a back pocket. I have a nice chest so I puff my chest out a bit to show it off. NO crossed arms, hunched posture, hands in pockets, no twitchiness, nothing like that at all. Look her in the eye occasionally, smile a lot, and project yourself firmly, but don’t overdo it. Just be strong and cool.
Sometimes I’ll project such alpha BL that it will cause her to wilt into beta body language. She will actually hunch over and kind of give you deferential BL. It’s weird but I’ve had that happen a couple of times.
2. I always tease and bust her a little bit during initial convo. That demonstrates that you don’t give a fuck that she’s taller than you and she gets the same treatment as everyone else. Make it fun and don’t be a total dick.
3. You want to project that you could sleep with this chick and it hasn’t even crossed your mind that she’s taller than you.
4. Indicate that you think it’s cool that she’s taller than you.
I have an example here. I was cruising around downtown with my gf over the weekend. My gf is tall for a chick, slightly shorter than me, and when she rocks the 4-inch heels she definitely towers. So when we rolled around downtown I acted like a big pimp with a hot bitch on my arm and I let her know that I thought it was cool. Don’t even consider discouraging her to wear heels. You want to encourage it and act like it turns you on. I even went a little overboard and acted all grabby and superpimp, which she got a kick out of.
Lastly, I’ll say this. Everyone has something to overcome. If you’re tall, you might be a dumbass with bad game. If you’re rich, you could be a huge asshole. If you’re really smart, you might have pimples. If you’re really good looking, you might be a vacuous idiot. If you’re a chick, you might have problems with weight, be concerned about getting pregnant, have tiny boobs, or have a million other issues that pisses women off. Everyone has something to overcome, short or tall.
Lastly, remember this: Good game conquers all.
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