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Honey's main interests are online dating, long distance dating, and long term relationships. She met her boyfriend on MySpace and they have been exclusive since their first date over three years ago. Currently they live in Tempe, Arizona. Honey graduated with her PhD in Composition and Rhetoric in May 2009. You can contact Honey via email here or online here.

Honey: I’m Engaged!

Thought that since I’d shared so much of my journey with Jake with all of you, I’d share this as well!  Jake and I got engaged on Friday, March 18.  I kind of knew it was coming but I’d been wrong a few times before so I was trying not to get too excited.  But now I’m thrilled!

It started when he planned a trip to Rocky Point, Mexico for us.  We drove down on Wednesday (about a 4.5 hour drive) and came back on Sunday.  We stayed at a resort called the Sonoran Sun (picture after the jump):

Pretty fancy, no?

We were on the third floor, and the resort was right on the water.  In fact, here’s the view from our balcony:

The pool or the beach? So hard to decide, but the pool has a swim-up bar...

We didn’t bring our laptop and our cell phones’ roaming charges were insane, so we were completely unplugged the entire time.  Heaven!  I think I read 6 books while sitting in the sun.  Here’s where we spent most of our time on the trip:

Sunny and beautiful every day!

Friday, the day he proposed, was the best day of the trip (not only for the obvious reasons).  The weather was warm, there was no wind, and we spent the entire day on the beach (with a few side trips to the pool bar for daiquiris, pina coladas, and of course margaritas as well as fish tacos or quesidillas).  Mostly we read books or talked, although we did spend half an hour on a jet ski, which was quite exciting and fun.

There was an amazing restaurant five minutes by car from the resort.  We had a green salad with watermelon and goat cheese, and then I had shrimp stuffed with Oaxacan cheese, deep fried, and covered in raspberry chipotle sauce. Jake also had shrimp but his were coconut battered.  Mmm, delicious.  We stopped by a mini-mart on the way home, I thought to pick up an 8-pack of Tecate, but Jake nabbed the only bottle of champagne they had (it was like $80, which I know is far from as expensive as champagne can get but I thought was a strange purchase since an 8-pack of Tecata was like $4).  Then we went back to our room and had champagne on our balcony:

I was starting to get cold, but right before I suggested that we go inside, Jake proposed!  He got down on one knee right there on the balcony and said that he wanted me in his life forever.  Who could say no to that, especially against this backdrop?

The view from our balcony the night he proposed

I felt much warmer after that!  In fact, I’m glad we stayed out on the balcony a bit longer because less than 5 minutes after that, one of the other resorts along the beach had a small fireworks show.  Though I think the best part was that because we couldn’t afford to turn our phones on, I had the rest of Friday, all of Saturday, and most of Sunday to savor my newly-engaged status before I was even in the position to start calling people.  Oh, here’s the ring…

It's perfect! Exactly what I wanted.

So now it’s official.  We’ve set the date for May 12, 2012, which will be 6 years to the day since we met.  Looking forward to all the rest!

  • Andrew

    I’ve been following this blog for a while without commenting much. And I am very happy you have found someone to share your life with. Even though we don’t know each other and will probably never meet, (or perhaps we have :) I appreciate you sharing your life on this blog over the years and have nothing but good wishes for your future.

    May the best your todays be the worst of your tomorrows.

    Congratulations!

    -Andrew

  • http://lifesclassroom.blogspot.com T

    Awwwwwwwwwwww! Hooray Honey! So excited for you. Sounds like a perfect evening with the fireworks show to top it off!

    Congratulations to both of you!

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Honey, big congrats! I’m super happy that you found someone you connect so well with! Also, that Mexican vacay looks badass.

  • Honey

    Thanks! We had a bit of a wake-up call the other day to discover that an all-inclusive wedding package and reception for 50 would run us about $13K (and that doesn’t include rehearsal dinner, my dress, favors, or the honeymoon). Egad!

    I pretty much fall on the “let’s elope in Vegas, tell everyone afterwards, and if they don’t like it I don’t really care” side of the spectrum and Jake pretty much falls on the “all-inclusive wedding package for 50 followed by a two-week Caribbean cruise” side of the spectrum so we are in discussions to find a middle ground. Fortunately, given how far apart we are on the spectrum, there’s a lot of middle ground! ;-)

    A lot will hinge on whether he quits his job this summer and starts his own business, which he is considering. If that happens we will elope for sure (though we might still have a party or something after) because getting him on my health insurance is approximately ten million percent cheaper than COBRA.

  • http://honeyandlance.com Lance

    Didn’t you blog before that the average American wedding costs $25K? $13K is a bargain. Also, starting a bricks-and-mortar business is usually in 100s of thousands. My one pal who is in a similar industry as Jake chipped in 250K with his two other partners. I’m just saying.

  • Honey

    It’s a bargain until you realize Jake still has at least $25K in credit card debt, we each have $100K in student loan debt, and neither of our families is going to give us a penny for the wedding. We had a talk yesterday and are shooting for between $8-9K.

    Jake’s business wouldn’t be bricks and mortar. He would work out of his house and just have a website, meeting people at public locations if he has to. He knows several people operating that way who are making decent money. But it’s starting to sound like he wouldn’t quit until after the wedding. After everything we’ve been through regarding that job, it was a surprise to me when I said, I think we can have a fancy wedding OR you can quit your job (we can’t afford to do both) that he would immediately say the wedding was more important. But it seems to be…