Comments on: Getting Screened: How to Play the Game

By: Separating Her from Her Friends - Pickup Podcast - Pickup Podcast - Where Gurus Gather

Wed, 19 Nov 2008 23:09:45 +0000

[...] That is, once you have begun acting in a way that makes your target apparent (which you have to do eventually) you are dealing with a group of people that have “a vested interest in, and therefore a desire to protect, the other person–and who is more than willing to do that at your expense?” [...]

By: dadshouse

dadshouse — Wed, 21 May 2008 00:47:17 +0000

Honey - great post! I especially agree with the “ask lots of questions to get them talking about them” approach. Dale Carnegie would be proud. As for keeping up on TV, radio, books, etc. - does keeping up with HoneyAndLance.com count? (I say, YES!)

Lance - post-divorce, I met one girlfriend’s parents. They LOVED me. And I wasn’t nervous. I think I did a lot of Honey’s techniques. I also think it helped that I have kids, because I could connect with them as parents. Plus I’m older, so I’m pretty secure w.r.t who I am and what I’m about (and how to schmooze the ‘rents.)

A different post-divorce girlfriend met my parents, and my mom hated her, and that ended that relationship. I know Honey said that’s immature, but believe me, as a guy, you want your mom to like the woman you’re with.

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By: Lance

Lance — Tue, 20 May 2008 17:00:07 +0000

Great advice. This is an area of social artistry (at least the stuff I read) that is totally neglected. That is, socializing with a significant other’s family, which obviously is important if you’re in a LTR. All of your advice rings true and the you mentioned the right skillsets.

I have nothing but gut feeling and anecdotal support for this, but my impression is that there’s more pressure on a guy when he goes to meet the girl’s family as opposed to when I bring a girl home to mom. Mom is pretty much happy that I’m bringing home ANY girl, so she gets the royal treatment. I distinctly remember meeting the families of several ex-gfs and how much pressure I felt to impress. Does anyone have any thoughts on this?

By: Holly Hoffman

Holly Hoffman — Tue, 20 May 2008 14:00:14 +0000

Whether it’s pick-up, business or family members, I think what it really all comes down to is communication and thinking about what the target is thinking about.

When I mentioned to Date #4 that I thought he had some pretty good game he looked surprised, and as I listed the highlights, he smiled. He said he just considered that communicating.

It can never hurt to keep our communication skills at their peak. I think sometimes we forget how important it is, or we get lazy and just don’t put enough effort into it.

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By: lisaq

lisaq — Tue, 20 May 2008 11:38:23 +0000

One of the most intimidating family members I ever met was the ex husband’s then 12-old-niece! Despite that things were going well right up until her mom (his sister) asked if the girl had any questions she wanted to ask me. She said, “Yes. Are your eyes really blue or do you wear contacts?” I breathed a sigh of relief and then mom said, “Don’t you want to ask her what her intentions toward your uncle are?” Lord God! I’d have rather been in the precinct getting the Mirandas read to me at that moment!

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