Well, things are looking up since my last post.
Jake has decided he has too much on his plate to do a real job search at the moment, so he’s calling that off. However, given what went down with his supervisor recently, he has decided to go balls-to-the-wall in terms of his working conditions at his current place. He thinks that there is a good chance that his strategy will pay off, in which case he’d be perfectly happy continuing to be there (it is not the amount of work he does that he objects to, it is a variety of aspects of the environment). If it doesn’t work out and they fire him, then obviously he will have plenty of time to do a big search. Either outcome would be better than the status quo.
In related news, I found out that the tenure-track position that I interviewed for at my current institution was filled by someone else. Jake was shocked, but I kind of suspected that things were headed in that direction. No biggie – it would have been a significant raise and a more respected type of position, but I enjoy both the work I do now and the environment of my current department, plus they’re sending me to London this summer, so I don’t have a lot to complain about.
I did identify 3 jobs that I am interested in and qualifed for – one in Connecticut, one in NYC, and one in Boston. Since the northeast is basically the area we were most interested in, I’m going to apply for all 3 and see what happens. The job market is so glutted that I’m sure I’m a longshot for all of these positions, but Jake’s given me the go-ahead and it doesn’t hurt to apply and see. I’m definitely a better fit for any of these new prospects than I was for the position I applied for here.
Hot Sex and Date Night(s)
Jake is still stressed and has also been sick, but I’m happy to report that we’ve had hot sex on several occasions since I last posted, and he took me on a nice date on Saturday - to one of his favorite historic restaurants in town. Then on Sunday we saw Alice in Wonderland in an IMAX 3-D theater. It wasn’t as 3-Delicious as Avatar, but we both really enjoyed it.
This weekend we are going to Street Fair (my absolute favorite twice-yearly event!) and to an all-day BBQ put on by our favorite vegan restaurant to raise money for Haiti. Then next Tuesday is his birthday and I am taking him to the Outback and a movie using my credit card rewards. I have one present already and am hoping to find the rest at Street Fair.
We’re also contemplating visiting a swingers club and seeing if we think it is interesting. We’ve talked about this off and on for some time and it’s not something we’ve decided to do for sure, but Jake really enjoys watching other real people have sex (he loooved the live sex show we went to in Amsterdam) and this might be a way to incorporate that. We agree that neither of us wants to be with anyone else, and neither of us is comfortable seeing the other person with someone else (well, he would be okay seeing me with a lady but I am too straight to be interested in that), so this would be purely voyeuristic. I’ll update as we get closer to a decision.
Amusingly, Jake happened to read my last post (he has only been to the site 3 or 4 times, so this is rare) and all he had to say was, “when I’m playing PS3, I’m not doing it to ignore you. I just really love PS3.” No comment on the rest of it, which he felt was a fair and accurate portrayal of recent events! He has been wanting a PS3 forever and finally broke down and bought it because he was sick of putting everything off until his credit cards were paid off (which, since that won’t be until 2012, is understandable).
Then he got a huge tax return (almost $3K) and is buying a 65″ flatscreen HD-TV with stand, upconverted DVD player, and a new receiver/surround sound system (our current receiver has been on the fritz for 2 years). He can get both of these things and still put $1K in his savings account. He is contemplating getting a new laptop as well (his just died, completely, utterly, and totally, and my laptop is on the way out as well, it won’t read CDs/DVDs and the battery doesn’t charge). We recently got a netbook as a gift, so we’re waiting to see if that works out before doing anything laptop-y. The hard drive is plenty big, we’re just concerned because it seems like it might not be fast enough for our needs, and it also seems quirky about connecting to our home wireless network.
None of these things would be a big deal to me (though since he got the PS3 I have become addicted to Oblivion), but he has been obsessing about all of this pretty much since I have met him, so I think it’s going to make a big difference in his happiness, and he doesn’t have to charge any of it so that is good. I finally bought a bike and can’t wait for Jake to get his tuned up so we can ride together!
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