For me, the sex gets better and better the longer you’re with someone. Knowing what someone wants and likes, and using that as a baseline from which to experiment, is awesome! Being drunk is always okay, though The BF finds his senses are heightened if he “smokes” a little beforehand–I find it makes me fall asleep but am happy to let him have his fun!

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Drunken first date sex is second only to sober second date sex with a tantric twist. Oh, screw it. Drunken second date sex is the best!

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On my first date with the BF, we met at a bar. I suggested it (largely, or rather entirely, because it was within walking distance of my house).

He had been invited to a party later that night and was going to bounce there alone if things didn’t go well with me, but they did so he asked me to go with him, and I was subject to the “friend test.”

I continued to have a fabulous time with him and as the party wound down suggested that we bounce to my house, where we had fantastic drunken sex. That’s right people, I’m moving in next week with a guy I slept with on the first date. Anything’s possible.

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Ooooh, me and DH are in your head? That’s kind of hot. What are we doing? Are we naked??

Whoops…got sidetracked there for a sec. Yeah, when I structure my first dates I always start with something simple, like early drinks, and if it progresses well I’ll exercise one of several options, depending on the vibe of the interaction. Dinner would be option A. Back to my place for insane, rambunctious sex would be option B. Ice Cream would be option C. Etc etc. That way it doesn’t look or feel pre-planned. Note here, I always try to move the date to at least 3 different venues, but I NEVER give an itinerary past the first meeting place.

You should update us on future dates with this guy. I want to see what game he’s got.

p.s. to get extra points, you need to ask her if it’s okay for the dogs to have this present that you have brought along. (some dog owners are weird about treats/rawhides.)

Yes. Rawhide chewwies are the best! The BF and I use them anytime we want The Beast to leave us alone. Plus, gifties for pets…always a good thing in the eyes of a new girl…

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Holy crap, that’s a fantastic idea! Not only will the dogs be occupied, but I’ll look like a smooth mf’er. I like it!

I have two dogs…I lock them downstairs when I have a potential staying the night. (And I give them a long-lasting chewy to keep them busy!) I think next time you go over to her place, bring them each a raw hide as a “present.”

I’ve been trying to figure out when my radar went off, and now I have probably over analyzed it, but let me see if I can describe his ‘game’. First, the date was perfectly planned, and he arranged everything in advance (which I thought was great, very tired of coffee and lunch dates). Tickets to the Punchline comedy club, then drinks at his favorite wine bar. Here’s where the red flags went off. Busy bar, we valet, walk in, and his friend, the bartender, has saved him a table near the bar and brought appetizers and the first really expensive, really great wine before I put my purse down. Having just read one of your posts on taking your dates to someplace you know the owner, I immediately thought of you and decided I was being played. The rest of the evening was really great, but it just felt like everything was too intentional, like he had a plan. He guided the conversation from the usual stuff very subtly to a more sexual conversation, in a very light, fun way.

It was all fun, which is why I agreed to see him the next day, but it really wasn’t until the next day when it was clear that I was interested in him, but he wasn’t going to close the deal that I saw him let his guard down and just relax and be himself. And that’s when I really felt like I might want to actually get to know him, instead of just going along for a great time.

All that said, I’m a little disturbed that you and Dad’s House are in my head while I’m out on dates!

I love the whole game discussion that Lance brings to the table. It’s way more fascinating reading it here than watching that Mystery guy on VH1. That seemed fake with challenges for TV. This is real life. (Though if Lance gets a hidden camera and starts posting Youtube clips, I’ll watch!)

I want to hear Lance dissect Debra’s date’s game…

btw - dogs and cats are a nuisance when you’re trying to get some. Take her to your place next time.

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